How can you deal with a Stingy guy on a date ? (101)
ashiteruOita, Kyushu Japan10 Threads 67 PostsI know many of the guys has to think against on this.But doesn't mean all girls are materialistic when we want us to see how he can be a perfect man,who cares and sweet on a date without saying can you buy me a drinks coz I'm thirsty?Can't even wants to go to a cheap fast food restaurant ( He thinks better to cook at home intead to eat in fancy restaurant"it's not a date coz I girl need to cook " lol..)or if a girl already had a relationships to this man becoz he looks gorgeous and nice but ooops,can't even think a simple gift for any occations but he expecting to get something to his girl.And always says 50/50 spliting money even the smallest cents ..In my past relationships I always do much gives than I recieved .would you think this is fair?.HOw can you handle a situations like that?
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I'm not stingy as long as you put some gas in the Jeep. 
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70Libra: 50/50 is the way to go
As women we've wanted to be treated as equals for a very long time. Now that you've got that equality, you're complaining?
As women we've wanted to be treated as equals for a very long time. Now that you've got that equality, you're complaining?
I'm not complaining miss.I just wanted to know what exactly the other ppl feels about it.I had red a status from a friend on her wall ,so I post a kind of situation like this .:)I think it wasn't bad to share ..
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Jeeepers: I'm not stingy as long as you put some gas in the Jeep.
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70Libra: 50/50 is the way to go
As women we've wanted to be treated as equals for a very long time. Now that you've got that equality, you're complaining?
.....very true.....L.... you buy the drinks....i,ll buy the crisps......As women we've wanted to be treated as equals for a very long time. Now that you've got that equality, you're complaining?
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This womens lib crap is a load of crap in my opinion.I've never chose to be equal to any man.
My guy and I don't eat at fast food places cause we perfer to cook and eat our meals at home.I don't think that makes him stingy.
My guy and I don't eat at fast food places cause we perfer to cook and eat our meals at home.I don't think that makes him stingy.
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call me old fashioned, but if i am on a date {especially the first 6} all she needs to bring is herself and her smile !!!!!
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if you don't have money you'll become stingy..
but if you have loads of cash you'll be very generous to someone you love....that's the use of money in our lives
but if you have loads of cash you'll be very generous to someone you love....that's the use of money in our lives
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leni0822: if you don't have money you'll become stingy..
but if you have loads of cash you'll be very generous to someone you love....that's the use of money in our lives
...how....affectionate...do you feel...!!!!!!!....I have ten bucks..........but if you have loads of cash you'll be very generous to someone you love....that's the use of money in our lives
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trueheart1941: ...how....affectionate...do you feel...!!!!!!!....I have ten bucks..........
haha ok then plus my 5bucks..we've got 15bucks..
what can we buy for this amount?
tighten our belt we don't have enough cash to buy more food
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When I go on dates, I always spend over the limits on my credit cards. I want to really impress her and show her my true love and hope the more I spend the more she'll love me more too!! 
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leni0822: haha ok then plus my 5bucks..we've got 15bucks..
what can we buy for this amount?
tighten our belt we don't have enough cash to buy more food
...this is no time ,to be thinking about your stomach........mind you thinking about it......!!!!!!!!!!!!what can we buy for this amount?
tighten our belt we don't have enough cash to buy more food
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trueheart1941: .....very true.....L.... you buy the drinks....i,ll buy the crisps......
you mean your stingy ?:D well bring ur girl a water from the fauset .:D------ This thread is Archived ------
leni0822: if you don't have money you'll become stingy..
but if you have loads of cash you'll be very generous to someone you love....that's the use of money in our lives
Depends on the situations if a guy had enough budget why not being generous to his girl ..girls doesn't expect all to a man having the world ...But if that guy had his own good job you cannot see any reason why he be so stingy..;)but if you have loads of cash you'll be very generous to someone you love....that's the use of money in our lives
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leni0822: if you don't have money you'll become stingy..
but if you have loads of cash you'll be very generous to someone you love....that's the use of money in our lives
SO TRUE but if you have loads of cash you'll be very generous to someone you love....that's the use of money in our lives
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You get what you give.... new radicals.....
