OLD ENOUGH TO BE HIS MOTHER? (30)
My ex partner and I met when he was 24 and I was 42. The relationship lasted just over 17yrs.Fortunately he was a very mature "younger" man and we did have a very good relationship without ever having an argument.
I have a neighbour who is 25yrs older than her husband, they've been married for 19yrs!
So I would say if it works, get on and enjoy yourself and ignore what other people think, who are they to stand in judgement.
I have a neighbour who is 25yrs older than her husband, they've been married for 19yrs!
So I would say if it works, get on and enjoy yourself and ignore what other people think, who are they to stand in judgement.
EssJay: My ex partner and I met when he was 24 and I was 42. The relationship lasted just over 17yrs.Fortunately he was a very mature "younger" man and we did have a very good relationship without ever having an argument.
I have a neighbour who is 25yrs older than her husband, they've been married for 19yrs!
So I would say if it works, get on and enjoy yourself and ignore what other people think, who are they to stand in judgement.
I have a neighbour who is 25yrs older than her husband, they've been married for 19yrs!
So I would say if it works, get on and enjoy yourself and ignore what other people think, who are they to stand in judgement.
Good on you Essjay...I seriously considered embarking on a 'fling' with a very mature young man almost 20 years younger than me but the thought that my eldest son was only 5 years younger than him stopped me....that and the fact that I feared rejection in the future....instead we just remain friends ....
EssJay: My ex partner and I met when he was 24 and I was 42. The relationship lasted just over 17yrs.Fortunately he was a very mature "younger" man and we did have a very good relationship without ever having an argument.
I have a neighbour who is 25yrs older than her husband, they've been married for 19yrs!
So I would say if it works, get on and enjoy yourself and ignore what other people think, who are they to stand in judgement.
I have a neighbour who is 25yrs older than her husband, they've been married for 19yrs!
So I would say if it works, get on and enjoy yourself and ignore what other people think, who are they to stand in judgement.
Hey EssJay, you go girl!! Younger men - bring it on
Hi I was very interested on your views of older ladies younger men. I've just met a guy 27 years younger than me, I was very reluctant at first because he's younger than my son! but after chatting for ages I gave in and met him, oh boy the chemistry was electric, we got on so well that the age gap wasn't a problem, I do have reservations as to where it could go though, and how my family would react. I'm trying to just keep it friendly for now because I don't want to end up falling for this guy and then being rejected. I've always got on with younger guys. My last relationship, he was 13years younger. Only split up because we didn't see each other much because of work commitments. we are still friends.
topaz_122: Hi I was very interested on your views of older ladies younger men. I've just met a guy 27 years younger than me, I was very reluctant at first because he's younger than my son! but after chatting for ages I gave in and met him, oh boy the chemistry was electric, we got on so well that the age gap wasn't a problem, I do have reservations as to where it could go though, and how my family would react. I'm trying to just keep it friendly for now because I don't want to end up falling for this guy and then being rejected. I've always got on with younger guys. My last relationship, he was 13years younger. Only split up because we didn't see each other much because of work commitments. we are still friends.
Wishing you all the best topaz .. go for it
You are fifty four? Hmmm! Wow! I would take you on.. 
lol.
lol.
Money & power within a relationship? Sociology/Psychology issues.
Hmmm. I can speak from prior experience. When I was in my thirties I dated a woman in her fifties. I was unemployed, and had virtually zero disposable income.
She was an employed 'professional' with her own home and car, and a substantial income. I had no right to resent what she chose to spend her money on. But often when we were out and about I would find myself mentally calculating what things cost and how frivolous she seemed to be in her spending habits.
Not a fault, and I had no right to criticize.
However, when you pointed out that you have seen Turkish men passing by at airport (s) with their Scottish wives and families in tow, and then posed the question about money and power shifts within relationships (per se?) .. the question becomes rhetorical (?).
If the Turkish man took the lead within the relationship, but the wife held the purse strings .. could such a relationship work? The question sounds simple, but the permutations that could provide a plethora of interesting answers are incalulable!
You could create a new thread with that imponderable equasion!
I am stumped! I cannot provide a definitive answer to the question.
Hmmm. I can speak from prior experience. When I was in my thirties I dated a woman in her fifties. I was unemployed, and had virtually zero disposable income.
She was an employed 'professional' with her own home and car, and a substantial income. I had no right to resent what she chose to spend her money on. But often when we were out and about I would find myself mentally calculating what things cost and how frivolous she seemed to be in her spending habits.
Not a fault, and I had no right to criticize.
However, when you pointed out that you have seen Turkish men passing by at airport (s) with their Scottish wives and families in tow, and then posed the question about money and power shifts within relationships (per se?) .. the question becomes rhetorical (?).
If the Turkish man took the lead within the relationship, but the wife held the purse strings .. could such a relationship work? The question sounds simple, but the permutations that could provide a plethora of interesting answers are incalulable!
You could create a new thread with that imponderable equasion!
I am stumped! I cannot provide a definitive answer to the question.
Go for it ladies.
I think all the mature ladies should have a younger guy on their arm. That means there more younger ladies available for us older guys!!!
I think all the mature ladies should have a younger guy on their arm. That means there more younger ladies available for us older guys!!!
EssJay: My ex partner and I met when he was 24 and I was 42. The relationship lasted just over 17yrs.Fortunately he was a very mature "younger" man and we did have a very good relationship without ever having an argument.
I have a neighbour who is 25yrs older than her husband, they've been married for 19yrs!
So I would say if it works, get on and enjoy yourself and ignore what other people think, who are they to stand in judgement.
