Relocation Ruminations (10)
I have left Cali several times. I always end up back there.
Course I come from the upper mojave desert on the eastren side of the serria-nevada range not from the beaches.
Course I come from the upper mojave desert on the eastren side of the serria-nevada range not from the beaches.
------ This thread is Archived ------
Home by the sea.......
Originally from Vancouver but in 97 moved 900 kms east to Nowhere, BC for work ---- and to completely change my life. Left family, friends, old wounds.....
Stuck it out for 6 years. It was hard at first -- culture shock really. Didn't know anyone, city to SmallTownsville over night. It was a blue coller (almost redneck) town.
Learned more about who I am; my strengths, weaknesses. Don't regret it in the least.
Made lasting friendships etc.
The did the same thing in 2004 --- moved 600 kms away to another unknown town. Bigger, more urban. Again by myself.
Learned more about who I am ---- yada yada. Its my gypsy spirit that keeps me moving.
Now, I'm moving again. Back to the Vancouver area - but in a completely new area.
Coping mechanisms? Get out there. Don't pretend that you're relaxing by staying home at night..... go to community events, do stuff Sign up for activities you enjoy -- bowling, sports, whatever.
( this advice is from someone curled up in front of a keyboard, sipping tea. ALONE. STILL
)
Yes, it works.
Don't doubt yourself and don't look back.
Oh yeah and don't be afraid to cry your eyes out on the phone to anyone who will listen .......
Originally from Vancouver but in 97 moved 900 kms east to Nowhere, BC for work ---- and to completely change my life. Left family, friends, old wounds.....
Stuck it out for 6 years. It was hard at first -- culture shock really. Didn't know anyone, city to SmallTownsville over night. It was a blue coller (almost redneck) town.
Learned more about who I am; my strengths, weaknesses. Don't regret it in the least.
Made lasting friendships etc.
The did the same thing in 2004 --- moved 600 kms away to another unknown town. Bigger, more urban. Again by myself.
Learned more about who I am ---- yada yada. Its my gypsy spirit that keeps me moving.
Now, I'm moving again. Back to the Vancouver area - but in a completely new area.
Coping mechanisms? Get out there. Don't pretend that you're relaxing by staying home at night..... go to community events, do stuff Sign up for activities you enjoy -- bowling, sports, whatever.
( this advice is from someone curled up in front of a keyboard, sipping tea. ALONE. STILL
)Yes, it works.
Don't doubt yourself and don't look back.
Oh yeah and don't be afraid to cry your eyes out on the phone to anyone who will listen .......
------ This thread is Archived ------
Thank you both - we've shot (Mazda) commercials out in the desert - beautiful.
Also spent almost three weeks in Vancouver on another shoot last summer. Loved Vancouver, the people, great place.
And maybe that's the catch. What I find here, the wealth, the image-consciousness, seems almost surreal. Don't get me wrong, there are some great people here, but it is a bit of a culture shock for a midwesterner.
And you're right of course - get out and do something. Hard to do when you're not so inclined. That has to change. Of course, here I am at the keyboard.
Thanks again.
Also spent almost three weeks in Vancouver on another shoot last summer. Loved Vancouver, the people, great place.
And maybe that's the catch. What I find here, the wealth, the image-consciousness, seems almost surreal. Don't get me wrong, there are some great people here, but it is a bit of a culture shock for a midwesterner.
And you're right of course - get out and do something. Hard to do when you're not so inclined. That has to change. Of course, here I am at the keyboard.
Thanks again.
------ This thread is Archived ------
With the exception of the first six months of my life, I spent my first 12 years in Glendale, CA. I've lived in Nashville for 36 years. California is my home and always will be. I HATE it here; always have. (Not that there's not good things about it, but...all in all, I'd much rather be back home out west). And no offense to your home state, but there's no way in hell I'd choose Michigan over California.
I hate cold weather, for one thing. But you have to make that choice for yourself. It may be just that it doesn't feel like home to you, which would be completley understandable.
I hate cold weather, for one thing. But you have to make that choice for yourself. It may be just that it doesn't feel like home to you, which would be completley understandable.
------ This thread is Archived ------
I lived in the UK for 35 years before moving to Costa del Sol Spain. Its the equivalent as moving away from the grey UK to the sunshine for over 300 days a year is awsome.
Itmakes me feel more positive and motivated.
Of course I miss "Home" I´m Welsh and very proud of it. Therefore when I visit I look forward to seing family and friends and appreciate the mountains and little things more than when I lived there. Once there , however I am reminded why I made my decision and begin to look forward to returning to Spain and my creature comforts.
It is so cheap nowadays to commute and nowhere in the relocate rule book does it say that you are never to return enjoy your time there.
PS I ultimately wish to relocate to Canada. I spent a lot of time there in 1986 and traveled all over. Nanaimo on Vancouver Island was the place I stayed longest regularly visiting Vancouver for the World Expo. However all over the people were so genuinely nice it was a huge culture shock. Speaking to a uknown lady for just 10 mins resulted in her phoning her sister in Medicine Hat to meet me off the bus and have dinner and sleep over????? Needless to say I was very young and foolishly didnt accept the kind offer. Unfortunately Nova Scotia didnt do it for me what a reverse in people. I am not fluent French, and I tried, people who could speak better English than my French would not help me with basic directional questions. So when I make my millions or can get gainful employment in Canada, I will return.
