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You talk about your daily activities, exchange supportive pep-talks when things go bad or you're feeling down, help each other with problems/give advice, share your family news, speak of your dreams and aspirations...intermixed with warm expressions of affection and/or love for each other and periodic discussions about the prospects of getting together and the state of your relationship.
You're in a romantic relationship...or are you? Is it friendship? But it feels like something more.
You talk about getting together, but as the talk becomes more concrete, suddenly one or both of you get cold feet. Suddenly one or both of you feels a bit pressured. You get into an argument, and the idea of meeting is "temporarily" placed on the back burner. One partner may even seek to ban discussion of the state of your relationship and any possible future meetings. But when you object, he or she may back off from such a strong stance and hint of future possibilities. You keep getting strung along (or do the "stringing" yourself).
It's like the Never-Ending Story of Virtually Love: it seems like your story is moving forward, but somehow never quite gets there...keeps moving toward an eternally receding horizon of true love.
I used to believe this kind of "romantic" situation was rare. I'm no longer convinced that's true. In fact, I'm beginning to suspect this "virtually love" scenario is more common than I'd ever imagined. I know several people now who have gone or are going through this. I went through it myself.
Please share your own experience with being virtually in love.