Were you in shock when you left your partner? ( Archived) (99)

Jul 28, 2011 11:38 PM CST Were you in shock when you left your partner?
wayward19
wayward19wayward19Vancouver, British Columbia Canada35 Threads 117 Posts
I ask this question based on my experience in finding out my partner was cheating and discovered it when it was too late to do anything. I moved out of town to get away. I was in shock, unable to think clearly and took a couple of years or so to get a grip of myself. Were you in shock when you left your partner?
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Jul 28, 2011 11:48 PM CST Were you in shock when you left your partner?
venere08
venere08venere08Puglia and Autumn, South Australia Australia121 Threads 2 Polls 9,996 Posts
wayward19: I ask this question based on my experience in finding out my partner was cheating and discovered it when it was too late to do anything. I moved out of town to get away. I was in shock, unable to think clearly and took a couple of years or so to get a grip of myself. Were you in shock when you left your partner?


No. I helped him moved out. Even ordered the removalist for him and helped him pack. I think we even had a meal together that night.

dunno

Sorry you had such a rough time back then.comfort
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Jul 28, 2011 11:49 PM CST Were you in shock when you left your partner?
venere08
venere08venere08Puglia and Autumn, South Australia Australia121 Threads 2 Polls 9,996 Posts
venere08: No. I helped him move out...
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Jul 29, 2011 2:47 AM CST Were you in shock when you left your partner?
manroe23
manroe23manroe23indonesia, Jakarta Indonesia7 Threads 6,801 Posts
No, iam so lucky that iam broke up with him but that's 2 years ago though wine
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Jul 29, 2011 11:10 AM CST Were you in shock when you left your partner?
Boban1
Boban1Boban1bigplace, Central Serbia Serbia144 Threads 5 Polls 18,789 Posts
wayward19: I ask this question based on my experience in finding out my partner was cheating and discovered it when it was too late to do anything. I moved out of town to get away. I was in shock, unable to think clearly and took a couple of years or so to get a grip of myself. Were you in shock when you left your partner?

It`s quite a shock every time they leave me ...although I blame the liqueur for sleeping with their sisters.. they kinda don`t believe me...moping
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Jul 29, 2011 11:25 AM CST Were you in shock when you left your partner?
venusenvy
venusenvyvenusenvyCalgary, Alberta Canada27 Threads 20,003 Posts
No Im usually relieved and Im also the one who does the leaving wine
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Jul 29, 2011 2:37 PM CST Were you in shock when you left your partner?
time4fun4u
time4fun4utime4fun4uAlicante, Valencia Spain18 Threads 1 Polls 10,066 Posts
No woman has ever left me,which is understandable.snooty
However,when i leave them,i end up with scratch marks on my legs where they are clinging on begging me not to go. grin
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Jul 29, 2011 2:45 PM CST Were you in shock when you left your partner?
Olsojente
OlsojenteOlsojenteOslo/Zadar, Oslo Norway51 Threads 5 Polls 5,070 Posts
Nope
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Jul 29, 2011 2:53 PM CST Were you in shock when you left your partner?
leigh2154
leigh2154leigh2154Crossville, Tennessee USA5 Threads 6,408 Posts
wayward19: I ask this question based on my experience in finding out my partner was cheating and discovered it when it was too late to do anything. I moved out of town to get away. I was in shock, unable to think clearly and took a couple of years or so to get a grip of myself. Were you in shock when you left your partner?


Sometimes I have been...and I thank God for it.....the numbness was something I needed at the time...wine
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Jul 29, 2011 3:14 PM CST Were you in shock when you left your partner?
FreddyFudpucker
FreddyFudpuckerFreddyFudpuckerObamaville, Indiana USA10,179 Posts
time4fun4u: No woman has ever left me,which is understandable.
However,when i leave them,i end up with scratch marks on my legs where they are clinging on begging me not to go.


Sounds like you were leaving the kennel? rolling on the floor laughing
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Jul 29, 2011 4:47 PM CST Were you in shock when you left your partner?
Raynew1959
Raynew1959Raynew1959Barrington, New Hampshire USA120 Threads 2 Polls 2,218 Posts
wayward19: I ask this question based on my experience in finding out my partner was cheating and discovered it when it was too late to do anything. I moved out of town to get away. I was in shock, unable to think clearly and took a couple of years or so to get a grip of myself. Were you in shock when you left your partner?


With my first wife, I wasn't doing too well when she hit me with a separation. I had gone thru a triple by-pass and was going through post-surgery depression because I couldn't do anything for pretty much the entire summer. The separation came about a month after I was able to go back to work. I started a slow spiral downward to the point where it was affecting me at work.
When the papers for divorce were handed to my by a sheriff's deputy, I went through so many emotions, I can't remember which ones now.
I do remember the anger I felt as she gave me no warning. I grabbed a 2lb sledge hammer and destroyed my wedding band which I had worn until then. I think that if she had been standing there, I would have hit her with that hammer.

