His easy ride and how to deal with it . . . (22)
Ulimaroa: A close girl friend (Miss Lovely) called me today.
She has been seeing a guy (called Mr Easyride) for two years now.
He is separated, has two children in their teens.
They live with their mother 400 km North from him.
Actually the younger still lives with the mother, the other has gone to boarding school and is very happy there.
Now Miss Lovely (my g/f) is highly educated, holds down a full time job, is a mother of two and separated as well.
The relationship between Miss Lovely and Mr Easyride has its ups and downs as every relationship.
They don’t live with each other.
He has a small place of his own.
She has her place with the kids
One major issue rearing its head every once in a while, is caused by his laziness organizing quality time with Miss Lovely.
She:
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He:
works full time.
When it comes planning trips he wants as well, it’s always her suggesting the destination, researching, organizing, planning, booking, and ending up paying her fare, expenses, dinners.
I am talking of weekend trips, or the odd longer trip.
Never he invites her and hardly ever he pays for a meal.
A week ago he said his kids were going to spend their summer holiday with their mother in Sth America.
He asked Mis Lovely (his G/f) to select a destination (do planning etc as usual) for a holiday with him.
Time away two weeks.
His reasoning, as to why he couldn’t do the trip planning himself was his exhaustion.
She
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He
works full time.
She spent minimum 8 hours spread over several days planning a vacation he had suggested.
The day they wanted to discuss it he rang to say, he cant make it.
Sth America wont be on the cards for the kids, things changed, and now he will be taking his kids on a trip to Korea for the first two weeks of his leave.
(Korea! a place she always wanted to visit with him.)
At any rate, she could plan a trip with him for the six days following his return.
Now I ask you; How do you think she is feeling?
What should she do to change the pattern?
She has been seeing a guy (called Mr Easyride) for two years now.
He is separated, has two children in their teens.
They live with their mother 400 km North from him.
Actually the younger still lives with the mother, the other has gone to boarding school and is very happy there.
Now Miss Lovely (my g/f) is highly educated, holds down a full time job, is a mother of two and separated as well.
The relationship between Miss Lovely and Mr Easyride has its ups and downs as every relationship.
They don’t live with each other.
He has a small place of his own.
She has her place with the kids
One major issue rearing its head every once in a while, is caused by his laziness organizing quality time with Miss Lovely.
She:
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He:
works full time.
When it comes planning trips he wants as well, it’s always her suggesting the destination, researching, organizing, planning, booking, and ending up paying her fare, expenses, dinners.
I am talking of weekend trips, or the odd longer trip.
Never he invites her and hardly ever he pays for a meal.
A week ago he said his kids were going to spend their summer holiday with their mother in Sth America.
He asked Mis Lovely (his G/f) to select a destination (do planning etc as usual) for a holiday with him.
Time away two weeks.
His reasoning, as to why he couldn’t do the trip planning himself was his exhaustion.
She
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He
works full time.
She spent minimum 8 hours spread over several days planning a vacation he had suggested.
The day they wanted to discuss it he rang to say, he cant make it.
Sth America wont be on the cards for the kids, things changed, and now he will be taking his kids on a trip to Korea for the first two weeks of his leave.
(Korea! a place she always wanted to visit with him.)
At any rate, she could plan a trip with him for the six days following his return.
Now I ask you; How do you think she is feeling?
What should she do to change the pattern?
drop him like a bad habit and not look back
nothing else will work
he won't change
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felixis99: drop him like a bad habit and not look back
nothing else will work
he won't change
nothing else will work
he won't change
That's exactly what I was gonna say
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Maybe we should mind our own business and let them sort it out?...they are adults no?
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Ulimaroa: A close girl friend (Miss Lovely) called me today.
She has been seeing a guy (called Mr Easyride) for two years now.
He is separated, has two children in their teens.
They live with their mother 400 km North from him.
Actually the younger still lives with the mother, the other has gone to boarding school and is very happy there.
Now Miss Lovely (my g/f) is highly educated, holds down a full time job, is a mother of two and separated as well.
The relationship between Miss Lovely and Mr Easyride has its ups and downs as every relationship.
They don’t live with each other.
He has a small place of his own.
She has her place with the kids
One major issue rearing its head every once in a while, is caused by his laziness organizing quality time with Miss Lovely.