I have a neighbour who is 25yrs older than her husband, they've been married for 19yrs!
So I would say if it works, get on and enjoy yourself and ignore what other people think, who are they to stand in judgement.
Right on EssJay!!! Nobody else's business really, but for the two people in the relationship. The people that would pass snide comments are probably only jealous, so don't let it worry anyone. I'm looking for a much younger woman that wants an older guy, so why should I settle for someone else? I think the age difference could be quite an adventure! A nice 25 sweet something with a smart personality and good looks would suit me fine. When I was younger, like in my late teens, I was attracted to older women.
There are nearly 7 billion people living on this wonderful planet of ours.
Most people will conform to statistical norms.
For age differences, most relationships will have an age gap of less than 10 years. Statistical bell curves and all that.
Amongst the billions of relationships, you will get a relatively small number of 50, 60, 70, 80 year age gaps.
That's fine by me. Every adult should be free to do whatever they want as long as they're not doing anyone any direct harm.
For my tastes, it would take a very exceptional woman who was 30 or more years older than me, for me to fall in love with them. I'm sure that there is such an exceptional woman out there somewhere, but there's a high chance that I will never meet her in the right sort of social circumstances.
Most people will conform to statistical norms.
For age differences, most relationships will have an age gap of less than 10 years. Statistical bell curves and all that.
Amongst the billions of relationships, you will get a relatively small number of 50, 60, 70, 80 year age gaps.
That's fine by me. Every adult should be free to do whatever they want as long as they're not doing anyone any direct harm.
For my tastes, it would take a very exceptional woman who was 30 or more years older than me, for me to fall in love with them. I'm sure that there is such an exceptional woman out there somewhere, but there's a high chance that I will never meet her in the right sort of social circumstances.
I work in Aged Care and meet a lot of lovely men 20, 30 even 40 years older than me - but I can honestly say I have not met one that has made me even think about it. 
Nice to hear a couple of the guys opinions there....but at the end of the day I'd be happier with a man around my own age for the following reasons: more in common, more mature and settled, roughly the same energy levels 
bodies ageing at the same rate 
and above all I'd hate to in a relationship and constantly wishing I was younger with every new wrinkle!....
bodies ageing at the same rate and above all I'd hate to in a relationship and constantly wishing I was younger with every new wrinkle!....topaz_122: Hi I was very interested on your views of older ladies younger men. I've just met a guy 27 years younger than me, I was very reluctant at first because he's younger than my son! but after chatting for ages I gave in and met him, oh boy the chemistry was electric, we got on so well that the age gap wasn't a problem, I do have reservations as to where it could go though, and how my family would react. I'm trying to just keep it friendly for now because I don't want to end up falling for this guy and then being rejected. I've always got on with younger guys. My last relationship, he was 13years younger. Only split up because we didn't see each other much because of work commitments. we are still friends.
Good for you ......doesnt make any difference if it works for you. The problem is never the couple themselves but external observers with their tut tut attitude.
God I love english women
Crystal29: Gosh dont know where to start with your last reply h2m2..but you are right there is no definitive answer to the question... I am just interested in everyones take on the 70 year old women and 31 year old man scenario!
No rights and no wrongs.....I'm just interested in hearing from people who have experienced it and how it has worked for them......
I can honestly say I've not experienced that scenario (yet No rights and no wrongs.....I'm just interested in hearing from people who have experienced it and how it has worked for them......
)But, when I do experience it in 20 years time. Then, I'll be sure to remember to come here and
about it 
I was 43 and my partner 23 when we met, we had 12 happy years together. What brought us together was our interest in 50s 60s music, we used to go dancing every week, we were the life and soul of the party, we had many friend's of all ages.
Being with a younger man is FANTASTIC, they are more fun loving and not grumpy, I would do it again, and again, gave me a zest for life.
Being with a younger man is FANTASTIC, they are more fun loving and not grumpy, I would do it again, and again, gave me a zest for life.
Odette67: I was 43 and my partner 23 when we met, we had 12 happy years together. What brought us together was our interest in 50s 60s music, we used to go dancing every week, we were the life and soul of the party, we had many friend's of all ages.
Being with a younger man is FANTASTIC, they are more fun loving and not grumpy, I would do it again, and again, gave me a zest for life.
Being with a younger man is FANTASTIC, they are more fun loving and not grumpy, I would do it again, and again, gave me a zest for life.
I tend to agree Odette that in my experience younger men are less grumpy and more fun loving....and thats a big plus in anyones book....
I wonder if I'd feel differently about dating younger men if I didnt have two sons in their mid/late twenties.....
Zellarrone1: I can honestly say I've not experienced that scenario (yet )
But, when I do experience it in 20 years time. Then, I'll be sure to remember to come here and about it
But, when I do experience it in 20 years time. Then, I'll be sure to remember to come here and about it
ShiningKnight64: Good for you ......doesnt make any difference if it works for you. The problem is never the couple themselves but external observers with their tut tut attitude.
God I love english women
God I love english women
Well apart from me, all the women in this thread are English...enjoy!
Crystal29: I tend to agree Odette that in my experience younger men are less grumpy and more fun loving....and thats a big plus in anyones book....
I wonder if I'd feel differently about dating younger men if I didnt have two sons in their mid/late twenties.....
I wonder if I'd feel differently about dating younger men if I didnt have two sons in their mid/late twenties.....
Hiya Crystal
My ex was younger than my eldest son.....he was ok with it,same as my younger children. They didn't take any notice of the age gap to be honest, they could see we were happy and that's all that mattered really......
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