Itmakes me feel more positive and motivated.
Of course I miss "Home" I´m Welsh and very proud of it. Therefore when I visit I look forward to seing family and friends and appreciate the mountains and little things more than when I lived there. Once there , however I am reminded why I made my decision and begin to look forward to returning to Spain and my creature comforts.
It is so cheap nowadays to commute and nowhere in the relocate rule book does it say that you are never to return enjoy your time there.
PS I ultimately wish to relocate to Canada. I spent a lot of time there in 1986 and traveled all over. Nanaimo on Vancouver Island was the place I stayed longest regularly visiting Vancouver for the World Expo. However all over the people were so genuinely nice it was a huge culture shock. Speaking to a uknown lady for just 10 mins resulted in her phoning her sister in Medicine Hat to meet me off the bus and have dinner and sleep over????? Needless to say I was very young and foolishly didnt accept the kind offer. Unfortunately Nova Scotia didnt do it for me what a reverse in people. I am not fluent French, and I tried, people who could speak better English than my French would not help me with basic directional questions. So when I make my millions or can get gainful employment in Canada, I will return.
------ This thread is Archived ------
robert, i think you simply have to listen to yor gut on the matter. i could be in florida w/my sun but im in gloomy scotland where, as yorself, i moved for work. BUT i actually like it here, despite the lack of sun. & if you think about it, there's no reason to be monogamous about places to live. love 'em both if that's the way it turns out you feel!
------ This thread is Archived ------
<From Michigan> Thank you. It is good to be home. I've got much to ponder here...
------ This thread is Archived ------
Home is Home, no way around it. I moved back home so I could be with my grandmother before she passed and when I came back, I was in awe of how beautiful it is here. I always knew it was beautiful but after being away and coming back it just reminded me of why I always loved it here. If I ever move away again this is and always will be home.
------ This thread is Archived ------
I have moved...about once every 2 years, 3 times in the last 2 years. Germany, the midwest, INDIA, now California. I have always enjoyed the places I go. I love Cali right now. It's awesome, great weather. I was hesitant to move from NH, and now i realize that I was ready to give up sunshine...for freezing cold nh...thank goodness I didn't.
Something to think about...home is where the heart is. But something else to realize, yeah, you love to go back and visit, see old friends...but when you go back (to live), don't expect life to be the way it was. That's where you may end up greatly disappointed. Just something to think about. But hell, if it's calling your name...answer the call.
Something to think about...home is where the heart is. But something else to realize, yeah, you love to go back and visit, see old friends...but when you go back (to live), don't expect life to be the way it was. That's where you may end up greatly disappointed. Just something to think about. But hell, if it's calling your name...answer the call.
------ This thread is Archived ------
This Thread is Archived
This Thread is archived, so you will no longer be able to post to it. Threads get archived automatically when they are older than 3 months.
« Go back to All Threads
« Go back to All Threads
More Threads
Kultur-multur
Ladies
Karen McDougal - Playmate Model will testify in Hush Money Trial
See It All The Time
The Real Stormy Story
your favorite topic?
beauty of the heart
Who will be The Last Person To Post... VERSION FOUR
What happened to CS while i was away.. (Long time)
Are the ads on here as phony as some of the profiles?
More Threads
Report threads that break rules, are offensive, or contain fighting. Staff may not be aware of the forum abuse, and cannot do anything about it unless you tell us about it. click to report forum abuse »
If one of the comments is offensive, please report the comment instead (there is a link in each comment to report it).
If one of the comments is offensive, please report the comment instead (there is a link in each comment to report it).
Stats for this Thread
1,047 Views
9 Comments
in Advice
Created: Oct 2006
Last Viewed: Apr 23
Last Commented: Oct 2006
0 Likes
Related Forums
- Kultur-multur
- Ladies
- Karen McDougal - Playmate Model will testify in Hush Money Trial
- See It All The Time
- The Real Stormy Story
- your favorite topic?
- beauty of the heart
- Who will be The Last Person To Post... VERSION FOUR
- What happened to CS while i was away.. (Long time)
- Are the ads on here as phony as some of the profiles?
Tomorrow I head back home to Detroit. It's a work-related trip, but I'm ecstatic. It will be great to be "home" for a week or so (I may extend my stay a bit). I'll probably return for the auto show press days in January as well.
Whenever I return, the mind reels a bit. Did I do the right thing?
I realize this smacks of insanity - So Cal's sunny days for gray cold Michigan days? I mean, what is wrong with me? I do see why so many love it here, it just does not seem to "fit" for me.
Relocating is a fact of life for many. Does it just take more time to adjust? Am I simply too uptight about this strange environment?
I'd love to hear from others that may have found themselves in a similar predicament. Guidance/insights/strategies/coping mechanisms all very welcome.
-Robert