She:
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He:
works full time.
When it comes planning trips he wants as well, it’s always her suggesting the destination, researching, organizing, planning, booking, and ending up paying her fare, expenses, dinners.
I am talking of weekend trips, or the odd longer trip.
Never he invites her and hardly ever he pays for a meal.
A week ago he said his kids were going to spend their summer holiday with their mother in Sth America.
He asked Mis Lovely (his G/f) to select a destination (do planning etc as usual) for a holiday with him.
Time away two weeks.
His reasoning, as to why he couldn’t do the trip planning himself was his exhaustion.
She
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He
works full time.
She spent minimum 8 hours spread over several days planning a vacation he had suggested.
The day they wanted to discuss it he rang to say, he cant make it.
Sth America wont be on the cards for the kids, things changed, and now he will be taking his kids on a trip to Korea for the first two weeks of his leave.
(Korea! a place she always wanted to visit with him.)
At any rate, she could plan a trip with him for the six days following his return.
Now I ask you; How do you think she is feeling?
What should she do to change the pattern?
She has been seeing a guy (called Mr Easyride) for two years now.
He is separated, has two children in their teens.
They live with their mother 400 km North from him.
Actually the younger still lives with the mother, the other has gone to boarding school and is very happy there.
Now Miss Lovely (my g/f) is highly educated, holds down a full time job, is a mother of two and separated as well.
The relationship between Miss Lovely and Mr Easyride has its ups and downs as every relationship.
They don’t live with each other.
He has a small place of his own.
She has her place with the kids
One major issue rearing its head every once in a while, is caused by his laziness organizing quality time with Miss Lovely.
She:
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He:
works full time.
When it comes planning trips he wants as well, it’s always her suggesting the destination, researching, organizing, planning, booking, and ending up paying her fare, expenses, dinners.
I am talking of weekend trips, or the odd longer trip.
Never he invites her and hardly ever he pays for a meal.
A week ago he said his kids were going to spend their summer holiday with their mother in Sth America.
He asked Mis Lovely (his G/f) to select a destination (do planning etc as usual) for a holiday with him.
Time away two weeks.
His reasoning, as to why he couldn’t do the trip planning himself was his exhaustion.
She
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He
works full time.
She spent minimum 8 hours spread over several days planning a vacation he had suggested.
The day they wanted to discuss it he rang to say, he cant make it.
Sth America wont be on the cards for the kids, things changed, and now he will be taking his kids on a trip to Korea for the first two weeks of his leave.
(Korea! a place she always wanted to visit with him.)
At any rate, she could plan a trip with him for the six days following his return.
Now I ask you; How do you think she is feeling?
What should she do to change the pattern?
If they're adults I'd let them settle their problems themselves and keep my nose out.Not into telling friends what to do.
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MarkIP: Maybe we should mind our own business and let them sort it out?...they are adults no?
She asked were giving an opinion, simple as that
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I am sure there are great guys somewhere but this one, gosh I would place him on the compost pile.
Although he has his version on this and we do not have it.
Your story sounds too familiar to me.
Me and my partner (ex husband now) we had the same job, same responsibilities and same payment too for 10 years and still I was the one who would take care of our children and our home with a huge vegetable garden and lots of fruit trees, a pool and half basket ball court. Everything was on my charge.
To give the short story:
My son would ask
How come you and Dad have the same job but he has never time for us?
My daughter would say referring to his Dad.
“The person who comes to sleep here”
I do not dare to say that they never change nor do we.
If your friend is happy with him she should not complain if not she can change that and only her.
Ps. Lovely boy and I hope the Gent you are refering to is not in CS!!!!
Although he has his version on this and we do not have it.
Your story sounds too familiar to me.
Me and my partner (ex husband now) we had the same job, same responsibilities and same payment too for 10 years and still I was the one who would take care of our children and our home with a huge vegetable garden and lots of fruit trees, a pool and half basket ball court. Everything was on my charge.
To give the short story:
My son would ask
How come you and Dad have the same job but he has never time for us?
My daughter would say referring to his Dad.
“The person who comes to sleep here”
I do not dare to say that they never change nor do we.
If your friend is happy with him she should not complain if not she can change that and only her.
Ps. Lovely boy and I hope the Gent you are refering to is not in CS!!!!
