Everything bad we do is result of our childhood (75)
ScorpiesS: I've come to the realization that every negative we go through is a result of our childhood.
That's only true for children, and even then, only to a point.
Regardless of our past, we have choices, and as time passes we choose the path that we want to take.
Once someone is adult they have to take the blame for their own decisions, no matter what their past may have been.
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Witchaywoman: You and the thread poster are both right. Bad parents can screw up people in ways they never imagined possible and people need to get over their childhoods and learn to live.
Very good synopsis of the situation.
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I disagree, when you become an adult you should be able to make your own choices. If you choose choices that were established during your childhood that were bad then that is your own fault. Be your own person and let the bad stuff fade away and start a new path.
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Ya sorry hun, I think your views on this are completely invalid, i know from experience. No matter the circumstances i come across i find it just solidifies my perspective that this is my life and i won't let happenstance get in the way of me living it the way i want. I don't know about everyone else, but i prefer to live my life with a smile on my face, a glimmer in my eye, and knowing something amazing is waiting just around the corner. It's all about PERSPECTIVE!!!!!!!!
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ScorpiesS:
I did my natal chart and it says that i had to experience such a life in order to help others, because you can't understand until you've experienced it.
I did my natal chart and it says that i had to experience such a life in order to help others, because you can't understand until you've experienced it.
What does a natal chart know about life???
Tea leaves and entrails are much more dependable, being organic and all that.
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jadedheart: I disagree, when you become an adult you should be able to make your own choices. If you choose choices that were established during your childhood that were bad then that is your own fault. Be your own person and let the bad stuff fade away and start a new path.
You are exactly right. No matter what kind of an upbringing you have, there are enough indicators in the world - people know right from wrong. Stealing is a choice one makes. Keying a car is a choice one makes. Hurting someone physically is a choice one makes. And all these everyone, everyone, knows is wrong. Excuses are just that. BS.------ This thread is Archived ------
rohaan: You are exactly right. No matter what kind of an upbringing you have, there are enough indicators in the world - people know right from wrong. Stealing is a choice one makes. Keying a car is a choice one makes. Hurting someone physically is a choice one makes. And all these everyone, everyone, knows is wrong. Excuses are just that. BS.
Choosing the wrong partner is a choice also.
Now I wonder why so many of us do that?
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bodleing: Choosing the wrong partner is a choice also.
Now I wonder why so many of us do that?
My good friend with a wrench in the spokes! (but you're spot-on). The only answer I have is that love just doesn't make sense, sometimes, anyhow. (sigh). Unfortunately our hearts aren't quite as smart as our heads.Now I wonder why so many of us do that?
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ScorpiesS: I've come to the realization that every negative we go through is a result of our childhood.
If one was loved and encouraged, one is predominantly happy-go-lucky, whereas one whom was neglected is always lacking something; even though they have everything.
We thrive on love, love really is the answer. Love your children. You really make a better world through love .. :)
If one was loved and encouraged, one is predominantly happy-go-lucky, whereas one whom was neglected is always lacking something; even though they have everything.
We thrive on love, love really is the answer. Love your children. You really make a better world through love .. :)
Whlle our childhood does have a tremendous influence on us, I don't agree that we can't overcome our childhood in adult life. Yes, some people do turn neurotic in adult life, as a result of their childhood, but most of us turn out pretty good, actually. Because of my childhood, I was forced to become a survivor, and I can survive anything.
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bodleing: Choosing the wrong partner is a choice also.
Now I wonder why so many of us do that?
Now I wonder why so many of us do that?
...because people change. Not only them, but ourselves.
(JMO)
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I disagree with your thread title.I don't think just because someone may do something wrong doesn't necessaryily mean it's because of that persons childhood.
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Godsgift: And everything positive we do is a result of?
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Boban1: Isn`t it great when we have someone or something to blame,
Agree. Some kids can get really messed up by how they are treated by their parents and early environment, like self image, self worth etc, and in extreme cases they become a easy catch for what will make them feel good, including becoming drug addicts to ease the pain etc, it still happens today.
But, people are still responsible, and if your life is bad because of some of the believes and opinions accumulated from the past, there is no excuse to not honestly examine them, changing your mind, and move on. Now, this can be extremely difficult and requires a tremendous effort, but still - there isn't any greater effort in living well than living bad.
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That being said, some kids with bad parents eventually ends up observing their parents insanity, watching what their behavior does for them, and upon leaving the nest, the parents may end up as the real losers.
The problem can very easily be explained by the fact that we are all confined within the known, in particular what WE know. This is still true as adults, we still believe in it, draw conclusions from it, and if by a big ego nothing is allowed to change, or the new isn't allowed to enter, either that of other facts, or the new beyond the known, the chances to end up with problems, or becoming dull brain, is still there.
The problem can very easily be explained by the fact that we are all confined within the known, in particular what WE know. This is still true as adults, we still believe in it, draw conclusions from it, and if by a big ego nothing is allowed to change, or the new isn't allowed to enter, either that of other facts, or the new beyond the known, the chances to end up with problems, or becoming dull brain, is still there.
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If one was loved and encouraged, one is predominantly happy-go-lucky, whereas one whom was neglected is always lacking something; even though they have everything.
We thrive on love, love really is the answer. Love your children. You really make a better world through love .. :)
Faulty theory for many reasons.........