Once you cross over that line from friends to lovers... (57)
sweetowenSomewhere, Pennsylvania USA289 Threads 5 Polls 8,850 PostsIs it possible to become just friends again? I'm trying to with a guy who was my friend at first. But it seems each time we try, more ends up happening. I don't see our relationship working out for a long-term commitment, but we can't seem to just remain friends either. And I'd hate to not communicate with him anymore. What to do?
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sweetowen: Is it possible to become just friends again? I'm trying to with a guy who was my friend at first. But it seems each time we try, more ends up happening. I don't see our relationship working out for a long-term commitment, but we can't seem to just remain friends either. And I'd hate to not communicate with him anymore. What to do?
That's a tough spot to have feelings and not want to pursue an LTR. Maybe not see other purposely for a set period of time
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sweetowen: Is it possible to become just friends again? I'm trying to with a guy who was my friend at first. But it seems each time we try, more ends up happening. I don't see our relationship working out for a long-term commitment, but we can't seem to just remain friends either. And I'd hate to not communicate with him anymore. What to do?
It's simple - say no to the "more" that "ends up happening".
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sweetowen: Once you cross over that line from friends to lovers...
There is not way back.
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sweetowen: Is it possible to become just friends again? I'm trying to with a guy who was my friend at first. But it seems each time we try, more ends up happening. I don't see our relationship working out for a long-term commitment, but we can't seem to just remain friends either. And I'd hate to not communicate with him anymore. What to do?
Very emotionally complicated. Its pretty hard to be able to give an answer to it.
Have you talked to him about it in a frank and rational way? If both of you can keep from stepping over the emotional line, the friendship can work. It can be complicated though when your heart is also involved. Sometimes what the heart wants is very different than what the mind wants and it would probably come down to which is stronger.
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Keep your knickers on. 
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invinciblemuse: It's simple - say no to the "more" that "ends up happening".
(applause)Thankfully we humans have a brake mechanism... Unless it's out of order completely...
I think one possible mistake is to believe that if to you it means 'he still loves me', it must mean the same to him... Not necessarily so...
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Just something to think about... How does it feel emotionally once the deed is done? Does it feel like the way to go with this person?
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sweetowen: Is it possible to become just friends again? I'm trying to with a guy who was my friend at first. But it seems each time we try, more ends up happening. I don't see our relationship working out for a long-term commitment, but we can't seem to just remain friends either. And I'd hate to not communicate with him anymore. What to do?
I tried very hard with an ex of mine, he was basically a nice guy but fate dealt him a rotten hand and he had MS..he had it when we started dating but once we'd split up, I still tried to keep in contact with him and be supportive, unfortunately, it depends on the person as to whether or not you can stay in contact..I gave up in the end when every message he sent was full of bitterness and name calling..only you know if its possible to remain in touch with the person
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Boban1: friends with benefits ....
Probably one of the least meaningful kind of relationships between people.
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Weimarlady: (applause)
Thankfully we humans have a brake mechanism... Unless it's out of order completely...
I think one possible mistake is to believe that if to you it means 'he still loves me', it must mean the same to him... Not necessarily so...
Thankfully we humans have a brake mechanism... Unless it's out of order completely...
I think one possible mistake is to believe that if to you it means 'he still loves me', it must mean the same to him... Not necessarily so...
I don't expect him to "be in love with" me. Yes, we love each other as friends, but I'm not in love with him either. That's been established.
Still, I find myself not wanting to 'share time' with him. In other words... I'm probably being unfair. I like the feeling of us hanging out together, "pretending" to be exclusive, but neither of us WANTS to be exclusive.
How the hell did this happen???
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venusinsilk: Keep your knickers on.
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My lovers are always also my friends. In fact usually my best friend and lover rolled into one. 
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sweetowen: Is it possible to become just friends again? I'm trying to with a guy who was my friend at first. But it seems each time we try, more ends up happening. I don't see our relationship working out for a long-term commitment, but we can't seem to just remain friends either. And I'd hate to not communicate with him anymore. What to do?
What to do? Well i guess that all depends on why you don't see your relationship working out for a long term commitment. If there is lots of chemistry and you feel very comfortable with each other and just about the physical attraction, then its definitely a good thing.
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Its tough when it doesnt work out Sweet cause its like loosing a lover and your best friend. Unfortunatley we cant just keep the bits we choose, its a whole package or nothing...I know exactly how you feel lovey
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In response to: Is it possible to become just friends again? I'm trying to with a guy who was my friend at first. But it seems each time we try, more ends up happening. I don't see our relationship working out for a long-term commitment, but we can't seem to just remain friends either. And I'd hate to not communicate with him anymore. What to do?
There is obviously something else there besides the feelings of a best friend that is drawing you both to something more than friendship.....
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venusinsilk: Sorry if I offended you but if you think so much of this person then I really dont see what your problem is. If he makes you happy then maybe you should grab it with both hands.
I was thinking the same
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DUBLINGUY1973: What to do? Well i guess that all depends on why you don't see your relationship working out for a long term commitment. If there is lots of chemistry and you feel very comfortable with each other and just about the physical attraction, then its definitely a good thing.
We both love each others' companionship. But as far as compatibility, I just don't see it. We come basically from 2 different walks of life, right down to views & opinions on politics, ambition, economics, etc. We don't even agree on where we'd like to live in the long-run! I love the warm south & he loves the cold north! But we just agree to disagree & try not to discuss it.
Right now, we're taking time apart from each other. And it stinks, because I miss just communicating with him. But I know that if we do & decide to get together for a drink or something, it'll probably just lead to the same ole, same ole. Besides, he's certain I'll always be there. And I don't want him feeling that way. That's when he starts taking advantage of the situation & tries to take charge.
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