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stepiladi: That's exactly what I was gonna say
have we been there or what?
^ hmmmm hidden agenda? above??? sounds like she's spoiled him and put up with too much - if he doesn't realize on his own that he needs to man up, there's only 1 best way to let him find that out
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MarkIP: and your point is?
my question is what is your agenda? why are you so defensive? are u guilty of the same?
we were asked for our opinions and we are giving them
you have no business on here trying to start trouble
that is MY point
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stepiladi: She asked were giving an opinion, simple as that
exactly
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Ulimaroa: A close girl friend (Miss Lovely) called me today.
She has been seeing a guy (called Mr Easyride) for two years now.
He is separated, has two children in their teens.
They live with their mother 400 km North from him.
Actually the younger still lives with the mother, the other has gone to boarding school and is very happy there.
Now Miss Lovely (my g/f) is highly educated, holds down a full time job, is a mother of two and separated as well.
The relationship between Miss Lovely and Mr Easyride has its ups and downs as every relationship.
They don’t live with each other.
He has a small place of his own.
She has her place with the kids
One major issue rearing its head every once in a while, is caused by his laziness organizing quality time with Miss Lovely.
She:
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He:
works full time.
When it comes planning trips he wants as well, it’s always her suggesting the destination, researching, organizing, planning, booking, and ending up paying her fare, expenses, dinners.
I am talking of weekend trips, or the odd longer trip.
Never he invites her and hardly ever he pays for a meal.
A week ago he said his kids were going to spend their summer holiday with their mother in Sth America.
He asked Mis Lovely (his G/f) to select a destination (do planning etc as usual) for a holiday with him.
Time away two weeks.
His reasoning, as to why he couldn’t do the trip planning himself was his exhaustion.
She
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He
works full time.
She spent minimum 8 hours spread over several days planning a vacation he had suggested.
The day they wanted to discuss it he rang to say, he cant make it.
Sth America wont be on the cards for the kids, things changed, and now he will be taking his kids on a trip to Korea for the first two weeks of his leave.
(Korea! a place she always wanted to visit with him.)
At any rate, she could plan a trip with him for the six days following his return.
Now I ask you; How do you think she is feeling?
What should she do to change the pattern?
She has been seeing a guy (called Mr Easyride) for two years now.
He is separated, has two children in their teens.
They live with their mother 400 km North from him.
Actually the younger still lives with the mother, the other has gone to boarding school and is very happy there.
Now Miss Lovely (my g/f) is highly educated, holds down a full time job, is a mother of two and separated as well.
The relationship between Miss Lovely and Mr Easyride has its ups and downs as every relationship.
They don’t live with each other.
He has a small place of his own.
She has her place with the kids
One major issue rearing its head every once in a while, is caused by his laziness organizing quality time with Miss Lovely.
She:
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He:
works full time.
When it comes planning trips he wants as well, it’s always her suggesting the destination, researching, organizing, planning, booking, and ending up paying her fare, expenses, dinners.
I am talking of weekend trips, or the odd longer trip.
Never he invites her and hardly ever he pays for a meal.
A week ago he said his kids were going to spend their summer holiday with their mother in Sth America.
He asked Mis Lovely (his G/f) to select a destination (do planning etc as usual) for a holiday with him.
Time away two weeks.
His reasoning, as to why he couldn’t do the trip planning himself was his exhaustion.
She
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He
works full time.
She spent minimum 8 hours spread over several days planning a vacation he had suggested.
The day they wanted to discuss it he rang to say, he cant make it.
Sth America wont be on the cards for the kids, things changed, and now he will be taking his kids on a trip to Korea for the first two weeks of his leave.
(Korea! a place she always wanted to visit with him.)
At any rate, she could plan a trip with him for the six days following his return.
Now I ask you; How do you think she is feeling?
What should she do to change the pattern?
Arsenic in his tea !!
Works a treat !!
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felixis99: my question is what is your agenda? why are you so defensive? are u guilty of the same?
we were asked for our opinions and we are giving them
you have no business on here trying to start trouble
that is MY point
we were asked for our opinions and we are giving them
you have no business on here trying to start trouble
that is MY point
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felixis99: my question is what is your agenda? why are you so defensive? are u guilty of the same?
we were asked for our opinions and we are giving them
you have no business on here trying to start trouble
that is MY point
we were asked for our opinions and we are giving them
you have no business on here trying to start trouble
that is MY point
lol
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Ulimaroa: A close girl friend (Miss Lovely) called me today.
