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josingleinspainLa Cala, Andalusia Spain86 Threads 1 Polls 430 PostsIf got married what would you as a woman or a man think is a good and fair way to deal with a marriage. In regard to the household, finance, chores in the house, and even when you are living together as a married couple and the space in the house.
josingleinspain: If got married what would you as a woman or a man think is a good and fair way to deal with a marriage. In regard to the household, finance, chores in the house, and even when you are living together as a married couple and the space in the house.
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Fine thanx you yes I will be back now. Thanx for askinglong time no see....how are you?
josingleinspain: If got married what would you as a woman or a man think is a .
Bottom line would have been..... (I'd been tamed)
josingleinspain: If got married what would you as a woman or a man think is a good and fair way to deal with a marriage. In regard to the household, finance, chores in the house, and even when you are living together as a married couple and the space in the house.
Hi Jo longtime no see.
I think marriage, like anything else where 2 people are involved is giva and take and share and share alike. It takes 2 to make a mrriage work not one as many MEN think so. How many marriages fail cos in the courting days he does everything and anything, once the ring is on thats it. More or less well shes mine now, shes there and thats when the lazyiness sets in along with the complacency. Who is the first to notice things arent what they used to be, of course the woman.
josingleinspain: If got married what would you as a woman or a man think is a good and fair way to deal with a marriage. In regard to the household, finance, chores in the house, and even when you are living together as a married couple and the space in the house.
Oh poor guy, tell him my sympathies.
I wouldn't get married and do all the thing you mentioned myself which I do anyway.
Malbarido: Oh poor guy, tell him my sympathies.
O trust me he needs no sympathy. He get everything done for him, yes he is bring in the beacon so too speak but nothing more then that.josingleinspain: If got married what would you as a woman or a man think is a good and fair way to deal with a marriage. In regard to the household, finance, chores in the house, and even when you are living together as a married couple and the space in the house.
So nobody has much advice then????????
josingleinspain: So nobody has much advice then????????
Well… don’t know whether there’s any meaning in given advice – every couple adjusts to each other as it suits them, and only them, best.
I’d divide as follows: my rules in the kitchen and in the bath room. His – in the garage and garden. And you have to compromise in front of TV and in the bed room.
As to money… that’s a question, isn’t it?
Tulefel: Well… don’t know whether there’s any meaning in given advice – every couple adjusts to each other as it suits them, and only them, best.
I’d divide as follows: my rules in the kitchen and in the bath room. His – in the garage and garden. And you have to compromise in front of TV and in the bed room.
As to money… that’s a question, isn’t it?
Thanx for that.....As for the money side at the moment I am working just not making much money at the moment. So I guess it is not easy on that score at the moment.I’d divide as follows: my rules in the kitchen and in the bath room. His – in the garage and garden. And you have to compromise in front of TV and in the bed room.
As to money… that’s a question, isn’t it?
I`ve seen the longest and most successful marriages seem to be when the man takes care of the Outside of the house, and from the front door to the back door of the house is the women`s domain.
He is in charge of Outside, and she is in charge of the Inside.
Money side of things? ..... Whoever brings in the most money enjoys a bit of pampering .. and whoever brings in the least makes up for it in other ways..... keeping the house clean, doing the laundry, dusting, cooking, etc ......
He is in charge of Outside, and she is in charge of the Inside.
Money side of things? ..... Whoever brings in the most money enjoys a bit of pampering .. and whoever brings in the least makes up for it in other ways..... keeping the house clean, doing the laundry, dusting, cooking, etc ......
smoky: I`ve seen the longest and most successful marriages seem to be when the man takes care of the Outside of the house, and from the front door to the back door of the house is the women`s domain.
He is in charge of Outside, and she is in charge of the Inside.
Money side of things? ..... Whoever brings in the most money enjoys a bit of pampering .. and whoever brings in the least makes up for it in other ways..... keeping the house clean, doing the laundry, dusting, cooking, etc ......
He is in charge of Outside, and she is in charge of the Inside.
Money side of things? ..... Whoever brings in the most money enjoys a bit of pampering .. and whoever brings in the least makes up for it in other ways..... keeping the house clean, doing the laundry, dusting, cooking, etc ......
