standards ( Archived) (17)

Why do men (I shouldn't say only men, some women probably do it also, but I don't often read their profiles) write in their profiles to please only contact me if you are.....beautiful, intelligent etc. How as the person on the other end are we to know if we are what that person considers to be beautiful, intelligent etc without first knowing their standards? Are these people setting their standards too high or are they just that egotistical?
I know I'm not the most beautiful of ladies, or the most intelligent etc, but one day in someone's eyes I will be, and it won't be the people whose profiles say things such as this because they won't be hearing from me - whether I meet their standards or not!

If i read that they write that on their profiles i will not contact or email them

just too much for me

Some men are stuck on physical appearances. I think their definition of intelligence is measured by financial success. These are examples of how shallow some people are.

I don't think it is setting their standards too high, I think it is more their standards are confused. I also think they are worried about how someone's appearance and such will make them look to their family and/or friends. Other than it being superficial, I think they assume that if someone is physically attractive and intelligent, they are a good person.

This is not always the case. I have seen "beautifully smart" people being very ugly on the inside. They are so self absorbed they see the world as revolving around themselves, and are far from humble. Now there are few (and I mean few from my experiences) "beautifully smart" people who are a complete package inside and out, but that is a rarity.

Then they are a shallow person if they only care about looks.

womens standards are higher they just don't post them...

Have you read what a lot of people write about themselves? CS, it would seem, is like a race of supermen. Maybe this is why profiles are littered with so many over expectations.

I'm not a guy but I know that I am turned on by intelligence. I don't mean the money either...genuine intelligence. Smart guys are hot, especially if they are passionate about a particular interest. They don't have to be a 10 to be attractive...but the intelligence would definitely make me attracted to them.

I do agree that not knowing their standards makes me feel a little less than adequate since I know that I'm not the most beautiful person out there either. I wouldn't contact them if I read that on their profile page. I guess I could contact them because at least it would say that I thought that I was pretty enough to meet his standards. But with my luck, it wouldn't turn out that way.

Their standards are probably too high and they are ly egotistical as well.

come on dude that S on my chest is covered by my shirt...maybe people aimed higher becoz last time they were let down...to my way of thinking if you have more you stand to lose more...i am reminded of the great man redd foxx who said marry an ugly woman becoz when she leaves you you will be happy...

I don't think it is setting their standards too high, I think it is more their standards are confused. I also think they are worried about how someone's appearance and such will make them look to their family and/or friends. Other than it being superficial, I think they assume that if someone is physically attractive and intelligent, they are a good person.

Have you seen the social experiments where they have a beautiful woman on the side of the road with her car hood up? Then they had an average looking woman doing the same. There was a disproportionate number of men stopping to help the beautiful women. Same scenario for job interviews. This time they sent in men also. The attractive people were almost always hired over the average looking person. Sadly, it is human nature to gravitate toward attractive people. It takes a "good person" to look beyond the physical and into the heart/personality. There are many gems out there being overlooked.