shall I keep this baby? (210)
rainlucyLeuven, Flemish Brabant Belgium5 Threads 1 Polls 16 Poststhey said its very irresponsible if I want to keep this baby just because I want,I should think more about his future.what sore of life I could offer him..I cant just bring this baby to this world to suffer.just because "I want"....is it right?I am so confused now.what can I do to keep my baby?
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I take it the baby is your present partners. I can't understand why he doesn't want his own child, yet would take responsibility for your present child. Doesn't make sense to me. I hope you find a happy solution.
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You will have to do some soul searching on this one. If you decide to give up this baby due to your financial circumstances and that your family will not support you I could understand and would do the same thing. Giving this baby up to keep a guy would be ludicrous so get rid of him. Thinking about the kind of future
your baby would have in an adoptive home would make the decision easier. Most women would not want to give up their baby, unless it would benefit them in the long run. This does not make you a bad mother, but a loving one. Best wishes!
your baby would have in an adoptive home would make the decision easier. Most women would not want to give up their baby, unless it would benefit them in the long run. This does not make you a bad mother, but a loving one. Best wishes!
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It is difficult to give advise because of the difference in cultural norms in China, but I think from my point of view, the baby comes first.
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eumundibabe: sent it me i will love it
Really, would you want it???? seriously?
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this might be an ignorant question but...does China still have the one child law ? My son recently read in school something about schadow children or families..where a familiy has 3 children..so I am wondering..
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Karma10: Really, would you want it???? seriously?
i will love any baby who is unloved
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rainlucy: they said its very irresponsible if I want to keep this baby just because I want,I should think more about his future.what sore of life I could offer him..I cant just bring this baby to this world to suffer.just because "I want"....is it right?I am so confused now.what can I do to keep my baby?
Its irresponsible of him not to support the child that he made just as much as you did.
He needs to take responsibility for his actions and not just complain that you need to take all the responsibility on your own so that he doesn't feel victimised.
Let me at him - I want to slap some sense into him!!!
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hey...i had my daughter without her father offering support because i left him....he regrets it now he ....can not get the same respect now as she wont let him.......i will love a baby if you dont want it.....please think about what ur options are...in a few years you will regret the wrong decision....allbabies are meant to be loved...you were a baby once
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eumundibabe: hey...i had my daughter without her father offering support because i left him....he regrets it now he ....can not get the same respect now as she wont let him.......i will love a baby if you dont want it.....please think about what ur options are...in a few years you will regret the wrong decision....all
babies are meant to be loved...you were a baby once
babies are meant to be loved...you were a baby once
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He should be responsible for the child as much as you. He helped you make this baby. I think it's awful that he's pressuring you to abort your baby. I hope that you can come to a decsion regarding this soon. Your boyfriend needs to grow up and be a man, take responsibility for his actions and do the right thing. If he thought it was too early for a baby he should have wrapped it before he tapped it. End of story.
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Thanks everyone here..I think only moms can underdtand how it feels when there a baby inside of our body.even if he is so small.
we havent really talk about it seriously since he asked me to give up.I think we still need to talk.
we havent really talk about it seriously since he asked me to give up.I think we still need to talk.
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ltlredcorvette: He should be responsible for the child as much as you. He helped you make this baby. I think it's awful that he's pressuring you to abort your baby. I hope that you can come to a decsion regarding this soon. Your boyfriend needs to grow up and be a man, take responsibility for his actions and do the right thing. If he thought it was too early for a baby he should have wrapped it before he tapped it. End of story.
I agree, he should have covered himself.
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rainlucy: Thanks everyone here..I think only moms can underdtand how it feels when there a baby inside of our body.even if he is so small.
we havent really talk about it seriously since he asked me to give up.I think we still need to talk.
we havent really talk about it seriously since he asked me to give up.I think we still need to talk.
Yes ..hun, I think you need to talk seriously and tell him that you have had so many abortions before and this time you just dont want to do it.. let him take some of the responsibility,
There are so many people in this world that so want a baby, its so sad that your options are limited.
I so hope you come to an agreement that favours the baby
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rainlucy: Thanks everyone here..I think only moms can underdtand how it feels when there a baby inside of our body.even if he is so small.
we havent really talk about it seriously since he asked me to give up.I think we still need to talk.
we havent really talk about it seriously since he asked me to give up.I think we still need to talk.
you have my heart, but one question.....
Why are you on this site????
I am not being nasty and all are welocme but it just seems really strange to me if you have a boyfriend and your culture
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Dreamyone: you have my heart, but one question.....
Why are you on this site????
I am not being nasty and all are welocme but it just seems really strange to me if you have a boyfriend and your culture
Why are you on this site????
I am not being nasty and all are welocme but it just seems really strange to me if you have a boyfriend and your culture
I discovered this website last year and sometimes I come here for the forums and read the nice potries...I think its good to talk people from different countries so we could learn more about life attitudes.
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jac379: Again, all the responsibity being put upon Rainlucy with a hefty dose of guilt.
Read my post above.
If men took their share of the responsibility, maybe she wouldn't be in this position, eh?
Read my post above.
If men took their share of the responsibility, maybe she wouldn't be in this position, eh?
I did read your post Jac...but as women we all know that there are many men who don't take responsibility...and it is always the woman that is left holding the baby...so I feel that after Rainlucy has been caught so many times she should be the one taking responsibility for herself.
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rainlucy: I discovered this website last year and sometimes I come here for the forums and read the nice potries...I think its good to talk people from different countries so we could learn more about life attitudes.
oh ok, like I said i didn't mean to be rude. I am glad you have found friends here.
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jac379: Again, all the responsibity being put upon Rainlucy with a hefty dose of guilt.
Read my post above.
If men took their share of the responsibility, maybe she wouldn't be in this position, eh?
Read my post above.
If men took their share of the responsibility, maybe she wouldn't be in this position, eh?
Thanks for all the supports for me..I know I made big mistakes on birth control.whatever the decision would be.I will have birth control or surgery to stop pregnant anyway after this time.
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rainlucy: Thanks for all the supports for me..I know I made big mistakes on birth control.whatever the decision would be.I will have birth control or surgery to stop pregnant anyway after this time.
Rainlucy I am sorry that you are in this situation and again your a faced with a big decision. At the age of twenty six I would not be suggesting surgery but definitely some kind of birth control. You need to consider that you will one day marry and probably want a child with your husband but after so many terminations there is also a risk of that not happening due to too many lesions. You need to take care of yourself mentally as well as physically. Goodluck in whatever you decide xx
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