Advice (6)

After breaking up with this girl after only 2 months, why is it so difficult to get over her? Especially when I was cheated on, lied to, and just hurt to the max! I thought it would be easy to just move on, but it's really not :(

Probably because it has only been two months. I am sorry to hear of your breakup. Realize that you will need a proper amount of time to "heal". Just like a broken leg, a broken heart takes time to heal. Trust me,...I know.

Find a constructive way to deal with your pain and express your emotions and, although it may be difficult to do, try not to over analyze what happened. It will take time, but you will have to eventually seek closure and try to accept your new reality,...without resentment. Eventually the heartbreak will subside and you will be ready to step out into the world again. You will realize that your past relationship, despite its downfall, did have its moments of great memories and experiences. Remember the positive aspects, don't overly reflect on the negative aspects, let go, and move on.

Try to appreciate the love you had for what it was, not for what it is now. The lies, the deception, the miscommunications - don't let it completely sour the experience as a whole. Enjoy it for what it was and not for what it became (and yes, I know it doesn't seem possible to do right now,....). There will come a time when you will be able to hopefully look back at the positive aspects of what you had, realize that it is over, not pine for their return, and move forward with your life with a new and positive mental enlightenement. It is NEVER easy to move on,...but you can and will. Learn from the negative, but leave it in the past as you carry the positive forward into the future and your next relationship. I wish you well and hope that happiness and love will once again enter your world (and trust me,...it really can happen!!!)

Sorry to hear that Lezziechic ....... but give yourself time to heal, and despite the bad there must have been strong feelings of "good" so it will take time for you to move on. Just because a relationship is short-term doesn't mean that one should be able to move on "faster" because the length of time doesn't translate into that there will be less emotional involvement. In fact, it may be more extreme, because of the newness of the relationship ... the "wow factor" is still there and feelings/emotions are running high.

Hopefully you have a good friend to lend an ear, cry with, and then go have some fun with to realize that life certainly marches on. Its OK to be where you are - you are there until you work through those emotions and feelings. There is no magic timeline in which one recovers from a relationship for we are all unique and do it in our own time and way.

Take care of yourself and honestly don't allow yourself to get sucked back into that relationship for already it was trouble for you. Sometimes its almost impossible to get someone out of your head/heart but taking a good step back and realizing that perhaps it wasn't the most healthy of relationships is a good start. Take care

Hey LC,...okay, being a typical male I might be a bit confused,...you were with her for 2 months and then broke up,...or,...you were with her and have been broken up with her for 2 months,....(cuz I notice LG and I are looking at it from these perspectives,..),...but really,...it doesn't matter, LG and I BOTH gave wonderful advice,....so,...invite us out for a night on the town,...remember,...life is meant to be lived,,.....