The advantage and disadvantages of internet relationship? (15)
princess2011Boynton Beach, Florida USA50 Threads 63 PostsWhat are the advantage and disadvantages of internet relationship?
YOU JEWEL
YOU ARE TOO FAR AWAY
TRINAJAN
YOU ARE TOO FAR AWAY
TRINAJAN
Advantages? Well it sort of gives the illusion one is not totally alone, there is someone to chat to, instead of just talking to oneself and the cat, and the excitement of finding replies to emails, all that sort of thing, it helps the illusion.
Dis-advantages? Major! We`re spread out all over the frigging planet earth!
Dis-advantages? Major! We`re spread out all over the frigging planet earth!
The advantages are that there is no pressure and you can get to know people through the power of their written words, this is important to me. However, the disadvantages outweigh the advantages, it is a slow method of forming a relationship and there are too many weirdos and deceitful people who join dating sites so it is very difficult to trust. The main drawback is the distance involved in so many potential relationships which makes it almost impossible to 'see it through'.
That is IT.... in a nutshell, Jan ! Well put, and good description.At some point you have to step out of the virtual world into the real world. It can be a difficult transition...phone calls, writing letters and meeting face to face...the more often, the better.
I've had some fizzled relationships online that never materialized because we couldn't handle the transition. It is far too easy to "fall in love with the little man inside our computer"....it can become an escape from reality.
It is, therefore, important to use the computer for communication but to transition into the real world to make a lasting reltionship "real" and not remain "virtual".
I am too shy to be approached in real life, I prefer the internet for being my true self...in that sense it is an advantage. The disadvantage is the virtual world is a better escape and an illusion in every sense.
I've had some fizzled relationships online that never materialized because we couldn't handle the transition. It is far too easy to "fall in love with the little man inside our computer"....it can become an escape from reality.
It is, therefore, important to use the computer for communication but to transition into the real world to make a lasting reltionship "real" and not remain "virtual".
I am too shy to be approached in real life, I prefer the internet for being my true self...in that sense it is an advantage. The disadvantage is the virtual world is a better escape and an illusion in every sense.
A very old thread .. but quite pertinent ... any comments?
May be.... Once it's been established that both are serious and "trustworhty", it's a way of having the space to find out what makes them tick, mull over "loads of stuff" before the physical side of the relationship takes over and the lovey dovey feeling that follows serves as a smoke screen to the "other loads of stuff" that's not so good but chose to ignore so as not to spoil the lovey dovey feeling....
May be....
May be....
Even if I repeat myself here -
if you want to make it real - you have to find a way to start and stop waiting…..
Until your car or home is paid off
Until you get a new car or home
Until your kids leave the house
Until you go back to school
Until you finish school
Until you clean the house
Until you organize the garage
Until you clean off your desk
Until you lose 10 lbs.
Until you gain 10 lbs.
Until you get married
Until you get a divorce
Until you have kids
Until the kids go to school
Until you retire
Until summer
Until spring
Until winter
Until fall
Until you die…
There is no better time than right now to be happy.
Happiness is a journey, not a destination.
So work like you don’t need money.
Love like you’ve never been hurt, and, Dance like no one’s watching.
Don’t be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.
if you want to make it real - you have to find a way to start and stop waiting…..
Until your car or home is paid off
Until you get a new car or home
Until your kids leave the house
Until you go back to school
Until you finish school
Until you clean the house
Until you organize the garage
Until you clean off your desk
Until you lose 10 lbs.
Until you gain 10 lbs.
Until you get married
Until you get a divorce
Until you have kids
Until the kids go to school
Until you retire
Until summer
Until spring
Until winter
Until fall
Until you die…
There is no better time than right now to be happy.
Happiness is a journey, not a destination.
So work like you don’t need money.
Love like you’ve never been hurt, and, Dance like no one’s watching.
Don’t be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.
YES YES YES and yes --- si ! even ---- "Smokes" you little devene--- (Female version of Devil
In total agreement with you H/F with the principal of the idea 
But! There's a but!
FOR ME it's like when one is building a house....If one is so eager to get the house off the ground that one does not "build" some solid foundations, then later cracks start to appear all over the walls. Those can be patched up of course, but eventually there will be the need for a total re-evaluation and some serious underpinning at (sometimes) great cost. And sometimes the underpinning comes too late...I know all this coz my dad's a builder!
When a solid foundation has been laid (together) one can dance the wildest dance, sing the loudest song, cry the loudest tears, explore the wildest dreams... In the safe "knowing" that however many blizzards wreck the walls and roof, the foundation is there to stay!
Those are my own personal needs for myself.
But! There's a but!
FOR ME it's like when one is building a house....If one is so eager to get the house off the ground that one does not "build" some solid foundations, then later cracks start to appear all over the walls. Those can be patched up of course, but eventually there will be the need for a total re-evaluation and some serious underpinning at (sometimes) great cost. And sometimes the underpinning comes too late...I know all this coz my dad's a builder!
When a solid foundation has been laid (together) one can dance the wildest dance, sing the loudest song, cry the loudest tears, explore the wildest dreams... In the safe "knowing" that however many blizzards wreck the walls and roof, the foundation is there to stay!
Those are my own personal needs for myself.
I talk almost every day with a very dear friend of mine, he is a geniouse generouse personality. His life was dedicated to research as renewed Professor to Univerities in Astrophysics and Molecular Physics..while he was single parenting his 2 daughters..
Wealthy but selfless and politically very compassionate to help others and all the problems in the world.
e was so healthy in mind and body, non smoker -no alkholic drinks ever - now with just 60 years the diagnose was lunge fibrosis last state - its fatal if a matching donar organ is not found now.
He tells me every day in one way or another live today - because you might die far sooner as you ever experted ..
the things to regret you dont have done in life - are far greater as the ones you should have not done - when it comes to it
Wealthy but selfless and politically very compassionate to help others and all the problems in the world.
e was so healthy in mind and body, non smoker -no alkholic drinks ever - now with just 60 years the diagnose was lunge fibrosis last state - its fatal if a matching donar organ is not found now.
He tells me every day in one way or another live today - because you might die far sooner as you ever experted ..
the things to regret you dont have done in life - are far greater as the ones you should have not done - when it comes to it
Yes Yes and Yes! These next couple of months are my foundation to being in a position to have the absolute freedom to do exactely that! Still tying up the loose ends of my past "regimented" life! TEEEEEEEEEEEEEhEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!
é viva la vida Ondelay!!!!
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