I had a mate who had been going out for six months with a lady and didn't even hold hands. He was worried that the lady felt he was not interested, but had no idea what to do. So I said, you grab her hand and from her reaction you will know if your approach is welcome.
After the weekend he came to work all happy-clappy. It worked.
What are your experiences? How long do you go out before holding hands, hugging and kissing?
In response to: I had a mate who had been going out for six months with a lady and didn't even hold hands. He was worried that the lady felt he was not interested, but had no idea what to do. So I said, you grab her hand and from her reaction you will know if your approach is welcome.
After the weekend he came to work all happy-clappy. It worked.
What are your experiences? How long do you go out before holding hands, hugging and kissing?
I dont think you can put a time on it.
Honestly with me personally I am very gun shy. I usually take the stand off approach, keep my personal space so to speak.
But when you meet someone that you know is just right, its just there. It will come naturally.
I think thats the key, when it comes natural its real.
If you need to think about it, dodge it, not look forward to it. Then there is a problem.
awesome71Sawtell, New South Wales Australia2,927 posts
revealer24: I had a mate who had been going out for six months with a lady and didn't even hold hands. He was worried that the lady felt he was not interested, but had no idea what to do. So I said, you grab her hand and from her reaction you will know if your approach is welcome.
After the weekend he came to work all happy-clappy. It worked.
What are your experiences? How long do you go out before holding hands, hugging and kissing?
akaRALFBacchus Marsh, Victoria Australia1,360 posts
In response to: I had a mate who had been going out for six months with a lady and didn't even hold hands. He was worried that the lady felt he was not interested, but had no idea what to do. So I said, you grab her hand and from her reaction you will know if your approach is welcome.
After the weekend he came to work all happy-clappy. It worked.
What are your experiences? How long do you go out before holding hands, hugging and kissing?
I don't think I have ever really held hands with anybody. I much prefer my personal space than having someone hanging onto me. I am not really a touchy feely person at all, even when people touch me when they are speaking I feel a bit 'invaded'. My mum is always telling people about my 'ring of confidence, I think she means my 'personal space' but some people get really offended that I seem standoffish and probably sometimes look confused when they come in to give me a peck on the cheek.
DarkhorsemanGladstonia ... it's a strange, Queensland Australia1,304 posts
You probably should make an attempt at holding their hand after you have slipped a bit of tongue in.
Of course, the main reason (and probably why hand holding evolved) is that if you have control of their hand they won't be able to slap, stab or strangle you.
I like to hold hands , if all is comfortable on the first date its nice to hold hands plus I get to feel if his feelings are the same ,he / she will balk at holding your hand if their is no attraction Alot can be asertained by the touch of a hand .
akaRALFBacchus Marsh, Victoria Australia1,360 posts
kizzy27: I like to hold hands , if all is comfortable on the first date its nice to hold hands plus I get to feel if his feelings are the same ,he / she will balk at holding your hand if their is no attraction Alot can be asertained by the touch of a hand .
I wish I could but I find it really uncomfortable (not only personally but physically) holding hands, and walking arm in arm. I feel uncoordinated or like I am being held down. And another thing I dislike is sitting on someone's lap?? I know...i am messed up!
normalguy68Wonthaggi, Victoria Australia1,829 posts
revealer24: I had a mate who had been going out for six months with a lady and didn't even hold hands. He was worried that the lady felt he was not interested, but had no idea what to do. So I said, you grab her hand and from her reaction you will know if your approach is welcome.
After the weekend he came to work all happy-clappy. It worked.
What are your experiences? How long do you go out before holding hands, hugging and kissing?
On the first date after the garlic prawns and VB's, you place your hand on hers, swing her around while throwing your other hand behind her to give a big embrace and then plant a big smoochie tongue kiss on her.
normalguy68Wonthaggi, Victoria Australia1,829 posts
akaRALF: I wish I could but I find it really uncomfortable (not only personally but physically) holding hands, and walking arm in arm. I feel uncoordinated or like I am being held down. And another thing I dislike is sitting on someone's lap?? I know...i am messed up!
akaRALF: I wish I could but I find it really uncomfortable (not only personally but physically) holding hands, and walking arm in arm. I feel uncoordinated or like I am being held down. And another thing I dislike is sitting on someone's lap?? I know...i am messed up!
I don't think you are messed up Ralph. I think we all have little things that we feel invade our personal space. Mine is people that get right up in your face when they talk. I can't stand it.
I personally love sitting on someones lap. But as I said we all have a little erks and perks.
normalguy68Wonthaggi, Victoria Australia1,829 posts
sxc666: I don't think you are messed up Ralph. I think we all have little things that we feel invade our personal space. Mine is people that get right up in your face when they talk. I can't stand it.
I personally love sitting on someones lap. But as I said we all have a little erks and perks.
I don't like new dates sitting on my lap, it confuses my head and messes with my emotions.
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After the weekend he came to work all happy-clappy. It worked.
What are your experiences? How long do you go out before holding hands, hugging and kissing?