"Do not be excessively frank. Do not take pride in offensively expressing yourself on every occasion under the impression that you will be admired for your frankness." ~Unknown Author
KontikitactOPsilkeborg, Central Jutland Denmark797 posts
amahlala: Honesty is the best policy....however:
"Do not be excessively frank. Do not take pride in offensively expressing yourself on every occasion under the impression that you will be admired for your frankness." ~Unknown Author
Excessive honesty....it either is or it is'nt...or am I mistaken...I understand your reasoning,but offence is only taken by the recipient...is it not !
Godsgift: Well, there's honesty and then there's unrestrained brutality!
'A truth that's told with bad intent Beats any lie you can invent!'William Blake
Agree with you on that one ... if "honesty" is used as a tool rather than it flowing because it just is ... I am not quite sure it could be called honesty ...
Also to bear in mind ... something I have come accross many times ... far too many people think of themselves as honest by "convincing" themselves they are doing something (any particular thing) for a particular reason.
Then you realise their is an undercurrent that doesn't match the on the surface stuff.
That's because people lie to themselves about what motivates their actions to hide from themselves who they truly are and of course to be better lie to others ...
Kontikitact: Excessive honesty....it either is or it is'nt...or am I mistaken...I understand your reasoning,but offence is only taken by the recipient...is it not !
Some people think they are being honest by sharing their opinions. Thing is, their opinon is only THEIR perception of it.
The person being honest would need to be truly aware of what motivates their sharing of opinion. If the ego is involved, forget it, they are not being honest, not even with themselves
KontikitactOPsilkeborg, Central Jutland Denmark797 posts
EagleWoman: Agree with you on that one ... if "honesty" is used as a tool rather than it flowing because it just is ... I am not quite sure it could be called honesty ...
Also to bear in mind ... something I have come accross many times ... far too many people think of themselves as honest by "convincing" themselves they are doing something (any particular thing) for a particular reason.
Then you realise their is an undercurrent that doesn't match the on the surface stuff.
That's because people lie to themselves about what motivates their actions to hide from themselves who they truly are and of course to be better lie to others ...
I deter an extended "Time lapse" in your post...And I agree with your words...my question is..as stated,time has not been mentioned !
EagleWoman: Agree with you on that one ... if "honesty" is used as a tool rather than it flowing because it just is ... I am not quite sure it could be called honesty ...
Also to bear in mind ... something I have come accross many times ... far too many people think of themselves as honest by "convincing" themselves they are doing something (any particular thing) for a particular reason.
Then you realise their is an undercurrent that doesn't match the on the surface stuff.
That's because people lie to themselves about what motivates their actions to hide from themselves who they truly are and of course to be better lie to others ...
That's a very human trait....to cover up a selfish motive with a good one....even to ourselves! But now we're getting into self honesty!
Kontikitact: Excessive honesty....it either is or it is'nt...or am I mistaken...I understand your reasoning,but offence is only taken by the recipient...is it not !
I have seen some who believe that their excessive honesty is helpful to the person they are giving it to but find out later that they had an ulterior motive in wanting to hurt the other person.
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