how to cure a crushed heart? (56)
shanniemlatrobe, Pennsylvania USA2 Threads 18 Postswell, here i am again. third time he left. we talked and promised to love each other. he promised he would work everyday to make up for leaving, and damn him, he left again. i feel like an idiot and this time it hurts even more. my son is really a mess and i cant find the right words for him. he asked me why i let him come in the first place and i knew he wouldnt stay. we have been thru hell and back together and now when its good, he bails. i am hurt, mad as hell, and confused. how can a man walked out three weeks before xmas again and not bother to care. i thought i knew him so well, i was wrong. i had so much faith in our love for each other that im not sure i can get over him ever. i know everyone says that, but 11 years of triumph, death, births, love, faith, and pain. we have been homeless, broke, unemployed, depressed, happy, sad and loved each other through it all. i loved him so much and with all i had that i think i heard my heart really break when i woke up to an empty house. he got our son off to school fri morn, came in and kissed me, said he was going for a walk to town and never came back. who does that? who tells thier wife they love them and that he'll cook chicken dinner tonight, goes for a walk and never comes back home? who makes plans with thier son and daughter, then disappears? even on my worst, depressed and bad days i could never do that to someone i love, or my kids. ive been going on and on. anything that may make me not feel so crappy is welcome.
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give yourself a bit of time to let the anger pass and talk to him to clear things up and move on. 
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shanniem: well, here i am again. third time he left. we talked and promised to love each other. he promised he would work everyday to make up for leaving, and damn him, he left again. i feel like an idiot and this time it hurts even more. my son is really a mess and i cant find the right words for him. he asked me why i let him come in the first place and i knew he wouldnt stay. we have been thru hell and back together and now when its good, he bails. i am hurt, mad as hell, and confused. how can a man walked out three weeks before xmas again and not bother to care. i thought i knew him so well, i was wrong. i had so much faith in our love for each other that im not sure i can get over him ever. i know everyone says that, but 11 years of triumph, death, births, love, faith, and pain. we have been homeless, broke, unemployed, depressed, happy, sad and loved each other through it all. i loved him so much and with all i had that i think i heard my heart really break when i woke up to an empty house. he got our son off to school fri morn, came in and kissed me, said he was going for a walk to town and never came back. who does that? who tells thier wife they love them and that he'll cook chicken dinner tonight, goes for a walk and never comes back home? who makes plans with thier son and daughter, then disappears? even on my worst, depressed and bad days i could never do that to someone i love, or my kids. ive been going on and on. anything that may make me not feel so crappy is welcome.
Im sorry your going through this and i dont mean to be cruel.I just have no pitty for buttholes anymore.You deserve better!
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shanniem: well, here i am again. third time he left. we talked and promised to love each other. he promised he would work everyday to make up for leaving, and damn him, he left again. i feel like an idiot and this time it hurts even more. my son is really a mess and i cant find the right words for him. he asked me why i let him come in the first place and i knew he wouldnt stay. we have been thru hell and back together and now when its good, he bails. i am hurt, mad as hell, and confused. how can a man walked out three weeks before xmas again and not bother to care. i thought i knew him so well, i was wrong. i had so much faith in our love for each other that im not sure i can get over him ever. i know everyone says that, but 11 years of triumph, death, births, love, faith, and pain. we have been homeless, broke, unemployed, depressed, happy, sad and loved each other through it all. i loved him so much and with all i had that i think i heard my heart really break when i woke up to an empty house. he got our son off to school fri morn, came in and kissed me, said he was going for a walk to town and never came back. who does that? who tells thier wife they love them and that he'll cook chicken dinner tonight, goes for a walk and never comes back home? who makes plans with thier son and daughter, then disappears? even on my worst, depressed and bad days i could never do that to someone i love, or my kids. ive been going on and on. anything that may make me not feel so crappy is welcome.
Im sorry your going through this and i dont mean to be cruel.I just have no pitty for buttholes anymore.You deserve better!------ This thread is Archived ------
Oh dear, that's awful 
Right now, you're very hurt, in pain and confused
But when the smoke clears, promise yourself to NEVER allow this to happen again. Give yourself and your children a chance in life, you all need and deserve stability, a future and happiness.
Not this seesawing of emotion, uncertainty and unhappiness.
Try to be strong, there's a lot of support out there. It won't be easy but in the end, it's got to be better than all this upheaval and pain.
Good luck and take care of yourself
Right now, you're very hurt, in pain and confused
But when the smoke clears, promise yourself to NEVER allow this to happen again. Give yourself and your children a chance in life, you all need and deserve stability, a future and happiness.
Not this seesawing of emotion, uncertainty and unhappiness.
Try to be strong, there's a lot of support out there. It won't be easy but in the end, it's got to be better than all this upheaval and pain.
Good luck and take care of yourself
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MetalgirlPlush: Im sorry your going through this and i dont mean to be cruel.I just have no pitty for buttholes anymore.You deserve better!
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serene56: Oh dear, that's awful
Right now, you're very hurt, in pain and confused
But when the smoke clears, promise yourself to NEVER allow this to happen again. Give yourself and your children a chance in life, you all need and deserve stability, a future and happiness.
Not this seesawing of emotion, uncertainty and unhappiness.
Try to be strong, there's a lot of support out there. It won't be easy but in the end, it's got to be better than all this upheaval and pain.
Good luck and take care of yourself
Right now, you're very hurt, in pain and confused
But when the smoke clears, promise yourself to NEVER allow this to happen again. Give yourself and your children a chance in life, you all need and deserve stability, a future and happiness.
Not this seesawing of emotion, uncertainty and unhappiness.
