Number 1 Turn Off on Online Dating Sites? ( Archived) (92)

Jan 4, 2011 3:14 AM CST Number 1 Turn Off on Online Dating Sites?
vcroome
vcroomevcroomeHolyoke, Massachusetts USA1 Threads 46 Posts
I wonder if any others who have tried online dating before have any 'warning signs' that immediately let you know that someone is probably not 'the one'?

For me it's using 'u' instead of 'you', '4' instead of 'for' and other chat-speak. I have the idea that someone who won't put in the time to properly type out their message when they are seeking their partner, they might not put as much effort as I'd like into the relationship itself, either.

Any others? Specific phrases people repeat in their profiles that send up red flags?
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Jan 4, 2011 3:18 AM CST Number 1 Turn Off on Online Dating Sites?
thelastgoodman0
thelastgoodman0thelastgoodman0Somewhere, Arkansas USA5 Threads 2 Polls 119 Posts
Some people use their cell phones for this, believe it or not, and some of those people don't have full keyboards on their phones. For those people, it's a matter of saving a lot of time and sore thumbs.
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Jan 4, 2011 3:23 AM CST Number 1 Turn Off on Online Dating Sites?
langleygirl
langleygirllangleygirlWestlock, Alberta Canada70 Threads 8,202 Posts
thelastgoodman0: Some people use their cell phones for this, believe it or not, and some of those people don't have full keyboards on their phones. For those people, it's a matter of saving a lot of time and sore thumbs.


Gosh is hitting the space bar that much work? laugh
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Jan 4, 2011 3:26 AM CST Number 1 Turn Off on Online Dating Sites?
Shell225
Shell225Shell225Brisbane, Queensland Australia26 Threads 8,572 Posts
People who have no interests and then there was the fellow who had doing jigsaw puzzles as his hobby help I knew that wasnt ever going to work.. laugh
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Jan 4, 2011 3:28 AM CST Number 1 Turn Off on Online Dating Sites?
shottaz
shottazshottazpoint fortin, Point Fortin Trinidad and Tobago90 Posts
an all this time men taught that sending pictures of old bent-up c*ck were the reason they can't get a date, thanks for the info,
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Jan 4, 2011 3:33 AM CST Number 1 Turn Off on Online Dating Sites?
lucynad
lucynadlucynadSunny city, Sicilia Italy7 Threads 2,431 Posts
not exactly a real turn off....

but

i am not very fond of the first message long like a papyrus...wink

i have once recieved one of that kind and at the end of his message he was asking me to ask him any questions...

i've answered that the quantity of information he had provided with his first email was quite enough for me for that weekend..it happened on Friday...and i would come back to him on Monday in case of need of any further info...lol

then...

i looked at his profile...

had to do it twice...lol

as the first time i looked i was overhelmed by its length...but, being diligent, i took a breath, returned to his profile and read it all...

i felt i made my duty in checking if we, by any chance, were a match...lol
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Jan 4, 2011 3:37 AM CST Number 1 Turn Off on Online Dating Sites?
vcroome
vcroomevcroomeHolyoke, Massachusetts USA1 Threads 46 Posts
That does make sense... When I text, even to my close friends, I always type out all the words. I feel that I'm disrespecting people if I don't bother to speak properly to them. Maybe it's just a girl thing, because my brother uses abbreviations any chance he gets.
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Jan 4, 2011 3:39 AM CST Number 1 Turn Off on Online Dating Sites?
plainlyjune
plainlyjuneplainlyjuneLegazpi City, Bicol Philippines12 Threads 2 Polls 8,175 Posts
If the first message has sweet words in it. i.e. baby, hun, sugar etc barf
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Jan 4, 2011 3:40 AM CST Number 1 Turn Off on Online Dating Sites?
jeepers
jeepersjeepersCowpet Bay, Saint Thomas Virgin Islands (USA)57 Threads 10,968 Posts
plainlyjune: If the first message has sweet words in it. i.e. baby, hun, sugar etc
wave Hi sweety. tongue
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Jan 4, 2011 3:41 AM CST Number 1 Turn Off on Online Dating Sites?
scottyburd
scottyburdscottyburdglasgow, Strathclyde, Scotland UK6,016 Posts
When im told what a fantastic profile you have.....even i know i dont..laugh
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Jan 4, 2011 3:42 AM CST Number 1 Turn Off on Online Dating Sites?
cherrybrandy
cherrybrandycherrybrandycambridge, Cambridgeshire, England UK24 Threads 7,473 Posts
plainlyjune: If the first message has sweet words in it. i.e. baby, hun, sugar etc
yo sugar..teddybear
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Jan 4, 2011 3:42 AM CST Number 1 Turn Off on Online Dating Sites?
plainlyjune
plainlyjuneplainlyjuneLegazpi City, Bicol Philippines12 Threads 2 Polls 8,175 Posts
lucynad: not exactly a real turn off....

