being nice does not work (203)
cmulder: Dispite what most woman write in there profile i found out being nice is useless.
Since i am tall and skinney i have been bullied not just during my childhood but its a still ongoing problem for me.
Examples include "passive agression" with it comes to dealing with.
Spending most if my time (still) alone i do not gain any experience that inproves my self esteem.
Btw with alone i do not mean single but TOTALY ALONE.
most weekends i come home from work and only get out of the door again on monday without any interactions with humans in person in between.
Needless to say self esteem is something i know from a book.
So even if i get a lady to reply to me it does only last a few messages and then it ends since they are not atracted to me,
So being nice does not work and i found woman prefer abusve men who hurt them.
I am just not one of them.
Since i am tall and skinney i have been bullied not just during my childhood but its a still ongoing problem for me.
Examples include "passive agression" with it comes to dealing with.
Spending most if my time (still) alone i do not gain any experience that inproves my self esteem.
Btw with alone i do not mean single but TOTALY ALONE.
most weekends i come home from work and only get out of the door again on monday without any interactions with humans in person in between.
Needless to say self esteem is something i know from a book.
So even if i get a lady to reply to me it does only last a few messages and then it ends since they are not atracted to me,
So being nice does not work and i found woman prefer abusve men who hurt them.
I am just not one of them.
Wrong, wrong, wrong
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I posted a thread nearly about the same topic,nothing happens with the girls I'm nice to, but all the ones I behave little bit rude or negative at first sight follows me...
I agree with you
I agree with you
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cmulder:
So being nice does not work and i found woman prefer abusve men who hurt them.
So being nice does not work and i found woman prefer abusve men who hurt them.
Really? Odd ... 
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I am sorry you have had this problem. But being nice is the only way to be. Abusive and aggressive men get the boot real fast from the good people. Hang in there my friend there are good ladies out there looking for someone like you 
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not all are like what you claim. It takes time and a lot of patience to get a good relationship going.
It seems that you may not be willing 
to put forth the long term effort..
,but I could be wrong
...JMO
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cmulder: Dispite what most woman write in there profile i found out being nice is useless.
Since i am tall and skinney i have been bullied not just during my childhood but its a still ongoing problem for me.
Examples include "passive agression" with it comes to dealing with.
Spending most if my time (still) alone i do not gain any experience that inproves my self esteem.
Btw with alone i do not mean single but TOTALY ALONE.
most weekends i come home from work and only get out of the door again on monday without any interactions with humans in person in between.
Needless to say self esteem is something i know from a book.
So even if i get a lady to reply to me it does only last a few messages and then it ends since they are not atracted to me,
So being nice does not work and i found woman prefer abusve men who hurt them.
I am just not one of them.
Since i am tall and skinney i have been bullied not just during my childhood but its a still ongoing problem for me.
Examples include "passive agression" with it comes to dealing with.
Spending most if my time (still) alone i do not gain any experience that inproves my self esteem.
Btw with alone i do not mean single but TOTALY ALONE.
most weekends i come home from work and only get out of the door again on monday without any interactions with humans in person in between.
Needless to say self esteem is something i know from a book.
So even if i get a lady to reply to me it does only last a few messages and then it ends since they are not atracted to me,
So being nice does not work and i found woman prefer abusve men who hurt them.
I am just not one of them.
well if you hide inside your 4 walls you not gonna meet people and so you re tall and skinny...go find a gym and put some muscles on that frame of yours..will help your self esteem too, will make you meet people and even make friends.......and women do NOT like abusive men..what ever gave you that idea???
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epicure: I posted a thread nearly about the same topic,nothing happens with the girls I'm nice to, but all the ones I behave little bit rude or negative at first sight follows me...
I agree with you
I agree with you
Aaah...this maybe why I am unsure of you...I must have seen some meaness, but you seem like an ok bloke. Nah, if you've been rude as in mean, rather than rude as in cheeky humour, then that would make me very wary.
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i am 37 and worked in a callcenter for 4 years so i had interction with people.
That is why i stay inside.
Woman want men wo are secure about themselfs and abusive men are.
