When Do You Walk Away??.... ( Archived) (32)

i stay as long as it is beneficial for my children. when i determine that it isn't...as in the case of my husband...i get the hell out.

i've never worried about whether it was good for ME or not...just them.

I'm not one who gives up easily and will go the extra mile to make something work. But when my love becomes too much work to give, then it is time to go. I had no regrets when I left except that I wished that he had seen the light and tried harder. This was my ex and we still talk on the phone. He has bad alcohol problems and we talk all the time. I still will be there for him to lend a helping hand support him while he is trying. But there will never ever be another chance for us. I make sure that he knows this on a regular basis. I meant to say this is my ex bf of 5 years. I still love this man, but it is not the be with him kind of love.
Kat

To me, the whole concept of a relationship having "run its course" suggests a different meaning for the word "relationship" as I think of it.

As most of you know, I've never married. What most of you mostly likely don't know is that the reason why I never marred is that I never feel in "true love" with someone who was simultaneously truly in love with me. I've certainly been in lust and I've had many women lust for me. But lust is not love and I've always known that.

Lust will "run its course", love will never die. It's not just a romantic notion. It simply the definitions that separate the meanings of the words.

So for me, the idea of a relationship having "run its course" is simply a concept that has no meaning because I would never become involved in loveless relationships. When I fall in love, it's love of the heart, not love of the flesh. And I can instantly tell whether that love is being recognized and returned, or whether I'm just the object of someone's lust. I mean, I don't need to ask. I know. It's an automatic thing.

If you feel a need to question whether someone really loves you, the answer is quite simply, "They don't"

Mutually agree to walk away has always been my way. Both of my divorces were Nolo Contendre. When it is over it is over. No need to prolong the agony.

I will try to do whatever it takes but when I notice it is a oneway street it is over......

I've been in a abusive relationship for a few years and I know for sure that the moment I feel controled and not respected it is over. I'm not gonna listen again to somebodys broken promisses......

I know there is more I can say but my brain is shutting down

i have been through some crap to try and make a relationship work but have come to relize that if i am hurting and the man doesnt want to hear about how it makes me feel then whats the point he doesnt care to begin with in my eyes

I know you do Kris...

It is a shame when i see so many good men and women who have so much to give...and yet they choose the ones undeserving of that love to give it to...

(myself included... )

Great Thread Wikked!!

I'm with all of you!

About face - and don't look back....no matter how good, bad or ugly the departure.