What should you do when someone can't accept you for you? ( Archived) (24)

Oct 2, 2006 11:56 AM CST What should you do when someone can't accept you for you?
darien56
darien56darien56Dayton, Ohio USA2 Threads 16 Posts
I dated a girl for 9 years all the way through junior high school until just recently and she was ashamed of me because i was too different for her family to accept so she continually tried to change me. I think that i am nice and yeah i am a little different but so is everyone in my book. I just wonder why can't some women accept me for me?
very mad
I like myself and i don't think i should change who i am to fit someones issues with thier family. I loved her but eventually i got tired of being too different and decided that maybe i should go so here i am. What is funny is i don't feel like i am too different now and i even like myself for my differences. They are a part of me and i can't just change myself for someone else.

Somebody explain this one to me!!!
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Oct 2, 2006 11:59 AM CST What should you do when someone can't accept you for you?
native_grl38
native_grl38native_grl38Belleville, Canada10 Threads 4,332 Posts
Someone who doesn't love you for who you are...Doesn't love you...Plain and simple!!!!!!

Find the one that can love and accept you inside and out and you have found true love!!!!!


conversing love smitten
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Oct 2, 2006 12:01 PM CST What should you do when someone can't accept you for you?
VioladorDeLaLey
VioladorDeLaLeyVioladorDeLaLeyBajo Un Sol Feliz, USA11 Threads 4,548 Posts
I agree with Native professor
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Oct 2, 2006 12:01 PM CST What should you do when someone can't accept you for you?
aleacim831
aleacim831aleacim831Houston, Texas USA11 Threads 47 Posts
Don't ever change who you are for someone else. If they can't accept you for you its their loss. There are soooo many people in this world you should never settle. Be positve. Maybe the women you are meeting aren't the right women. But thats just my opinion. :) comfort
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Oct 2, 2006 12:02 PM CST What should you do when someone can't accept you for you?
cajunfroggy
cajunfroggycajunfroggyWaco, USA145 Threads 7,332 Posts
when someone cant accept you for you then YOU dont need them noone should ever change to FIT someone else
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Oct 2, 2006 12:04 PM CST What should you do when someone can't accept you for you?
darien56
darien56darien56Dayton, Ohio USA2 Threads 16 Posts
Thanks for the replies i know i shouldn't let it get to me but i really hated having wasted all those years with someone who never really love the real me so thanks alot.thumbs up
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Oct 2, 2006 12:05 PM CST What should you do when someone can't accept you for you?
Abracadabra
AbracadabraAbracadabraHeaven, Pennsylvania USA69 Threads 3,302 Posts
darien56 wrote:
"Somebody explain this one to me!!!"

How can anyone explain this to you when they have no clue about the specifics.

If the woman you are with can't accept you for you, then you have compatibility issues and should choose a different partner.

I personally believe that far too many people hook-up based on physical attractions, or whatever, when they indeed have nothing at all in common including basic values and beliefs.

How did you end up being together in the first place if you are so incompatible in what you each seek in a lifestyle? This is the question on my mind.
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Oct 2, 2006 12:07 PM CST What should you do when someone can't accept you for you?
VioladorDeLaLey
VioladorDeLaLeyVioladorDeLaLeyBajo Un Sol Feliz, USA11 Threads 4,548 Posts
nicely put ... thumbs up
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Oct 2, 2006 12:08 PM CST What should you do when someone can't accept you for you?
darien56
darien56darien56Dayton, Ohio USA2 Threads 16 Posts
Yeah i know what you are saying but when it comes down to it i didn't know what i was doing when we were together but now i can't seem to keep a steady girl. I have dated older women and women younger than me and i have dated people my age i fall in love very easily and being a hopless romantic kinda doesn't help.

Thanks for the reply dancing
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Oct 2, 2006 12:08 PM CST What should you do when someone can't accept you for you?
blancalatina
blancalatinablancalatinawinston-salem, USA42 Threads 3,315 Posts
For 9 years? She's finally thinking you're not good enough for her family, or you're too "different" for them? Is she a little "slow"?

I guess it's true, you are marrying their family. She should have figured that out a looooooooooooong time ago!
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Oct 2, 2006 12:11 PM CST What should you do when someone can't accept you for you?
Abracadabra
AbracadabraAbracadabraHeaven, Pennsylvania USA69 Threads 3,302 Posts
I think it would be a huge mistake to say that she "never" really loved the real you. That only ends in finger-pointing and nasty accusations. And I don't think it's what the previous posts meant to imply.

People change over time. It's natural. Just accept that you BOTH drifted apart. Obviously YOU aren't prepared to do her thing either. Can she then say that YOU never really loved HER????

Don't point fingers! Just accept that things didn't work out and move on parting as mutual friends.

Why are people so anxious to lay BLAME?

I don't think the previous poster were implying that it was the woman's fault. They simply said to move on.
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Oct 2, 2006 12:11 PM CST What should you do when someone can't accept you for you?
AdventureBegins
AdventureBeginsAdventureBeginsZanesville, USA66 Threads 1,718 Posts
She must have seen something she liked to stay with you for nine years.

Perhaps stepping out of her life for a while will give her some time to think, grow a bit, and mature.
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Oct 2, 2006 12:12 PM CST What should you do when someone can't accept you for you?
highplains
highplainshighplainsHighland Springs, Virginia USA127 Threads 4,288 Posts
you should kick her in the nuts.......rolling on the floor laughing
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Oct 2, 2006 12:12 PM CST What should you do when someone can't accept you for you?
darien56
darien56darien56Dayton, Ohio USA2 Threads 16 Posts
I completely understand that and i knew that it would take some getting used to and i should have known that when her mother told me to my face that she didn't like me then it wasn't going to work. So we were together for all that time most likely because we were comfortable with certain parts of eachother... i really can't see what was keeping me there now... oh well sigh
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Oct 2, 2006 12:13 PM CST What should you do when someone can't accept you for you?
iRon12345
iRon12345iRon12345Tempe, USA35 Threads 2,473 Posts
As long as we accept ourself is the only thing that countsgrin
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Oct 2, 2006 12:13 PM CST What should you do when someone can't accept you for you?
Abracadabra
AbracadabraAbracadabraHeaven, Pennsylvania USA69 Threads 3,302 Posts
Well, for what it's worth, I've been single my entire life and I have never found a compatible partner. At least not one that was available and simultaneously interested in me.

So you're not alone.
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Oct 2, 2006 12:15 PM CST What should you do when someone can't accept you for you?
Abracadabra
AbracadabraAbracadabraHeaven, Pennsylvania USA69 Threads 3,302 Posts
Well, that might work too. You never know about these things. head banger
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Oct 2, 2006 12:16 PM CST What should you do when someone can't accept you for you?
darien56
darien56darien56Dayton, Ohio USA2 Threads 16 Posts
Thanks everybody your comments are very much appreciated and i would like to say that your comments will be used to make me think about future relationships so if you have any more then let me know what you think... banana
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Oct 2, 2006 1:25 PM CST What should you do when someone can't accept you for you?
cassidyrae
cassidyraecassidyraemuncie, Indiana USA1 Threads 48 Posts
its not considered a waste-just experiencecomfort
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Oct 2, 2006 1:43 PM CST What should you do when someone can't accept you for you?
cdaniels3
cdaniels3cdaniels3Columbus, Ohio USA1 Threads 121 Posts
If someone doesn't except who you are, to hell with 'em.

"Mine is not to change my brother, but merely to accept him as he is."
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