She has been seeing a guy (called Mr Easyride) for two years now.
He is separated, has two children in their teens.
They live with their mother 400 km North from him.
Actually the younger still lives with the mother, the other has gone to boarding school and is very happy there.
Now Miss Lovely (my g/f) is highly educated, holds down a full time job, is a mother of two and separated as well.
The relationship between Miss Lovely and Mr Easyride has its ups and downs as every relationship.
They don’t live with each other.
He has a small place of his own.
She has her place with the kids
One major issue rearing its head every once in a while, is caused by his laziness organizing quality time with Miss Lovely.
She:
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He:
works full time.
When it comes planning trips he wants as well, it’s always her suggesting the destination, researching, organizing, planning, booking, and ending up paying her fare, expenses, dinners.
I am talking of weekend trips, or the odd longer trip.
Never he invites her and hardly ever he pays for a meal.
A week ago he said his kids were going to spend their summer holiday with their mother in Sth America.
He asked Mis Lovely (his G/f) to select a destination (do planning etc as usual) for a holiday with him.
Time away two weeks.
His reasoning, as to why he couldn’t do the trip planning himself was his exhaustion.
She
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He
works full time.
She spent minimum 8 hours spread over several days planning a vacation he had suggested.
The day they wanted to discuss it he rang to say, he cant make it.
Sth America wont be on the cards for the kids, things changed, and now he will be taking his kids on a trip to Korea for the first two weeks of his leave.
(Korea! a place she always wanted to visit with him.)
At any rate, she could plan a trip with him for the six days following his return.
Now I ask you; How do you think she is feeling?
What should she do to change the pattern?
She has been seeing a guy (called Mr Easyride) for two years now.
He is separated, has two children in their teens.
They live with their mother 400 km North from him.
Actually the younger still lives with the mother, the other has gone to boarding school and is very happy there.
Now Miss Lovely (my g/f) is highly educated, holds down a full time job, is a mother of two and separated as well.
The relationship between Miss Lovely and Mr Easyride has its ups and downs as every relationship.
They don’t live with each other.
He has a small place of his own.
She has her place with the kids
One major issue rearing its head every once in a while, is caused by his laziness organizing quality time with Miss Lovely.
She:
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He:
works full time.
When it comes planning trips he wants as well, it’s always her suggesting the destination, researching, organizing, planning, booking, and ending up paying her fare, expenses, dinners.
I am talking of weekend trips, or the odd longer trip.
Never he invites her and hardly ever he pays for a meal.
A week ago he said his kids were going to spend their summer holiday with their mother in Sth America.
He asked Mis Lovely (his G/f) to select a destination (do planning etc as usual) for a holiday with him.
Time away two weeks.
His reasoning, as to why he couldn’t do the trip planning himself was his exhaustion.
She
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He
works full time.
She spent minimum 8 hours spread over several days planning a vacation he had suggested.
The day they wanted to discuss it he rang to say, he cant make it.
Sth America wont be on the cards for the kids, things changed, and now he will be taking his kids on a trip to Korea for the first two weeks of his leave.
(Korea! a place she always wanted to visit with him.)
At any rate, she could plan a trip with him for the six days following his return.
Now I ask you; How do you think she is feeling?
What should she do to change the pattern?
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Ulimaroa: A close girl friend (Miss Lovely) called me today.
She has been seeing a guy (called Mr Easyride) for two years now.
He is separated, has two children in their teens.
They live with their mother 400 km North from him.
Actually the younger still lives with the mother, the other has gone to boarding school and is very happy there.
Now Miss Lovely (my g/f) is highly educated, holds down a full time job, is a mother of two and separated as well.
The relationship between Miss Lovely and Mr Easyride has its ups and downs as every relationship.
They don’t live with each other.
He has a small place of his own.
She has her place with the kids
One major issue rearing its head every once in a while, is caused by his laziness organizing quality time with Miss Lovely.
She:
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He:
works full time.
When it comes planning trips he wants as well, it’s always her suggesting the destination, researching, organizing, planning, booking, and ending up paying her fare, expenses, dinners.
I am talking of weekend trips, or the odd longer trip.