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rizlared: If I understand what you are saying correctly, you are not complaining about going 50/50 but rather that it seems to be 60/40 with you paying the larger share, and that the guy even refuses to take you to a restaurant, and seems to think you should cook for him instead.
Well I think this is wrong, it is not equality, it is someone who appears to think they are more important than you, not a healthy situation in my opinion.
I am old fashioned enough to always pay for the dates, especially on the first few occasions, when the relationship has "Blossomed" then maybe we can share the cost or maybe take turns to treat each other to some event/restaurant etc.
If someone shows a reluctance to pay their way from the very beginning of a relationship, that to me says a lot about their character and it is not one I would want to be associated with. In fact I would be ashamed if my date had to tell me she was thirsty, as that means I am not giving her the attention she deserves. IMO
Well I think this is wrong, it is not equality, it is someone who appears to think they are more important than you, not a healthy situation in my opinion.
I am old fashioned enough to always pay for the dates, especially on the first few occasions, when the relationship has "Blossomed" then maybe we can share the cost or maybe take turns to treat each other to some event/restaurant etc.
If someone shows a reluctance to pay their way from the very beginning of a relationship, that to me says a lot about their character and it is not one I would want to be associated with. In fact I would be ashamed if my date had to tell me she was thirsty, as that means I am not giving her the attention she deserves. IMO
In Asia Specially if you living in Japan most guys pays a treat when going out dating such as lunch or dinner.Some occations like Valentines day girls giving a chocolates to a guy then in white day guys giving back in return..Taking turns is nice too..Not bad
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Personally, I would rather go 50/50. When you meet someone new, it's a meeting, not a date. You, being young, should want to pay for your share so that you aren't obligated to him for anything after the date. I wouldn't feel obligated to a man after dinner because......well, just because. If I was in a longterm relationship every so often I would pay the check or for tickets or tolls just to help him out.
Being from Japan you might have been raised to think that the man always pays for everything. And that's the way it was in America when a woman never paid for anything right down to giving her a dime when she went into a public restroom. The womens' lib movement went through and now some women want it back to when a man treated a woman in a special way.
I'm not a womens' lib person. I like it when a man opens the door for me, or gets up from a crowed bus to give me a seat but those days are gone. Women fought for the right to be equal and now they see that it's not so nice having to carry the heavy load or pay for your entertainment. When they wanted to be equal, they were just thinking of equal pay, but equal means equal in everything.
IMO, the man isn't being stingy. Perhaps he knew he wasn't going to see you again and didn't want to spend any money on you. I don't think that's polite but it was his way. To have to ask for something to drink means he wasn't paying attention to you so I think you should be glad you found out what he's all about. The next time ask your "date" if he wants to go 50/50. You might be surprised that he will say he'll take care of the expenses and he might appreciate that you asked about it in advance.
Being from Japan you might have been raised to think that the man always pays for everything. And that's the way it was in America when a woman never paid for anything right down to giving her a dime when she went into a public restroom. The womens' lib movement went through and now some women want it back to when a man treated a woman in a special way.
I'm not a womens' lib person. I like it when a man opens the door for me, or gets up from a crowed bus to give me a seat but those days are gone. Women fought for the right to be equal and now they see that it's not so nice having to carry the heavy load or pay for your entertainment. When they wanted to be equal, they were just thinking of equal pay, but equal means equal in everything.
IMO, the man isn't being stingy. Perhaps he knew he wasn't going to see you again and didn't want to spend any money on you. I don't think that's polite but it was his way. To have to ask for something to drink means he wasn't paying attention to you so I think you should be glad you found out what he's all about. The next time ask your "date" if he wants to go 50/50. You might be surprised that he will say he'll take care of the expenses and he might appreciate that you asked about it in advance.
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