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I did give my opinion on the International forums.
Just some questions Uli.
Is it about you?
If it is I am sorry for it.
Is this Gent here in CS?
Just some questions Uli.
Is it about you?
If it is I am sorry for it.
Is this Gent here in CS?
lifeisadream: I did give my opinion on the International forums.
Just some questions Uli.
Is it about you?
If it is I am sorry for it.
Is this Gent here in CS?
Just some questions Uli.
Is it about you?
If it is I am sorry for it.
Is this Gent here in CS?
Lovely boy in your profile?
I guess He is none of the them since all the kids you are refering to are teenagers.
The best to our friend o ti who ever is living that.
Ulimaroa:
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Now I ask you; How do you think she is feeling?
What should she do to change the pattern?
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Now I ask you; How do you think she is feeling?
What should she do to change the pattern?
I have no idea how she is feeling. I feel that it’s wrong to tell about other peoples’ relationship in so many details.
Has she plans to change him? To form him after her desire? Wouldn’t it be easier to find someone who just luuvs to plan holidays? (Can happen that he lacks the other positive qualities of this unwilling-to-plan-holidays man, but you can’t have it all.)
lifeisadream: I did give my opinion on the International forums.
Just some questions Uli.
Is it about you?
If it is I am sorry for it.
Is this Gent here in CS?
Just some questions Uli.
Is it about you?
If it is I am sorry for it.
Is this Gent here in CS?
No of course its not about me. I dont have kids.
And its not anyone from here.
I said its a girl friend of mine.
lifeisadream: Lovely boy in your profile?
I guess He is none of the them since all the kids you are refering to are teenagers.
The best to our friend o ti who ever is living that.
I guess He is none of the them since all the kids you are refering to are teenagers.
The best to our friend o ti who ever is living that.
Whatt boy?
The pic in my profile is me at the age of three...
I was born a girl
and still am
Tulefel: I have no idea how she is feeling. I feel that it’s wrong to tell about other peoples’ relationship in so many details.
The details I mentioned can fit 80 million.
Tulefel: Has she plans to change him? To form him after her desire?
She is happy with him --- EXCEPT for this.
She doesnt want to change him, just the pattern.
Tulefel: Wouldn’t it be easier to find someone who just luuvs to plan holidays? (Can happen that he lacks the other positive qualities of this unwilling-to-plan-holidays man, but you can’t have it all.)
Firstly its not easy to give up a relationship thats
harmoneous in many other ways.
Secondly, we may live in a throw away society,
but everything can be fixed.
After all we can make use of hour intelect
and discuss things with our partner.
Ulimaroa: The details I mentioned can fit 80 million.
She is happy with him --- EXCEPT for this.
She doesnt want to change him, just the pattern.
Firstly its not easy to give up a relationship thats
harmoneous in many other ways.
Secondly, we may live in a throw away society,
but everything can be fixed.
After all we can make use of hour intelect
and discuss things with our partner.
She is happy with him --- EXCEPT for this.
She doesnt want to change him, just the pattern.
Firstly its not easy to give up a relationship thats
harmoneous in many other ways.
Secondly, we may live in a throw away society,
but everything can be fixed.
After all we can make use of hour intelect
and discuss things with our partner.
Any given person IS the certain, only his or her, pattern. But let’s leave it for now.
As I see the situation, your friend can have a few options to choose from.
She can stay at home in their, otherwise harmonious, relationship. Of course only if she feels that maintaining what she has already got is worth more than a journey.
She can go without him. Being apart for a while may make the relationship stronger. They will miss each other and reunion will come as a haven.
Then there is “Moment of true” coup. She can confront him with the situation and then she’d learn whether he really want to go on that journey as much as he claims he does. After all, there are differences between what people think, what they say, what they do and what they want to do.
Sure, there are more options that I haven’t thought of.
Actually right now I’m in the same situation as your free rider. I’m about to go on a journey with an acquaintance, but he does all the planning. If he would confront me and tell me to take some responsibility and check some distances and prices, I’d tell him that I’d rather stay at home. If we’ll go – fine for me. If we won’t – again, no disappointment here. Yes, it means that I’m indifferent. With some other person and in some other situation it can be different. Depends on how much who wants what.
Stop having anything to do with him...Instant change of pattern. 
lifeisadream: I did give my opinion on the International forums.
Just some questions Uli.
Is it about you?
If it is I am sorry for it.
Is this Gent here in CS?
Just some questions Uli.
Is it about you?
If it is I am sorry for it.
Is this Gent here in CS?
I personally know Uli...we have met and are buddies. No, this woman in question is not Uli.
venere08: I personally know Uli...we have met and are buddies. No, this woman in question is not Uli.