but

i am not very fond of the first message long like a papyrus...

i have once recieved one of that kind and at the end of his message he was asking me to ask him any questions...

i've answered that the quantity of information he had provided with his first email was quite enough for me for that weekend..it happened on Friday...and i would come back to him on Monday in case of need of any further info...lol

Agree with that one. It's weird that they assume we're interested at the first email and urge us to ask more questions. Shouldn't they be the one asking? Even then there's a limited amount of information i'd share with a stranger. uh oh
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Jan 4, 2011 3:43 AM CST Number 1 Turn Off on Online Dating Sites?
plainlyjune
plainlyjuneplainlyjuneLegazpi City, Bicol Philippines12 Threads 2 Polls 8,175 Posts
cherrybrandy: yo sugar..
rolling on the floor laughing hey sweets wink teddybear
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Jan 4, 2011 3:44 AM CST Number 1 Turn Off on Online Dating Sites?
plainlyjune
plainlyjuneplainlyjuneLegazpi City, Bicol Philippines12 Threads 2 Polls 8,175 Posts
jeepers: Hi sweety.
ah! i miss you guys. You have a way of melting the ranting June in me. roll eyes
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Jan 4, 2011 3:45 AM CST Number 1 Turn Off on Online Dating Sites?
cherrybrandy
cherrybrandycherrybrandycambridge, Cambridgeshire, England UK24 Threads 7,473 Posts
vcroome: I wonder if any others who have tried online dating before have any 'warning signs' that immediately let you know that someone is probably not 'the one'?

For me it's using 'u' instead of 'you', '4' instead of 'for' and other chat-speak. I have the idea that someone who won't put in the time to properly type out their message when they are seeking their partner, they might not put as much effort as I'd like into the relationship itself, either.

Any others? Specific phrases people repeat in their profiles that send up red flags?
message too long,load of self praising,lots of personal questions..message too short,telling me to tell them all about me..very mad
message,showing,they have only seen the pictures and not read the profile..
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Jan 4, 2011 3:47 AM CST Number 1 Turn Off on Online Dating Sites?
cherrybrandy
cherrybrandycherrybrandycambridge, Cambridgeshire, England UK24 Threads 7,473 Posts
plainlyjune: ah! i miss you guys. You have a way of melting the ranting June in me.
bowing now thats something i want to see-ranting June..laugh
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Jan 4, 2011 3:48 AM CST Number 1 Turn Off on Online Dating Sites?
jem1964
jem1964jem1964Foothills of Dandenongs, Victoria Australia30 Threads 1 Polls 2,441 Posts
when they demand an email address or messenger address...frustrated

thats what I am on this site for to communicate SAFELY!

I dont like being called pet names either, that implies intimacy that hasnt been given barf
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Jan 4, 2011 3:49 AM CST Number 1 Turn Off on Online Dating Sites?
StillOfTheNight
StillOfTheNightStillOfTheNightClarenville Area, Newfoundland Canada11 Threads 2,832 Posts
Emotional vampires.
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Jan 4, 2011 3:50 AM CST Number 1 Turn Off on Online Dating Sites?
plainlyjune
plainlyjuneplainlyjuneLegazpi City, Bicol Philippines12 Threads 2 Polls 8,175 Posts
cherrybrandy: now thats something i want to see-ranting June..
this... frustrated this... jaw drop and this.. boxing
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Jan 4, 2011 3:52 AM CST Number 1 Turn Off on Online Dating Sites?
Boban1
Boban1Boban1bigplace, Central Serbia Serbia144 Threads 5 Polls 18,789 Posts
vcroome: I wonder if any others who have tried online dating before have any 'warning signs' that immediately let you know that someone is probably not 'the one'?

For me it's using 'u' instead of 'you', '4' instead of 'for' and other chat-speak. I have the idea that someone who won't put in the time to properly type out their message when they are seeking their partner, they might not put as much effort as I'd like into the relationship itself, either.

Any others? Specific phrases people repeat in their profiles that send up red flags?


keep reading the signs ,forget about the crap people are saying about the heart and soul ...roll eyes
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