They are "manly" dominant ect.
If what you say is true why do they say with them so long?
and going to a gym? and be made fun off there too.
i can eat as mutch as i like but it just goes straight trough and i do not gain any weight
Also i never EVER in my whole life had a woman start a converstation with me "just because"
That is why i stay inside.
Woman want men wo are secure about themselfs and abusive men are.
They are "manly" dominant ect.
If what you say is true why do they say with them so long?
and going to a gym? and be made fun off there too.
i can eat as mutch as i like but it just goes straight trough and i do not gain any weight
Also i never EVER in my whole life had a woman start a converstation with me "just because"
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maybe u should stop trying to be what it is u think women want u to be and start being urself every women is dif but on the abusive thing i dont agree everyone is dif u have to be nice but also need to be confident within urself thats where u need to start u got to work out ur issues with yerself first before ur ready to start into any relationship if u dont love yourself how do u expect anyone else to
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cmulder: Dispite what most woman write in there profile i found out being nice is useless.
Since i am tall and skinney i have been bullied not just during my childhood but its a still ongoing problem for me.
Examples include "passive agression" with it comes to dealing with.
Spending most if my time (still) alone i do not gain any experience that inproves my self esteem.
Btw with alone i do not mean single but TOTALY ALONE.
most weekends i come home from work and only get out of the door again on monday without any interactions with humans in person in between.
Needless to say self esteem is something i know from a book.
So even if i get a lady to reply to me it does only last a few messages and then it ends since they are not atracted to me,
So being nice does not work and i found woman prefer abusve men who hurt them.
I am just not one of them.
Since i am tall and skinney i have been bullied not just during my childhood but its a still ongoing problem for me.
Examples include "passive agression" with it comes to dealing with.
Spending most if my time (still) alone i do not gain any experience that inproves my self esteem.
Btw with alone i do not mean single but TOTALY ALONE.
most weekends i come home from work and only get out of the door again on monday without any interactions with humans in person in between.
Needless to say self esteem is something i know from a book.
So even if i get a lady to reply to me it does only last a few messages and then it ends since they are not atracted to me,
So being nice does not work and i found woman prefer abusve men who hurt them.
I am just not one of them.
I definitely don;t prefer abusive men.
I prefer good men who have hobbies, interests and friends same as I do.
It would drive me crazy not to get out at a weekend and do things.
Perhaps you are nice but where's your interest in living life gone?
If you do the same as you always did you'll get the same as you always got.
Get out there, push your comfort zone and make some friends.
I used to be painfully shy but hated it so set a limit of three months of going out alone so I had to break my shyness. I did that at 18 just after my mum died.
If I can do it anyone can.
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epicure: I posted a thread nearly about the same topic,nothing happens with the girls I'm nice to, but all the ones I behave little bit rude or negative at first sight follows me...
I agree with you
I agree with you
Well, I did notice that technique you tried to pull on me, Thread Boy. I let it slide because after reading your "It's so interesting" thread, I understood that's merely your adult version of dipping my pigtails in the inkwell.
FYI, I actually respond to guys who approach me in a genuine and nice way. I like that. A guy who did that last night on here and skype actually scored a date with me for next week as a result.
Rude abusive men are quickly kicked to the curb by me.
It's not all about being nice though. I have to have some sort of attraction to them as well.
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kinda a chicken egg problem here...
ruby3: maybe u should stop trying to be what it is u think women want u to be and start being urself every women is dif but on the abusive thing i dont agree everyone is dif u have to be nice but also need to be confident within urself thats where u need to start u got to work out ur issues with yerself first before ur ready to start into any relationship if u dont love yourself how do u expect anyone else to
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Mean would be worse-you get what you give and if it's meant to be you will find it-stay the way you are-never give up. GL
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ruby3: maybe u should stop trying to be what it is u think women want u to be and start being urself every women is dif but on the abusive thing i dont agree everyone is dif u have to be nice but also need to be confident within urself thats where u need to start u got to work out ur issues with yerself first before ur ready to start into any relationship if u dont love yourself how do u expect anyone else to
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cmulder: i am 37 and worked in a callcenter for 4 years so i had interction with people.