I personally know Ven and she is beeeautiful
Ulimaroa: I personally know Ven and she is beeeautiful
You're going to ruin my illusion and tell me it's deffo. not in a giry lesbi-friends type of way...
Only thing I see raising its head is that she is the only one inviting time away and from what you say, mainly incurring the highest expense 
We all can improve in some ways and maybe by her letting him know that this is becoming more draining, he will hopefully pull his wait a bit more
or continue as it is 
If nothing changes, then she must decide as to what type of future she see for them both and if he wants the same..
Though, in case anyone needs reminders, here's the word form the Man..
Ahh.. Women..
We all can improve in some ways and maybe by her letting him know that this is becoming more draining, he will hopefully pull his wait a bit more
or continue as it is If nothing changes, then she must decide as to what type of future she see for them both and if he wants the same..
Though, in case anyone needs reminders, here's the word form the Man..
Ahh.. Women..
She`s wasting her precious time on him. Dump him.
Lazy sod.
Life is about reading the road signs.
Lazy sod.
Life is about reading the road signs.
Yash124g: Only thing I see raising its head is that she is the only one inviting time away and from what you say, mainly incurring the highest expense
We all can improve in some ways and maybe by her letting him know that this is becoming more draining, he will hopefully pull his wait a bit more or continue as it is
If nothing changes, then she must decide as to what type of future she see for them both and if he wants the same..
Though, in case anyone needs reminders, here's the word form the Man..
Ahh.. Women..
We all can improve in some ways and maybe by her letting him know that this is becoming more draining, he will hopefully pull his wait a bit more or continue as it is
If nothing changes, then she must decide as to what type of future she see for them both and if he wants the same..
Though, in case anyone needs reminders, here's the word form the Man..
Ahh.. Women..
What are these fantastic blue flowers on your profile pic?
Are they blue Poppy flowers?
venere08: Stop having anything to do with him...Instant change of pattern.
It should be an instant change of pattern
but this way:
Next time he has spare time,
give him a catalogue
stick a note with dates possible on it
and say
"When you picked & booked a trip call me!"
Ulimaroa: What are these fantastic blue flowers on your profile pic?
Are they blue Poppy flowers?
Are they blue Poppy flowers?
Many thanks for the kind comments, and I had no idea, but with a quick search, you are correct, they are known as the Himalayan Blue Poppy, taken at Edinburgh's Botanical Gardens.. I quote the following from this website.. :-
The Himalayan Blue Poppy
A new planting of Meconopsis Hybrids can be seen in the woodland garden, one of the best being M. 'Slieve Donard'. This hybrid has an Edinburgh city pedigree dating from about 1935. Dr. Curle a former Director of the Royal Scottish Museum used M. grandis and M. betonicifolia as breeding parents; raising many seedlings. Some of these found their way to the long gone Slieve Donard Nursery, Co.Down, Northern Ireland. Here they were bulked up and the Slieve Donard form selected out and introduced to the trade. With us; flowering commenced in the middle of the month and has now reached its peak.
More detailed information on the nomenclature of the genus can be found at the Meconopsis Group website. The group are currently undertaking a revision of the genus, placing M. 'Slieve Donard' in the Infertile Blue Group.
Also noticed I wrote 'weight' incorrectly before..
Though nobody puts it better than Smokey, but a little surprised she used women & driving!! 
smoky: She`s wasting her precious time on him. Dump him.
Lazy sod.
Life is about reading the road signs.
Lazy sod.
Life is about reading the road signs.
Oh, that was before GPS. Nowadays life is about happiness.
But why to dump him? Why so extreme measures without even listening to the defendant? We are told that their relationship is rather a good one.
Ulimaroa: A close girl friend (Miss Lovely) called me today.
She has been seeing a guy (called Mr Easyride) for two years now.
He is separated, has two children in their teens.
They live with their mother 400 km North from him.
Actually the younger still lives with the mother, the other has gone to boarding school and is very happy there.
Now Miss Lovely (my g/f) is highly educated, holds down a full time job, is a mother of two and separated as well.
The relationship between Miss Lovely and Mr Easyride has its ups and downs as every relationship.
They don’t live with each other.
He has a small place of his own.
She has her place with the kids
One major issue rearing its head every once in a while, is caused by his laziness organizing quality time with Miss Lovely.
She:
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He:
works full time.
When it comes planning trips he wants as well, it’s always her suggesting the destination, researching, organizing, planning, booking, and ending up paying her fare, expenses, dinners.
I am talking of weekend trips, or the odd longer trip.