Try to be strong, there's a lot of support out there. It won't be easy but in the end, it's got to be better than all this upheaval and pain.
Good luck and take care of yourself
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plainlyjune: think i like your mom
LOL She always did say that to me when i was heartbroken My mom was cool------ This thread is Archived ------
I know this is blunt but the only reason someone would do what he has done is that he's no real father to your kids and is more concerned about starting over with someone else. Was he just telling ya he wanted to work things out just to buy time to find someone else and perhaps now he has, he's gone moved in with them? 
I can't think of any other reason why someone would do that unless he used drugs so bad that he would see that he shouldn't expose it to ya after everything else ya two have been through. Perhaps he wasn't being honest about the type of people he has been hanging out with. Perhaps he is in debt to someone and didn't want to lead them to his family. Sorry for your pain
I can't think of any other reason why someone would do that unless he used drugs so bad that he would see that he shouldn't expose it to ya after everything else ya two have been through. Perhaps he wasn't being honest about the type of people he has been hanging out with. Perhaps he is in debt to someone and didn't want to lead them to his family. Sorry for your pain
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Not trying to scare ya just listing all the realistic possibilities and without knowing all ya two have been through, I was only listing what came first to my mind.
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MetalgirlPlush: Serene
Hey sweety
Mwah!
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Stay clear of him, don't let him back for anything
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serene56: Hey sweety
Mwah!
Mwah!
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shanniem: well, here i am again. third time he left. we talked and promised to love each other. he promised he would work everyday to make up for leaving, and damn him, he left again. i feel like an idiot and this time it hurts even more. my son is really a mess and i cant find the right words for him. he asked me why i let him come in the first place and i knew he wouldnt stay. we have been thru hell and back together and now when its good, he bails. i am hurt, mad as hell, and confused. how can a man walked out three weeks before xmas again and not bother to care. i thought i knew him so well, i was wrong. i had so much faith in our love for each other that im not sure i can get over him ever. i know everyone says that, but 11 years of triumph, death, births, love, faith, and pain. we have been homeless, broke, unemployed, depressed, happy, sad and loved each other through it all. i loved him so much and with all i had that i think i heard my heart really break when i woke up to an empty house. he got our son off to school fri morn, came in and kissed me, said he was going for a walk to town and never came back. who does that? who tells thier wife they love them and that he'll cook chicken dinner tonight, goes for a walk and never comes back home? who makes plans with thier son and daughter, then disappears? even on my worst, depressed and bad days i could never do that to someone i love, or my kids. ive been going on and on. anything that may make me not feel so crappy is welcome.
I don't mean to be cruel, my heart bleeds for you, but if you do it once to me, shame on you. If you do it twice to me, then it is shame on me.
So go on, be human, have a good cry and when you are done, start collecting the pieces and build on them. You deserve better than what you had.
It works, you know?
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Bental: I don't mean to be cruel, my heart bleeds for you, but if you do it once to me, shame on you. If you do it twice to me, then it is shame on me.
So go on, be human, have a good cry and when you are done, start collecting the pieces and build on them. You deserve better than what you had.
It works, you know?
So go on, be human, have a good cry and when you are done, start collecting the pieces and build on them. You deserve better than what you had.
It works, you know?
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Bental: I don't mean to be cruel, my heart bleeds for you, but if you do it once to me, shame on you. If you do it twice to me, then it is shame on me.
So go on, be human, have a good cry and when you are done, start collecting the pieces and build on them. You deserve better than what you had.
It works, you know?
So go on, be human, have a good cry and when you are done, start collecting the pieces and build on them. You deserve better than what you had.
It works, you know?
my thoughts as well...
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hi shanniem,
i am sorry to hear that but you not alone. i have almost the same like you had but right now, he was the one that divorced me and now he want to come back with me.he was the one that cheated and now he pushes me to accept him again. i still love him but am scared that he will do the same thing again. right now, i just try to be strong for my son. and am trying to be tough too. so you are not alone. i know how you feel.
i am sorry to hear that but you not alone. i have almost the same like you had but right now, he was the one that divorced me and now he want to come back with me.he was the one that cheated and now he pushes me to accept him again. i still love him but am scared that he will do the same thing again. right now, i just try to be strong for my son. and am trying to be tough too. so you are not alone. i know how you feel.
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Bental: I don't mean to be cruel, my heart bleeds for you, but if you do it once to me, shame on you. If you do it twice to me, then it is shame on me.
So go on, be human, have a good cry and when you are done, start collecting the pieces and build on them. You deserve better than what you had.
It works, you know?
Any idea how to do that. ive never had a broken heart. i met him when i was 19 and got married and had kids. i cant even think about him not being with me on christmas. my son and him are my family. my only family, pretty much. my dads gone and i dont speak to my mother. i am not welcome at any of my relatives because i married him 11 yrs ago. i lost my best friend. i never dated anyone else. this really sucks. i need to know where i go from here.So go on, be human, have a good cry and when you are done, start collecting the pieces and build on them. You deserve better than what you had.
It works, you know?
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Bental: I don't mean to be cruel, my heart bleeds for you, but if you do it once to me, shame on you. If you do it twice to me, then it is shame on me.
So go on, be human, have a good cry and when you are done, start collecting the pieces and build on them. You deserve better than what you had.
It works, you know?
So go on, be human, have a good cry and when you are done, start collecting the pieces and build on them. You deserve better than what you had.
It works, you know?
easy to say though much harder to do 
But I see something here.... you say your guy got your son to school and was cooking you a chicken dinner ???? maybe if you did these things together you would still be together
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