I prefer NOT to get involved with the kids -- creates problems with all sorts of relationships. I don't say "EWWWW, not your kids" I just suggest that if he has them for the week end/week, there are better kid-friendly things he should do with them, without me. Never been serious enough to worry about building a relationship.
This is the way my dad handled relationships with new women in his life, post-divorce when I was a teen. I only met a few of the women he was dating, and it was casually. We never did anything together.
I felt valued by my dad; that the time we spent together was his priority.
I realize this may be more difficult if you are the main caregiver....
I have been in 2 long lasting relationships where the women had kids from previous relationships. The first one was a nightmare from hell, The second one was not as bad as far as the kids go, I was able to develop a great relationship with the kids. Once we had our kids (we have together) the older ones started resenting me, It was a sad time as I loved them kids but hey nothing to worry about as there bio-dad is very active in there lives. So I would still date women with kids and also would marry one as well...
I dated a guy 2 weeks after I had my son. He was a Single Father of two children under 7. He was really good and caring too my son, because my Sons Father didnot want nothing 2 do with him. It was nice to meet a Guy that fathered my son, like his own.
But Now Im single as A Bee Again, and Iam looking for that Special Someone Again, Someone Who Would Be A Main Caregiver in my sons Life... I aint looking for No ONE night Stand, Just A Man!!
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Yes, I've dated men with kids, hard not to....
I prefer NOT to get involved with the kids -- creates problems with all sorts of relationships. I don't say "EWWWW, not your kids" I just suggest that if he has them for the week end/week, there are better kid-friendly things he should do with them, without me. Never been serious enough to worry about building a relationship.
This is the way my dad handled relationships with new women in his life, post-divorce when I was a teen. I only met a few of the women he was dating, and it was casually. We never did anything together.
I felt valued by my dad; that the time we spent together was his priority.
I realize this may be more difficult if you are the main caregiver....