just a question for everyone (7)
stop thinking of yourself as a nice guy. that is not why you finish last.
nice guys are evil. they lie, they pretend to be what women want and then turn into something else altogether and then the women they flee in terror!!!!
you don't want to be a nice guy you want to be YOU!!!!111
which is OK
women like YOU
they are smart.
they can figure out what it is about YOU they want to be with.
the challenge for YOU is this:
do you want to be a good man or a bad man?
why?
nice guys are evil. they lie, they pretend to be what women want and then turn into something else altogether and then the women they flee in terror!!!!
you don't want to be a nice guy you want to be YOU!!!!111
which is OK
women like YOU
they are smart.
they can figure out what it is about YOU they want to be with.
the challenge for YOU is this:
do you want to be a good man or a bad man?
why?
I used to play the nice guy card. I came to find out that when you play that card, most women tend to be cautious and weary and they have every right to be weary and cautious.
Most "nice" guys tend to be not nice.
Most "nice" guys tend to be not nice.
This is not true.I have never dated a man who did not treat me well and who was not good too me.I have only known one woman who seemed to be addicted to men who abused her.Everyone else I know are with people who who are good to them.
No matter who nice a person thinks they are, something about them scares them away.
If someone comes across as too nice (tries too hard) or perfect, I run in the other direction.
What I call nice might not be someone eles's cup of tea.
If someone comes across as too nice (tries too hard) or perfect, I run in the other direction.
What I call nice might not be someone eles's cup of tea.
Correction:
No matter how nice ....
No matter how nice ....
I disagree with the general premise that "nice guys finish last", so I cannot really answer the question. Nice doesn't mean submitting to a woman's every whim,...being timid and awkward does not equate to "being nice". Even the charming and gallant man who consistently pulls out chairs and holds open doors can "fail" if he can’t be spontaneous and passionate. Really, it’s more about respect laced with a touch of deference at just the right moments when it comes to being a nice guy and finishing first. Too many guys think that making her the center of their universe is being nice,....when in fact it is probably being suffocating. Yes pay attention to her but don't be overbearing. Be yourself and speak to her as you would speak to any close friend. Be confident but also relaxed and honest, and listen to her. I think that this whole "nice guys finish last" statement has arisen because of a FLAWED definition of what being nice is.
Just be yourself Sweet_Russian.
Just be yourself Sweet_Russian.
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just a question to put out there to everyone
Why is it the nice guys always finish last or not at all?
I mean honestly lets break this down
I am a very nice guy who makes money doing what he loves
covers his own bills has 3 children of his own
with the same woman (that should be points for me)
and rents an apartment
and does not do drugs
I like to take things slow
seems like all plusses in my book
I mean I know I can be a little pig headed at times but who isn't right?
I know that woman like the bad boy but what about those of us that can be the bad boy but have a heart of gold?
I have never in my life been judgemental on anyones looks or status in life. why judge people on the past?
With that said and done on the same lines
I have been single now going on 3 & a half years of my choice for 2 of those years to get over my ex (hell ten years is a long time to be with someone) and now i find the dating world has been fliped upside down
Oh well I can't wait to see what people say to this
and if not happy hunting I hope you find what your looking for in life eather on this site or not
Cheers
Sweet_russian