Tried to google “Wage gap”, haven’t found anything recent. Though I remember seeing for a couple years ago in a Swedish newspaper that the average wage gap in EU is women earning 0.86 of men’s salary, ceteris paribus, and Sweden laying exactly on that average. Conclusion: chances are, I will ALWAYS earn less money than my partner by design of this world. Just because I am a woman.
For the second, I’ve been in a couple of relationships and my experience, here as well as there, is that first things men, though fully capable to house work, do is to delegate all, and I mean ALL, house work to the nearest woman. Yes, in absence of his mother, it’s me.
That’s was a prelude. The lude itself: I don’t think that you have to put all your money into your relationship. There are some basics to be maintained and you can share paying for it, equally or in some other proportions you’ve agreed upon.
And by any means, I have no intention to “make up” by slaving in the kitchen just because my partner earns more than me. He can put the excess wherever he wants.
Deeper.
josingleinspain: If got married what would you as a woman or a man think is a good and fair way to deal with a marriage. In regard to the household, finance, chores in the house, and even when you are living together as a married couple and the space in the house.
What happened to "Give" and "Take"?
You give, I take, works wonders.
But seriously, why ruin a good relationship with marriage? Marriage is the biggest cause for separations and divorce.
If marriage has to be, then my advice to the man would be:
Drill a hole from one ear to the other, so that what goes in one ear, goes out through the other ear.
Adopt a three "yes", one "no" and occasionally, mumble "Sorry, what was that again?"
Remember, "He" is the chief, but it is "She" who commands.
Bental: What happened to "Give" and "Take"?
You give, I take, works wonders.
But seriously, why ruin a good relationship with marriage? Marriage is the biggest cause for separations and divorce.
If marriage has to be, then my advice to the man would be:
Drill a hole from one ear to the other, so that what goes in one ear, goes out through the other ear.
Adopt a three "yes", one "no" and occasionally, mumble "Sorry, what was that again?"
Remember, "He" is the chief, but it is "She" who commands.
You give, I take, works wonders.
But seriously, why ruin a good relationship with marriage? Marriage is the biggest cause for separations and divorce.
If marriage has to be, then my advice to the man would be:
Drill a hole from one ear to the other, so that what goes in one ear, goes out through the other ear.
Adopt a three "yes", one "no" and occasionally, mumble "Sorry, what was that again?"
Remember, "He" is the chief, but it is "She" who commands.
Zimzane: I wouldn't get married and do all the thing you mentioned myself which I do anyway.
josingleinspain: If got married what would you as a woman or a man think is a good and fair way to deal with a marriage. In regard to the household, finance, chores in the house, and even when you are living together as a married couple and the space in the house.
Making a conmmitment (with marriage or not) implies to share and to give the best of every one. I do not think a relationship has to be on a 50/50 whatever situation is. Sometimes, more from one side, others from the other part but both working for the same project.
Wondering how they divide duties in royal families… Will Kate make up for her husband by laundering his shorts few times a day?
josingleinspain: If got married what would you as a woman or a man think is a good and fair way to deal with a marriage. In regard to the household, finance, chores in the house, and even when you are living together as a married couple and the space in the house.
50,50,
craig63: 50,50,
When I was in my 20's and I was marrried I wished to have a 50:50 relationship with the father of my children but...
At that time we both had the same job and same salary (Agricultural research) so at that point it was 50:50 regarding to money ...
In my culture women get more involved with children education, so did I and I was the one taking our children to school, to the dentist, to the extra classes -art, swimming,etc...- to the doctor's, etc. and etc. Then our relathionship was not 50:50 it was more like 80:20 regarding to family care.
I would have stayed in my marriage no matter the ratio of money or family care. I did love my family and I do, so it did not matter to me how much I was putting into my family, I gave all I had.
And if I had to repeat that I might do it again.
josingleinspain: If got married what would you as a woman or a man think is a good and fair way to deal with a marriage. In regard to the household, finance, chores in the house, and even when you are living together as a married couple and the space in the house.
marriage..everything shared ,account,cleaning, cooking,bitcxhing,...take the whole package and devide it down the middle...it's called commitment/respect...you wanna live single and think single..don't get married !!!!!!!!More Threads
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