I ask this question based on my experience in finding out my partner was cheating and discovered it when it was too late to do anything. I moved out of town to get away. I was in shock, unable to think clearly and took a couple of years or so to get a grip of myself. Were you in shock when you left your partner?
wayward19: I ask this question based on my experience in finding out my partner was cheating and discovered it when it was too late to do anything. I moved out of town to get away. I was in shock, unable to think clearly and took a couple of years or so to get a grip of myself. Were you in shock when you left your partner?
No. I helped him moved out. Even ordered the removalist for him and helped him pack. I think we even had a meal together that night.
wayward19: I ask this question based on my experience in finding out my partner was cheating and discovered it when it was too late to do anything. I moved out of town to get away. I was in shock, unable to think clearly and took a couple of years or so to get a grip of myself. Were you in shock when you left your partner?
It`s quite a shock every time they leave me ...although I blame the liqueur for sleeping with their sisters.. they kinda don`t believe me...
No woman has ever left me,which is understandable. However,when i leave them,i end up with scratch marks on my legs where they are clinging on begging me not to go.
wayward19: I ask this question based on my experience in finding out my partner was cheating and discovered it when it was too late to do anything. I moved out of town to get away. I was in shock, unable to think clearly and took a couple of years or so to get a grip of myself. Were you in shock when you left your partner?
Sometimes I have been...and I thank God for it.....the numbness was something I needed at the time...
time4fun4u: No woman has ever left me,which is understandable. However,when i leave them,i end up with scratch marks on my legs where they are clinging on begging me not to go.
Raynew1959Barrington, New Hampshire USA2,218 posts
wayward19: I ask this question based on my experience in finding out my partner was cheating and discovered it when it was too late to do anything. I moved out of town to get away. I was in shock, unable to think clearly and took a couple of years or so to get a grip of myself. Were you in shock when you left your partner?
With my first wife, I wasn't doing too well when she hit me with a separation. I had gone thru a triple by-pass and was going through post-surgery depression because I couldn't do anything for pretty much the entire summer. The separation came about a month after I was able to go back to work. I started a slow spiral downward to the point where it was affecting me at work. When the papers for divorce were handed to my by a sheriff's deputy, I went through so many emotions, I can't remember which ones now. I do remember the anger I felt as she gave me no warning. I grabbed a 2lb sledge hammer and destroyed my wedding band which I had worn until then. I think that if she had been standing there, I would have hit her with that hammer.
With my second wife, I was more disappointed than anything else when we separated a year and a half ago. As of this past Wednesday, she filed for divorce.
wayward19: I ask this question based on my experience in finding out my partner was cheating and discovered it when it was too late to do anything. I moved out of town to get away. I was in shock, unable to think clearly and took a couple of years or so to get a grip of myself. Were you in shock when you left your partner?
From the time my kids were young, my ex always reminded me that when the kids got older we would separate. Although you could say I had plenty of warning it still affected me. Being from the old school I valued the vows, "Til death do you Part". It was hard and I would say that it took about 2 years before I felt better again. Now, 6 years later, I get on well with my ex. as a friend and sometimes wonder why we couldn't give ourselves that respect while we were married. Our children (all adults) are happy we get along. And no, there is no chance that we would ever get back together.
wayward19: I ask this question based on my experience in finding out my partner was cheating and discovered it when it was too late to do anything. I moved out of town to get away. I was in shock, unable to think clearly and took a couple of years or so to get a grip of myself. Were you in shock when you left your partner?
No, not in shock - just bloody destitute, took me the best part of 17 years to get to anything close to living like a normal human being!!
I used to live in Vancouver, my friend...... one of the best places on the planet, you lucky devil!
I was in shock. I never saw it coming and ended up looking so foolish. We had just gotten back together and decided to make it work. Two weeks later he told me to get out, he had fallen in love with another woman and she would be moving in. He had cheated on me and deep down I knew and shouldn't have been surprised but I was so convinced we could make it work. My entire world fell apart and six months later I am still trying to put the pieces back together again.
yabbadabbadontsomewhere, Waikato New Zealand1,692 posts
behindhazeleyes: I was in shock. I never saw it coming and ended up looking so foolish. We had just gotten back together and decided to make it work. Two weeks later he told me to get out, he had fallen in love with another woman and she would be moving in. He had cheated on me and deep down I knew and shouldn't have been surprised but I was so convinced we could make it work. My entire world fell apart and six months later I am still trying to put the pieces back together again.
Good luck......
Takes a good couple of years to really get over these kinda things.....
I was shocked when he left me... without saying "good bye"...we both did not expect that and both of us were shocked, because relationship worked perfectly. But some " third" side forced us to split up... we were not given chance to continue.
wayward19: I ask this question based on my experience in finding out my partner was cheating and discovered it when it was too late to do anything. I moved out of town to get away. I was in shock, unable to think clearly and took a couple of years or so to get a grip of myself. Were you in shock when you left your partner?
Nope, I wasn't in shock but just pissed off and in a lot of pain due to him hitting me from behind.
curly28Perth, Western Australia Australia5,450 posts
wayward19: I ask this question based on my experience in finding out my partner was cheating and discovered it when it was too late to do anything. I moved out of town to get away. I was in shock, unable to think clearly and took a couple of years or so to get a grip of myself. Were you in shock when you left your partner?
Yes it took me a year to wrap my head around it after being married for 20 years it is a huge thing to step away from and I was in shock didn't feel real like "Where am I" "What am I" It took a futher 5 years to say whatever!! I look back and to me it's doesn't bother me at all now, moving on and very content and happy today.
wayward19: I ask this question based on my experience in finding out my partner was cheating and discovered it when it was too late to do anything. I moved out of town to get away. I was in shock, unable to think clearly and took a couple of years or so to get a grip of myself. Were you in shock when you left your partner?
I felt betrayed and used when I learned what my ex girlfriend was doing. She used the excuse of finding herself and doing things on her own as a cover up to what she was really doing. She moved out to "get her life on track", when in reality she was just stringing me along to get whatever she could out of me.
I loved her and wanted to believe her at first, before she moved in with "family". But, there were suspicions there. I did some research and found out I was right, and confronted her. She lied of course, and could not give me the honesty I deserved for doing nothing but supporting her financially and loving her for 4 years we were together.
After it was over I actually felt relieved to be rid of her. I hurt naturally, I did nothing but love her up until I found out the truth. But I deserve better than that and I did nothing wrong, so I could not see myself mourning over losing someone who did me like that.
Someone who does you like that is not good enough for you, it's just that simple. When you love someone with your heart and soul and get done like that, you're going to hurt of course. But you do not deserve to beat yourself up over it and let it run your life. When you come to terms with that, you will see you can do better, and need to pick yourself up and continue with your life.
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