single Mummy venting

Britishmaltesermalta, Majjistral Malta5 Threads 8 Posts

BritishmalteserOPmalta, Majjistral Malta8 posts

Hi everyone :)

I am a single Mummy, and i need to vent about something.

I have been a single mummy to my 3 yr old daughter since i was 3 months pregnant ( long story) and her "dad" has not been around since i was 3 months pregnant :/

Well basically, i get messages from men saying "you seem like a great girl, i would like to see you and maybe be a father to your daughter".

Now SERIOUSLY??? Im very happy playing the Mummy and Daddy role to my daughter, She DOESNT need a daddy. im on this site for me not her.

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FreddyFudpuckerObamaville, Indiana USA10,179 Posts

FreddyFudpuckerObamaville, Indiana USA10,179 posts

If it works for you. It works for me.

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grizzwaldalexandra bay, New York USA12 Threads 1,151 Posts

grizzwaldalexandra bay, New York USA1,151 posts

Britishmalteser: Hi everyone :)

I am a single Mummy, and i need to vent about something.

I have been a single mummy to my 3 yr old daughter since i was 3 months pregnant ( long story) and her "dad" has not been around since i was 3 months pregnant :/

Well basically, i get messages from men saying "you seem like a great girl, i would like to see you and maybe be a father to your daughter".

Now SERIOUSLY??? Im very happy playing the Mummy and Daddy role to my daughter, She DOESNT need a daddy. im on this site for me not her.

Maybe you should put that in your profile ...

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NuliiiiiiiDublin, Ireland449 Threads 7,367 Posts

NuliiiiiiiDublin, Ireland7,367 posts

Vent away dear

Men eh

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NikogasMetro, Oregon USA46 Threads 5 Polls 4,037 Posts

NikogasMetro, Oregon USA4,037 posts

Good luck with that one.
;-}

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WitchaywomanCarpentersville, Illinois USA97 Threads 13 Polls 4,344 Posts

WitchaywomanCarpentersville, Illinois USA4,344 posts

They are probably trying to reassure you that they are not the kind of men who are too selfish to accept her presence at all. Some men are completely mental about being "forced" to support other men's children just to get a girlfriend. Just make sure they are not TOO interested in her. They probably just want to impress you. They're trying to show you how great they are.

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Ur_KnightWindsor, Ontario Canada10 Threads 2,176 Posts

Ur_KnightWindsor, Ontario Canada2,176 posts

Witchaywoman: They are probably trying to reassure you that they are not the kind of men who are too selfish to accept her presence at all. Some men are completely mental about being "forced" to support other men's children just to get a girlfriend. Just make sure they are not TOO interested in her. They probably just want to impress you. They're trying to show you how great they are.

I agree WW... even at my age, I would be happy to offer to help raise a child if the person I was interested in had one still at home. I've help raise 4 kids from babies to young adults. I enjoy them and they respect me. ( so I must have done *something* right

)

I don't know that you should be *that* upset British, even though I doubt that I would have written the email that you stated. I would have simply *shown* you that I didn't have a problem with your having a child. (hope I said all that right)

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Rummy1Baku, Azerbaijan38 Threads 3 Polls 565 Posts

Rummy1Baku, Azerbaijan565 posts

oh please stop complaning.
most women r very close to their child and looking for a man who will be good to her child too.they tell u that coz they want u feel comfortable with him about ur child.u must know that not everyman would agree play daddy for someone elses kid.i thats great when guys write u such letters and u must appreciate that.

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daisy333Sydney, New South Wales Australia28 Threads 7 Polls 514 Posts

daisy333Sydney, New South Wales Australia514 posts

I understand that may seem a little presumptuous but hey...it could be worse.

You could have guys contacting you saying "I really liked your profile but I didn't realise you're a single mum - sorry, not interested."

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Rummy1Baku, Azerbaijan38 Threads 3 Polls 565 Posts

Rummy1Baku, Azerbaijan565 posts

daisy333: I understand that may seem a little presumptuous but hey...it could be worse.

You could have guys contacting you saying "I really liked your profile but I didn't realise you're a single mum - sorry, not interested."

right
then she would comlaing more
why women always complaining about guys

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WitchaywomanCarpentersville, Illinois USA97 Threads 13 Polls 4,344 Posts

WitchaywomanCarpentersville, Illinois USA4,344 posts

Rummy1: right
then she would comlaing more
why women always complaining about guys

because they make us have to. Hee hee.

