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I have a question for y'all..
We have a friend who used to be dependant on hard drugs but has been off them for some months now. He is a drifter, 46 years old with no fixed abode, estranged children, but basically a decent, kind hearted guy. My guy has known him for some years, so kind of vouched for him.
He has replaced the hard drugs with alcohol and weed, although he still "functions" to a certain extent on a day to day basis.
We agreed to let him stay in our back yard caravan rent free, in return for helping around the place and generally watching our property if we were not around, due to former problems with neighbors. We thought this would be a great opportunity for him to get his life together, do some honest work and get balanced.
However, it is becoming an untenable situation, as he wanders in any time of the day or evening, disturbs our peace, uses us as "shrinks" as he says he has no-one else to turn to.
I am wondering if we are doing the right thing for him, or not. By allowing him his own space, and a fixed place to live we thought we were helping; but it is becoming more of a place to "enable" him, to allow him to party and have no real rules.
We are both kind-hearted folk, who would give anyone our last dime, but we both have an uncomfortable feeling now that we are doing more harm than good.
I feel the only real way for him to get real is to get "official" help, but unless he wants that himself, no-one else can do it for him.
What do you think? Curious as to your opinions. Are we making him worse or are we doing the right thing?