I dated a girl for 9 years all the way through junior high school until just recently and she was ashamed of me because i was too different for her family to accept so she continually tried to change me. I think that i am nice and yeah i am a little different but so is everyone in my book. I just wonder why can't some women accept me for me?
I like myself and i don't think i should change who i am to fit someones issues with thier family. I loved her but eventually i got tired of being too different and decided that maybe i should go so here i am. What is funny is i don't feel like i am too different now and i even like myself for my differences. They are a part of me and i can't just change myself for someone else.
Don't ever change who you are for someone else. If they can't accept you for you its their loss. There are soooo many people in this world you should never settle. Be positve. Maybe the women you are meeting aren't the right women. But thats just my opinion. :)
Thanks for the replies i know i shouldn't let it get to me but i really hated having wasted all those years with someone who never really love the real me so thanks alot.
darien56 wrote: "Somebody explain this one to me!!!"
How can anyone explain this to you when they have no clue about the specifics.
If the woman you are with can't accept you for you, then you have compatibility issues and should choose a different partner.
I personally believe that far too many people hook-up based on physical attractions, or whatever, when they indeed have nothing at all in common including basic values and beliefs.
How did you end up being together in the first place if you are so incompatible in what you each seek in a lifestyle? This is the question on my mind.
Yeah i know what you are saying but when it comes down to it i didn't know what i was doing when we were together but now i can't seem to keep a steady girl. I have dated older women and women younger than me and i have dated people my age i fall in love very easily and being a hopless romantic kinda doesn't help.
I think it would be a huge mistake to say that she "never" really loved the real you. That only ends in finger-pointing and nasty accusations. And I don't think it's what the previous posts meant to imply.
People change over time. It's natural. Just accept that you BOTH drifted apart. Obviously YOU aren't prepared to do her thing either. Can she then say that YOU never really loved HER????
Don't point fingers! Just accept that things didn't work out and move on parting as mutual friends.
Why are people so anxious to lay BLAME?
I don't think the previous poster were implying that it was the woman's fault. They simply said to move on.
I completely understand that and i knew that it would take some getting used to and i should have known that when her mother told me to my face that she didn't like me then it wasn't going to work. So we were together for all that time most likely because we were comfortable with certain parts of eachother... i really can't see what was keeping me there now... oh well
Well, for what it's worth, I've been single my entire life and I have never found a compatible partner. At least not one that was available and simultaneously interested in me.
Thanks everybody your comments are very much appreciated and i would like to say that your comments will be used to make me think about future relationships so if you have any more then let me know what you think...
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I like myself and i don't think i should change who i am to fit someones issues with thier family. I loved her but eventually i got tired of being too different and decided that maybe i should go so here i am. What is funny is i don't feel like i am too different now and i even like myself for my differences. They are a part of me and i can't just change myself for someone else.
Somebody explain this one to me!!!