I have an ex that wants to be friends after a 8 year relationship. It has been a very rough road, and presently we are ignoring each other. I think it depends on the person. I committ way to much of myself and then when thinks fall apart, I'm way to hurt to even see them. It makes me wonder if the person whom wants to be friends after a relationship wasn't as committed to the relationship?
Yes it's possible. I've managed to stay friends with my ex after almost 8 years together, plus it wasn't the greatest of break ups either. I guess we realised that we'd done enough fighting when we were together so why carry on afterwards.
englisheleganceBirmingham, West Midlands, England UK3,025 posts
spnglish: Hi everyone,
Is it possible to be just a friend with an ex? Does it matter if the breakup was good or bad, does that factor in somehow?
No,.. in my opinion the past is best left in the past. The relationship you had was fine at the time, but exes should be history. Life is a series of chapters in a book and each one should be viewed with a fresh perspective. Good luck
lifeisadreamMexi Go, Mexico State Mexico16,713 posts
When there are children we have to be "friends" and share family activities like weddings, school graduations, etc. but in a proper sense to be friend with my ex, no way for me.
lifeisadreamMexi Go, Mexico State Mexico16,713 posts
taff1: Yes it's possible. I've managed to stay friends with my ex after almost 8 years together, plus it wasn't the greatest of break ups either. I guess we realised that we'd done enough fighting when we were together so why carry on afterwards.
Desertguy49South Western Desert, Arizona USA2,259 posts
I think it all depends on the circumstances of the breakup...I can be civil to my ex wife as I would be to a stranger, but not friends as in a true friendship. JMO
tomcatwarneOcean City, Plumouth, Devon, England UK17,106 posts
lifeisadream: When there are children we have to be "friends" and share family activities like weddings, school graduations, etc. but in a proper sense to be friend with my ex, no way for me.
Yes it is possible, I am still friends with my ex, though we don't see each other we keep in touch, and we still have our children in common.
I am still friends with my 18 year old son's father. My 13 year old daughter is there right now (not related to him). We are having Thanksgiving Dinner there...we live in a small town and we all get along. He will go to my Dad's with us for Christmas, but we will never be together as a couple. We've both moved on. But still do things together.
Is it possible to be just a friend with an ex? Does it matter if the breakup was good or bad, does that factor in somehow?
I have mixed opinions about this topic..on one hand the ex is an ex for a reason, but that doesn't have to necessarily mean you can't be friends.
I think depending on the reasons a relationship ended and other factors can determine whether or not the two can be friends, but I see no reason if both are willing and not still having romantic feelings for each other.
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Is it possible to be just a friend with an ex? Does it matter if the breakup was good or bad, does that factor in somehow?