Never he invites her and hardly ever he pays for a meal.
A week ago he said his kids were going to spend their summer holiday with their mother in Sth America.
He asked Mis Lovely (his G/f) to select a destination (do planning etc as usual) for a holiday with him.
Time away two weeks.
His reasoning, as to why he couldn’t do the trip planning himself was his exhaustion.
She
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He
works full time.
She spent minimum 8 hours spread over several days planning a vacation he had suggested.
The day they wanted to discuss it he rang to say, he cant make it.
Sth America wont be on the cards for the kids, things changed, and now he will be taking his kids on a trip to Korea for the first two weeks of his leave.
(Korea! a place she always wanted to visit with him.)
At any rate, she could plan a trip with him for the six days following his return.
Now I ask you; How do you think she is feeling?
What should she do to change the pattern?
She has been seeing a guy (called Mr Easyride) for two years now.
He is separated, has two children in their teens.
They live with their mother 400 km North from him.
Actually the younger still lives with the mother, the other has gone to boarding school and is very happy there.
Now Miss Lovely (my g/f) is highly educated, holds down a full time job, is a mother of two and separated as well.
The relationship between Miss Lovely and Mr Easyride has its ups and downs as every relationship.
They don’t live with each other.
He has a small place of his own.
She has her place with the kids
One major issue rearing its head every once in a while, is caused by his laziness organizing quality time with Miss Lovely.
She:
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He:
works full time.
When it comes planning trips he wants as well, it’s always her suggesting the destination, researching, organizing, planning, booking, and ending up paying her fare, expenses, dinners.
I am talking of weekend trips, or the odd longer trip.
Never he invites her and hardly ever he pays for a meal.
A week ago he said his kids were going to spend their summer holiday with their mother in Sth America.
He asked Mis Lovely (his G/f) to select a destination (do planning etc as usual) for a holiday with him.
Time away two weeks.
His reasoning, as to why he couldn’t do the trip planning himself was his exhaustion.
She
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He
works full time.
She spent minimum 8 hours spread over several days planning a vacation he had suggested.
The day they wanted to discuss it he rang to say, he cant make it.
Sth America wont be on the cards for the kids, things changed, and now he will be taking his kids on a trip to Korea for the first two weeks of his leave.
(Korea! a place she always wanted to visit with him.)
At any rate, she could plan a trip with him for the six days following his return.
Now I ask you; How do you think she is feeling?
What should she do to change the pattern?
Amazing how his exhaustion disappeared to organise the Korea trip. Waste of space
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Ulimaroa:
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He:
works full time.
When it comes planning trips he wants as well, it’s always her suggesting the destination, researching, organizing, planning, booking, and ending up paying her fare, expenses, dinners.
I am talking of weekend trips, or the odd longer trip.
Never he invites her and hardly ever he pays for a meal.
A week ago he said his kids were going to spend their summer holiday with their mother in Sth America.
What should she do to change the pattern?
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He:
works full time.
When it comes planning trips he wants as well, it’s always her suggesting the destination, researching, organizing, planning, booking, and ending up paying her fare, expenses, dinners.
I am talking of weekend trips, or the odd longer trip.
Never he invites her and hardly ever he pays for a meal.
A week ago he said his kids were going to spend their summer holiday with their mother in Sth America.
What should she do to change the pattern?
It sounds like the guy doesn't care about her as much as she cares about him. I would be thinking he is a no-hoper. Maybe she could learn some tactics to keep him running after her instead of her running after him.
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Ulimaroa: A close girl friend (Miss Lovely) called me today.
She has been seeing a guy (called Mr Easyride) for two years now.
He is separated, has two children in their teens.
They live with their mother 400 km North from him.
Actually the younger still lives with the mother, the other has gone to boarding school and is very happy there.
Now Miss Lovely (my g/f) is highly educated, holds down a full time job, is a mother of two and separated as well.
The relationship between Miss Lovely and Mr Easyride has its ups and downs as every relationship.
They don’t live with each other.
He has a small place of his own.
She has her place with the kids
One major issue rearing its head every once in a while, is caused by his laziness organizing quality time with Miss Lovely.
She:
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He:
works full time.
When it comes planning trips he wants as well, it’s always her suggesting the destination, researching, organizing, planning, booking, and ending up paying her fare, expenses, dinners.