That is why i stay inside.
Woman want men wo are secure about themselfs and abusive men are.
They are "manly" dominant ect.
If what you say is true why do they say with them so long?
and going to a gym? and be made fun off there too.
i can eat as mutch as i like but it just goes straight trough and i do not gain any weight
Also i never EVER in my whole life had a woman start a converstation with me "just because"
That is why i stay inside.
Woman want men wo are secure about themselfs and abusive men are.
They are "manly" dominant ect.
If what you say is true why do they say with them so long?
and going to a gym? and be made fun off there too.
i can eat as mutch as i like but it just goes straight trough and i do not gain any weight
Also i never EVER in my whole life had a woman start a converstation with me "just because"
You got it wrong again. Abusive men are very insecure, that's why they feel they have to bully and frighten women into staying with them.
If a woman has never started chatting with you, could this be because you give off "leave me alone" vibes out of shyness?
By the way, my daughter likes your giraffe
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EntwangledAgain: Get out there, push your comfort zone and make some friends.
I used to be painfully shy but hated it so set a limit of three months of going out alone so I had to break my shyness. I did that at 18 just after my mum died.
If I can do it anyone can.
I used to be painfully shy but hated it so set a limit of three months of going out alone so I had to break my shyness. I did that at 18 just after my mum died.
If I can do it anyone can.
well that is one reason why i left for ireland; to make a new start .
that was 8 years ago and failed.
i have my apearance against me ; my back is not straight and that is (unlike being fat) not socially accepted.
Its dificult to find new lies to tell yourself that it will get better.
manny times i got the "i like you to be happy" AS LONG YOU DO IT FAR AWAY FROM ME thing.
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cmulder: the dog thing might be a good idea.
I like dogs
I like dogs
If you hit the "quote" button at the bottom of a post you want to reply to, we know who you are talking to.
Lurchers and greyhounds are good - lazy as hell when you're in work all day, but will soak up as much walking an running around when you've got free time. Loads need rescuing as well and they have a really mellow temperament as a rule.
Ok, I admit I'm biased.
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cmulder: Dispite what most woman write in there profile i found out being nice is useless.
Since i am tall and skinney i have been bullied not just during my childhood but its a still ongoing problem for me.
Examples include "passive agression" with it comes to dealing with.
Spending most if my time (still) alone i do not gain any experience that inproves my self esteem.
Btw with alone i do not mean single but TOTALY ALONE.
most weekends i come home from work and only get out of the door again on monday without any interactions with humans in person in between.
Needless to say self esteem is something i know from a book.
So even if i get a lady to reply to me it does only last a few messages and then it ends since they are not atracted to me,
So being nice does not work and i found woman prefer abusve men who hurt them.
I am just not one of them.
what do u mean by abusive?..Forcing women to get attracted to uSince i am tall and skinney i have been bullied not just during my childhood but its a still ongoing problem for me.
Examples include "passive agression" with it comes to dealing with.
Spending most if my time (still) alone i do not gain any experience that inproves my self esteem.
Btw with alone i do not mean single but TOTALY ALONE.
most weekends i come home from work and only get out of the door again on monday without any interactions with humans in person in between.
Needless to say self esteem is something i know from a book.
So even if i get a lady to reply to me it does only last a few messages and then it ends since they are not atracted to me,
So being nice does not work and i found woman prefer abusve men who hurt them.
I am just not one of them.
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Since i am tall and skinney i have been bullied not just during my childhood but its a still ongoing problem for me.
Examples include "passive agression" with it comes to dealing with.
Spending most if my time (still) alone i do not gain any experience that inproves my self esteem.
Btw with alone i do not mean single but TOTALY ALONE.
most weekends i come home from work and only get out of the door again on monday without any interactions with humans in person in between.
Needless to say self esteem is something i know from a book.
So even if i get a lady to reply to me it does only last a few messages and then it ends since they are not atracted to me,
So being nice does not work and i found woman prefer abusve men who hurt them.
I am just not one of them.