Simon and Garfunkel- Bridge Over Troubled Waters (live 1969) ( Archived) (22)

2intrigued: Although sad, this song has brought me strength through some difficult times.....http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ijZRCIrTgQc

When the day is long and the night, the night is yours alone,
When you're sure you've had enough of this life, well hang on
Don't let yourself go, 'cause everybody cries and everybody hurts sometimes

Sometimes everything is wrong. Now it's time to sing along
When your day is night alone, (hold on, hold on)
If you feel like letting go, (hold on)
When you think you've had too much of this life, well hang on

'Cause everybody hurts. Take comfort in your friends
Everybody hurts. Don't throw your hand. Oh, no. Don't throw your hand
If you feel like you're alone, no, no, no, you are not alone

If you're on your own in this life, the days and nights are long,
When you think you've had too much of this life to hang on

Well, everybody hurts sometimes,
Everybody cries. And everybody hurts sometimes
And everybody hurts sometimes. So, hold on, hold on
Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on
Everybody hurts. You are not alone

2intrigued: Although sad, this song has brought me strength through some difficult times.....http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ijZRCIrTgQc

When the day is long and the night, the night is yours alone,
When you're sure you've had enough of this life, well hang on
Don't let yourself go, 'cause everybody cries and everybody hurts sometimes

Sometimes everything is wrong. Now it's time to sing along
When your day is night alone, (hold on, hold on)
If you feel like letting go, (hold on)
When you think you've had too much of this life, well hang on

'Cause everybody hurts. Take comfort in your friends
Everybody hurts. Don't throw your hand. Oh, no. Don't throw your hand
If you feel like you're alone, no, no, no, you are not alone

If you're on your own in this life, the days and nights are long,
When you think you've had too much of this life to hang on

Well, everybody hurts sometimes,
Everybody cries. And everybody hurts sometimes
And everybody hurts sometimes. So, hold on, hold on
Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on
Everybody hurts. You are not alone

jac379: Actually, I think that is normal.

It was three years before I stopped feeling like a murderess after assisting my first dog to die, even though rationally, I knew it was the right thing to do.

I think its normal to have a period of shock where you carry on almost "normally" before reality sinks in.

I think its normal to have a very high arousal/anxiety level for a long period of time after something like this and that helps you cope and keeps you active a busy.

At some point, though, its possible to push yourself too far and become just plain exhausted. This can include a breakdown/exhaustion of your limbic system which is the real physical illness that is depression.

Its then normal to go through a period of lethargy. You need to rest in order to recover. The housework can wait, you can't.

Anti-depressants support the limbic system enabling you to mend yourself, but they work best in conjunction with some kind of emotional support, such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, or bereavement therapy.

You've said you've had outbursts, which I've not witnessed. This is normal. Anger during the grieving process is normal.

You might not feel it at the moment, but you are in recovery. Its just that it takes an awful long time, especially when grief is complex, like yours, (the decisions you had to take complicate the grief).



Jac xxx

starshinebright: You are not alone, you did everything you could humanly do. Tonight, sit and write him a letter, tell him everything, then burn then letter and begin to live again...............

your friend.........

hopeeyefindyou: Thank you 2triniqued... You hit the nail right on the head with this song!!!

2intrigued: You're very welcome hun, it expresses it quite well when you're in that "zone". I know, been there and done that....not pleasant.
There is no set time frame for getting over grief...it varies with each individual. Time does heal and it's important for you to reach out to friends...be with friends.