I am talking of weekend trips, or the odd longer trip.
Never he invites her and hardly ever he pays for a meal.
A week ago he said his kids were going to spend their summer holiday with their mother in Sth America.
He asked Mis Lovely (his G/f) to select a destination (do planning etc as usual) for a holiday with him.
Time away two weeks.
His reasoning, as to why he couldn’t do the trip planning himself was his exhaustion.
She
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He
works full time.
She spent minimum 8 hours spread over several days planning a vacation he had suggested.
The day they wanted to discuss it he rang to say, he cant make it.
Sth America wont be on the cards for the kids, things changed, and now he will be taking his kids on a trip to Korea for the first two weeks of his leave.
(Korea! a place she always wanted to visit with him.)
At any rate, she could plan a trip with him for the six days following his return.
Now I ask you; How do you think she is feeling?
What should she do to change the pattern?
She has been seeing a guy (called Mr Easyride) for two years now.
He is separated, has two children in their teens.
They live with their mother 400 km North from him.
Actually the younger still lives with the mother, the other has gone to boarding school and is very happy there.
Now Miss Lovely (my g/f) is highly educated, holds down a full time job, is a mother of two and separated as well.
The relationship between Miss Lovely and Mr Easyride has its ups and downs as every relationship.
They don’t live with each other.
He has a small place of his own.
She has her place with the kids
One major issue rearing its head every once in a while, is caused by his laziness organizing quality time with Miss Lovely.
She:
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He:
works full time.
When it comes planning trips he wants as well, it’s always her suggesting the destination, researching, organizing, planning, booking, and ending up paying her fare, expenses, dinners.
I am talking of weekend trips, or the odd longer trip.
Never he invites her and hardly ever he pays for a meal.
A week ago he said his kids were going to spend their summer holiday with their mother in Sth America.
He asked Mis Lovely (his G/f) to select a destination (do planning etc as usual) for a holiday with him.
Time away two weeks.
His reasoning, as to why he couldn’t do the trip planning himself was his exhaustion.
She
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He
works full time.
She spent minimum 8 hours spread over several days planning a vacation he had suggested.
The day they wanted to discuss it he rang to say, he cant make it.
Sth America wont be on the cards for the kids, things changed, and now he will be taking his kids on a trip to Korea for the first two weeks of his leave.
(Korea! a place she always wanted to visit with him.)
At any rate, she could plan a trip with him for the six days following his return.
Now I ask you; How do you think she is feeling?
What should she do to change the pattern?
He should drop her
He can do much better...
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This sounds all too familiar,....take all your physical wealth,...,...put it all on "Double Zero",...no straddling BS now ya hear,....you win,....go tobaganning in Switzerland before kayaking in Papua/New Guinea.
But if you lose, and walk away as poor as church mice,...with only the clothes on your back,is that going to be enough?
Its your life,...but there are children involved,....I have seen grizzly bears near death give it until they are gone to protect their offspring.
And I would walk a mile over broken glass just for a smile,...no nickel need be provided. Arguing over trips,....and everybody is working,....ha ha ha!
Decide upon your priorities,....then decide.
JMHO
But if you lose, and walk away as poor as church mice,...with only the clothes on your back,is that going to be enough?
Its your life,...but there are children involved,....I have seen grizzly bears near death give it until they are gone to protect their offspring.
And I would walk a mile over broken glass just for a smile,...no nickel need be provided. Arguing over trips,....and everybody is working,....ha ha ha!
Decide upon your priorities,....then decide.
JMHO
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Ulimaroa: A close girl friend (Miss Lovely) called me today.
She has been seeing a guy (called Mr Easyride) for two years now.
He is separated, has two children in their teens.
They live with their mother 400 km North from him.
Actually the younger still lives with the mother, the other has gone to boarding school and is very happy there.
Now Miss Lovely (my g/f) is highly educated, holds down a full time job, is a mother of two and separated as well.
The relationship between Miss Lovely and Mr Easyride has its ups and downs as every relationship.
They don’t live with each other.
He has a small place of his own.
She has her place with the kids
One major issue rearing its head every once in a while, is caused by his laziness organizing quality time with Miss Lovely.
She:
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He:
works full time.
When it comes planning trips he wants as well, it’s always her suggesting the destination, researching, organizing, planning, booking, and ending up paying her fare, expenses, dinners.