Never he invites her and hardly ever he pays for a meal.
A week ago he said his kids were going to spend their summer holiday with their mother in Sth America.
He asked Mis Lovely (his G/f) to select a destination (do planning etc as usual) for a holiday with him.
Time away two weeks.
His reasoning, as to why he couldn’t do the trip planning himself was his exhaustion.
She
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He
works full time.
She spent minimum 8 hours spread over several days planning a vacation he had suggested.
The day they wanted to discuss it he rang to say, he cant make it.
Sth America wont be on the cards for the kids, things changed, and now he will be taking his kids on a trip to Korea for the first two weeks of his leave.
(Korea! a place she always wanted to visit with him.)
At any rate, she could plan a trip with him for the six days following his return.
Now I ask you; How do you think she is feeling?
What should she do to change the pattern?
She has been seeing a guy (called Mr Easyride) for two years now.
He is separated, has two children in their teens.
They live with their mother 400 km North from him.
Actually the younger still lives with the mother, the other has gone to boarding school and is very happy there.
Now Miss Lovely (my g/f) is highly educated, holds down a full time job, is a mother of two and separated as well.
The relationship between Miss Lovely and Mr Easyride has its ups and downs as every relationship.
They don’t live with each other.
He has a small place of his own.
She has her place with the kids
One major issue rearing its head every once in a while, is caused by his laziness organizing quality time with Miss Lovely.
She:
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He:
works full time.
When it comes planning trips he wants as well, it’s always her suggesting the destination, researching, organizing, planning, booking, and ending up paying her fare, expenses, dinners.
I am talking of weekend trips, or the odd longer trip.
Never he invites her and hardly ever he pays for a meal.
A week ago he said his kids were going to spend their summer holiday with their mother in Sth America.
He asked Mis Lovely (his G/f) to select a destination (do planning etc as usual) for a holiday with him.
Time away two weeks.
His reasoning, as to why he couldn’t do the trip planning himself was his exhaustion.
She
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He
works full time.
She spent minimum 8 hours spread over several days planning a vacation he had suggested.
The day they wanted to discuss it he rang to say, he cant make it.
Sth America wont be on the cards for the kids, things changed, and now he will be taking his kids on a trip to Korea for the first two weeks of his leave.
(Korea! a place she always wanted to visit with him.)
At any rate, she could plan a trip with him for the six days following his return.
Now I ask you; How do you think she is feeling?
What should she do to change the pattern?
The way I see this is .... he did find time to plan a trip with his kids to Korea but not plan a trip with his girlfriend!!!! Why?
I would definately question this and bring it up in my next conversation with him ...Ulimaroa: It should be an instant change of pattern
but this way:Next time he has spare time,
give him a catalogue
stick a note with dates possible on it
and say"When you picked & booked a trip call me!"
but this way:Next time he has spare time,
give him a catalogue
stick a note with dates possible on it
and say"When you picked & booked a trip call me!"
I think she will be waiting a long time, Uli...she would do better to cut her losses and ...go make some new gains.
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She has been seeing a guy (called Mr Easyride) for two years now.
He is separated, has two children in their teens.
They live with their mother 400 km North from him.
Actually the younger still lives with the mother, the other has gone to boarding school and is very happy there.
Now Miss Lovely (my g/f) is highly educated, holds down a full time job, is a mother of two and separated as well.
The relationship between Miss Lovely and Mr Easyride has its ups and downs as every relationship.
They don’t live with each other.
He has a small place of his own.
She has her place with the kids
One major issue rearing its head every once in a while, is caused by his laziness organizing quality time with Miss Lovely.
She:
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He:
works full time.
When it comes planning trips he wants as well, it’s always her suggesting the destination, researching, organizing, planning, booking, and ending up paying her fare, expenses, dinners.
I am talking of weekend trips, or the odd longer trip.
Never he invites her and hardly ever he pays for a meal.
A week ago he said his kids were going to spend their summer holiday with their mother in Sth America.
He asked Mis Lovely (his G/f) to select a destination (do planning etc as usual) for a holiday with him.
Time away two weeks.
His reasoning, as to why he couldn’t do the trip planning himself was his exhaustion.
She
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He
works full time.
She spent minimum 8 hours spread over several days planning a vacation he had suggested.
The day they wanted to discuss it he rang to say, he cant make it.
Sth America wont be on the cards for the kids, things changed, and now he will be taking his kids on a trip to Korea for the first two weeks of his leave.
(Korea! a place she always wanted to visit with him.)
At any rate, she could plan a trip with him for the six days following his return.
Now I ask you; How do you think she is feeling?
What should she do to change the pattern?