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tomcatwarneOcean City, Plumouth, Devon, England UK289 Threads 7 Polls 17,106 Posts

tomcatwarneOcean City, Plumouth, Devon, England UK17,106 posts

This is a little different than women venting because men won't date them because they have children. It does seem a bit uncaring that you put yourself before your child, and this may put some men off. I think you should put your child's interests first, you may be able to find a man willing to accept a package deal. But you must be upfront from the start. JMO

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islandgirl62somewhere in, Queensland Australia12 Threads 1,601 Posts

islandgirl62somewhere in, Queensland Australia1,601 posts

I have seen that for some men, it brings out their protective instincts pariicularly if a creep has fathered a child then dumped the responsibility, emotionally and financially.
Please don't be to harsh...encourage friendship, but in an email explain what kind of relationship you are looking for....

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Wineman42Bath, Ontario Canada11 Threads 563 Posts

Wineman42Bath, Ontario Canada563 posts

wish you all the best and hope you find the one you are looking for.
Someone who wants you for who you are and your daughter - a bonus

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looking121fryuAbington, Massachusetts USA1 Threads 75 Posts

looking121fryuAbington, Massachusetts USA75 posts

Nuliiiiiii: Vent away dear

Men eh

Hey now, I realize this blog makes a good point. Men try to impress by trying to be a father to a womans child., Some men really would, others are trying to get in her pants. I admit that.

But I am a single Dad and I can honestly say women are no cake walk with a single dad. Look at some of the womans profiles. Many of them are single mothers, but say "no men with children".

I can say the same thing about women you said about men.

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potarickAtlanta, Georgia USA89 Threads 1 Polls 705 Posts

potarickAtlanta, Georgia USA705 posts

Like it or not "step-daddy" will come
Almost every liquor includes a bit of rum

A good man in your life will call you hon
And he will have to accept your child before the love-connection is done!

Britishmalteser: Hi everyone :)
I am a single Mummy, and i need to vent about something.
I have been a single mummy to my 3 yr old daughter since i was 3 months pregnant ( long story) and her "dad" has not been around since i was 3 months pregnant :/

Well basically, i get messages from men saying "you seem like a great girl, i would like to see you and maybe be a father to your daughter".
Now SERIOUSLY??? Im very happy playing the Mummy and Daddy role to my daughter, She DOESNT need a daddy. im on this site for me not her.

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potarickAtlanta, Georgia USA89 Threads 1 Polls 705 Posts

potarickAtlanta, Georgia USA705 posts

You should replace Dr. Phil
Coz you tend to know plenty about Jack & Jill

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potarickAtlanta, Georgia USA89 Threads 1 Polls 705 Posts

potarickAtlanta, Georgia USA705 posts

Such a standard you mentioned is called DOUBLE
And those types of women are usually TROUBLE

Some profiles should be thrown into the RUBBLE
Especially since our economy is in a BUBBLE!

looking121fryu:
But I am a single Dad and I can honestly say women are no cake walk with a single dad. Look at some of the womans profiles. Many of them are single mothers, but say "no men with children".
I can say the same thing about women you said about men.

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potarickAtlanta, Georgia USA89 Threads 1 Polls 705 Posts

potarickAtlanta, Georgia USA705 posts

Amen Sir Tomcat
Look closely where her priority is at

Indeed the daughter should be in the # 1 spot
This sounds like a game of cat chasing rat!

tomcatwarne: This is a little different than women venting because men won't date them because they have children. It does seem a bit uncaring that you put yourself before your child, and this may put some men off. I think you should put your child's interests first, you may be able to find a man willing to accept a package deal. But you must be upfront from the start. JMO

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looking121fryuAbington, Massachusetts USA1 Threads 75 Posts

looking121fryuAbington, Massachusetts USA75 posts

I do understand what you are saying. At least from the point of being a single parent. I am a single dad. And I agree you are on the site for you. After all I am on the site for me. And I am not looking for a mother to my child, I am looking for a woman that will love me. But that woman has to accept my son with me or I don't want her.
Some guys just want to get in your pants. But some men are gunuine in what they say. If I were not a single dad I would not understand your view and make the same mistake they did. Honestly. Many men think they have to show interest in your child to really get yout attention. The only reason I know different is I am a single dad. Some women think the same way as the men you mentioned. But try to be patient. Men are not to bright about relationships with women who have children unless they have children as well

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