I am talking of weekend trips, or the odd longer trip.
Never he invites her and hardly ever he pays for a meal.
A week ago he said his kids were going to spend their summer holiday with their mother in Sth America.
He asked Mis Lovely (his G/f) to select a destination (do planning etc as usual) for a holiday with him.
Time away two weeks.
His reasoning, as to why he couldn’t do the trip planning himself was his exhaustion.
She
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He
works full time.
She spent minimum 8 hours spread over several days planning a vacation he had suggested.
The day they wanted to discuss it he rang to say, he cant make it.
Sth America wont be on the cards for the kids, things changed, and now he will be taking his kids on a trip to Korea for the first two weeks of his leave.
(Korea! a place she always wanted to visit with him.)
At any rate, she could plan a trip with him for the six days following his return.
Now I ask you; How do you think she is feeling?
What should she do to change the pattern?
She has been seeing a guy (called Mr Easyride) for two years now.
He is separated, has two children in their teens.
They live with their mother 400 km North from him.
Actually the younger still lives with the mother, the other has gone to boarding school and is very happy there.
Now Miss Lovely (my g/f) is highly educated, holds down a full time job, is a mother of two and separated as well.
The relationship between Miss Lovely and Mr Easyride has its ups and downs as every relationship.
They don’t live with each other.
He has a small place of his own.
She has her place with the kids
One major issue rearing its head every once in a while, is caused by his laziness organizing quality time with Miss Lovely.
She:
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He:
works full time.
When it comes planning trips he wants as well, it’s always her suggesting the destination, researching, organizing, planning, booking, and ending up paying her fare, expenses, dinners.
I am talking of weekend trips, or the odd longer trip.
Never he invites her and hardly ever he pays for a meal.
A week ago he said his kids were going to spend their summer holiday with their mother in Sth America.
He asked Mis Lovely (his G/f) to select a destination (do planning etc as usual) for a holiday with him.
Time away two weeks.
His reasoning, as to why he couldn’t do the trip planning himself was his exhaustion.
She
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He
works full time.
She spent minimum 8 hours spread over several days planning a vacation he had suggested.
The day they wanted to discuss it he rang to say, he cant make it.
Sth America wont be on the cards for the kids, things changed, and now he will be taking his kids on a trip to Korea for the first two weeks of his leave.
(Korea! a place she always wanted to visit with him.)
At any rate, she could plan a trip with him for the six days following his return.
Now I ask you; How do you think she is feeling?
What should she do to change the pattern?
She's enabling him, She's needs to learn to say "NO"!
Why would he get off his duff, if she does all this for him.
She can just say No, you do it. I'm busy. peroid.
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She has been seeing a guy (called Mr Easyride) for two years now.
He is separated, has two children in their teens.
They live with their mother 400 km North from him.
Actually the younger still lives with the mother, the other has gone to boarding school and is very happy there.
Now Miss Lovely (my g/f) is highly educated, holds down a full time job, is a mother of two and separated as well.
The relationship between Miss Lovely and Mr Easyride has its ups and downs as every relationship.
They don’t live with each other.
He has a small place of his own.
She has her place with the kids
One major issue rearing its head every once in a while, is caused by his laziness organizing quality time with Miss Lovely.
She:
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He:
works full time.
When it comes planning trips he wants as well, it’s always her suggesting the destination, researching, organizing, planning, booking, and ending up paying her fare, expenses, dinners.
I am talking of weekend trips, or the odd longer trip.
Never he invites her and hardly ever he pays for a meal.
A week ago he said his kids were going to spend their summer holiday with their mother in Sth America.
He asked Mis Lovely (his G/f) to select a destination (do planning etc as usual) for a holiday with him.
Time away two weeks.
His reasoning, as to why he couldn’t do the trip planning himself was his exhaustion.
She
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He
works full time.
She spent minimum 8 hours spread over several days planning a vacation he had suggested.
The day they wanted to discuss it he rang to say, he cant make it.
Sth America wont be on the cards for the kids, things changed, and now he will be taking his kids on a trip to Korea for the first two weeks of his leave.
(Korea! a place she always wanted to visit with him.)
At any rate, she could plan a trip with him for the six days following his return.
Now I ask you; How do you think she is feeling?
What should she do to change the pattern?