With my second wife, I was more disappointed than anything else when we separated a year and a half ago.
As of this past Wednesday, she filed for divorce.
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Jul 29, 2011 6:03 PM CST Were you in shock when you left your partner?
kennn
kennnkennnMedicine Hat, Alberta Canada25 Threads 5,299 Posts
wayward19: I ask this question based on my experience in finding out my partner was cheating and discovered it when it was too late to do anything. I moved out of town to get away. I was in shock, unable to think clearly and took a couple of years or so to get a grip of myself. Were you in shock when you left your partner?
From the time my kids were young, my ex always reminded me that when the kids got older we would separate. Although you could say I had plenty of warning it still affected me. Being from the old school I valued the vows, "Til death do you Part". It was hard and I would say that it took about 2 years before I felt better again. Now, 6 years later, I get on well with my ex. as a friend and sometimes wonder why we couldn't give ourselves that respect while we were married. Our children (all adults) are happy we get along. And no, there is no chance that we would ever get back together.wave
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Jul 29, 2011 6:12 PM CST Were you in shock when you left your partner?
xxDandelionxx
xxDandelionxxxxDandelionxxunknown, Hampshire, England UK8 Threads 2,525 Posts
wayward19: I ask this question based on my experience in finding out my partner was cheating and discovered it when it was too late to do anything. I moved out of town to get away. I was in shock, unable to think clearly and took a couple of years or so to get a grip of myself. Were you in shock when you left your partner?


No, not in shock - just bloody destitute, took me the best part of 17 years to get to anything close to living like a normal human being!! mumbling

I used to live in Vancouver, my friend...... one of the best places on the planet, you lucky devil!

cheers
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Jul 31, 2011 1:34 AM CST Were you in shock when you left your partner?
behindhazeleyes
behindhazeleyesbehindhazeleyesBranson, Missouri USA1 Posts
I was in shock. I never saw it coming and ended up looking so foolish. We had just gotten back together and decided to make it work. Two weeks later he told me to get out, he had fallen in love with another woman and she would be moving in. He had cheated on me and deep down I knew and shouldn't have been surprised but I was so convinced we could make it work. My entire world fell apart and six months later I am still trying to put the pieces back together again.
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Jul 31, 2011 1:57 AM CST Were you in shock when you left your partner?
yabbadabbadont
yabbadabbadontyabbadabbadontsomewhere, Waikato New Zealand10 Threads 2 Polls 1,692 Posts
behindhazeleyes: I was in shock. I never saw it coming and ended up looking so foolish. We had just gotten back together and decided to make it work. Two weeks later he told me to get out, he had fallen in love with another woman and she would be moving in. He had cheated on me and deep down I knew and shouldn't have been surprised but I was so convinced we could make it work. My entire world fell apart and six months later I am still trying to put the pieces back together again.


Good luck......

Takes a good couple of years to really get over these kinda things.....

hug hug hug
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Jul 31, 2011 2:20 AM CST Were you in shock when you left your partner?
Aswina
AswinaAswinaNitra, Slovakia2 Threads 1,373 Posts
I was shocked when he left me... without saying "good bye"...we both did not expect that and both of us were shocked, because relationship worked perfectly. But some " third" side forced us to split up... we were not given chance to continue.good luck
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Oct 11, 2011 12:42 AM CST Were you in shock when you left your partner?
single4ever
single4eversingle4everCalgary, Alberta Canada1,109 Posts
wayward19: I ask this question based on my experience in finding out my partner was cheating and discovered it when it was too late to do anything. I moved out of town to get away. I was in shock, unable to think clearly and took a couple of years or so to get a grip of myself. Were you in shock when you left your partner?


Nope, I wasn't in shock but just pissed off and in a lot of pain due to him hitting me from behind.
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Oct 11, 2011 12:49 AM CST Were you in shock when you left your partner?
curly28
curly28curly28Perth, Western Australia Australia53 Threads 5,450 Posts
wayward19: I ask this question based on my experience in finding out my partner was cheating and discovered it when it was too late to do anything. I moved out of town to get away. I was in shock, unable to think clearly and took a couple of years or so to get a grip of myself. Were you in shock when you left your partner?


Yes it took me a year to wrap my head around it after being married for 20 years it is a huge thing to step away from and I was in shock didn't feel real like "Where am I" "What am I" It took a futher 5 years to say whatever!! I look back and to me it's doesn't bother me at all now, moving on and very content and happy today. grin yay
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Oct 16, 2011 6:08 PM CST Were you in shock when you left your partner?
buckeye1332
buckeye1332buckeye1332marionish, Ohio USA2 Threads 40 Posts
wayward19: I ask this question based on my experience in finding out my partner was cheating and discovered it when it was too late to do anything. I moved out of town to get away. I was in shock, unable to think clearly and took a couple of years or so to get a grip of myself. Were you in shock when you left your partner?

I felt betrayed and used when I learned what my ex girlfriend was doing. She used the excuse of finding herself and doing things on her own as a cover up to what she was really doing. She moved out to "get her life on track", when in reality she was just stringing me along to get whatever she could out of me.

I loved her and wanted to believe her at first, before she moved in with "family". But, there were suspicions there. I did some research and found out I was right, and confronted her. She lied of course, and could not give me the honesty I deserved for doing nothing but supporting her financially and loving her for 4 years we were together.

After it was over I actually felt relieved to be rid of her. I hurt naturally, I did nothing but love her up until I found out the truth. But I deserve better than that and I did nothing wrong, so I could not see myself mourning over losing someone who did me like that.

Someone who does you like that is not good enough for you, it's just that simple. When you love someone with your heart and soul and get done like that, you're going to hurt of course. But you do not deserve to beat yourself up over it and let it run your life. When you come to terms with that, you will see you can do better, and need to pick yourself up and continue with your life.
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Oct 16, 2011 6:51 PM CST Were you in shock when you left your partner?
lifeisadream
lifeisadreamlifeisadreamMexi Go, Mexico State Mexico156 Threads 20 Polls 16,713 Posts
wayward19: Were you in shock when you left your partner?

No way!

I was very relief to have taken that decision.

cool
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