What is a Friend? (57)
Nikogas: Is a person you meet online easily discarded? or is it the same for you in real life?
Just quite curious.....I know, I know....curiosity killed the cat...but then we are not animals are we.
Just quite curious.....I know, I know....curiosity killed the cat...but then we are not animals are we.
I have very few friends but a lot of people know me and I know them.
I consider a friend some one I can call out of the blue and ask to stay a week for some reason.
In my buisness you tend to get a lot of "friends=midly parasitical humans".
As for people online, they are not my friends and never will be until a real relationship has been cultivated.
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jovisst: I have very few friends but a lot of people know me and I know them.
I consider a friend some one I can call out of the blue and ask to stay a week for some reason.
In my buisness you tend to get a lot of "friends=midly parasitical humans".
As for people online, they are not my friends and never will be until a real relationship has been cultivated.
I consider a friend some one I can call out of the blue and ask to stay a week for some reason.
In my buisness you tend to get a lot of "friends=midly parasitical humans".
As for people online, they are not my friends and never will be until a real relationship has been cultivated.
that's interesting...so until you meet them in person it would not matter if they all just quit talking to you and ignored your every word??
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Nikogas: Is a person you meet online easily discarded? or is it the same for you in real life?
Just quite curious.....I know, I know....curiosity killed the cat...but then we are not animals are we.
Nowadays the word friend is like the word hero in America.Just quite curious.....I know, I know....curiosity killed the cat...but then we are not animals are we.
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Boy67: Nowadays the word friend is like the word hero in America.
I don't understand,,,,is it you sarcasm ??? I really don't understand.
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Boy67: Nowadays the word friend is like the word hero in America.
I don't understand,,,,is it you sarcasm ??? I really don't understand.
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Nikogas: Is a person you meet online easily discarded? or is it the same for you in real life?
Just quite curious.....I know, I know....curiosity killed the cat...but then we are not animals are we.
Just quite curious.....I know, I know....curiosity killed the cat...but then we are not animals are we.
hi B!
oohhh...i think we are much more biologically driven than most of us would like to admit to...grin.
people are treasures...and there are no accidents...so i would never discard a human being. i may have to love them from a distance if it's too painful to be up close. but i never forget we're all here for a reason. jmo.
i have met some folks on here, that i do think of friends. but we have IM'd, skyped, phonecalls, over a long period of time.
but for me, most folks on here i think of as aquaintances. using the analogy of say...going to a neighborhood pub. over a period of time, one would recognize and say hi to many folks, but probably develop stronger relations with just a few.
but with 'virtual friends', the friendship is much different than a friendship in RL.
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Nikogas: Is a person you meet online easily discarded? or is it the same for you in real life?
Just quite curious.....I know, I know....curiosity killed the cat...but then we are not animals are we.
Just quite curious.....I know, I know....curiosity killed the cat...but then we are not animals are we.
i like to think that the person I make friends with online are the same kind of people that I make friends with in life... for whatever reason they come into your life, you click, you laugh, you cry, you argue, and debate, but what keeps them as a friend is that you are respectful, loyal, considerate and have the ability to accept everything about them, including the bad and the ugly side of them... the only difference, you can't drop around for coffee at a drop of the hat....
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I have an online friend and she is a daisy
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Nikogas: I don't understand,,,,is it you sarcasm ??? I really don't understand.
More or less, everyone calls everyone else a friend like in America the soldiers are heros and not missionaries, the fire fighters are heros and not there job to save people and so on. Is just a comparison, don't get it wrong. Online friends are not real friends.------ This thread is Archived ------
I have laugh and cried with my fellow posters.
Small flower sent in sadness and messages of
good will.
I would say it is more like a family.
several generations of knowledge.
jmho
Small flower sent in sadness and messages of
good will.
I would say it is more like a family.
several generations of knowledge.
jmho
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jono7: hi B!
oohhh...i think we are much more biologically driven than most of us would like to admit to...grin.
people are treasures...and there are no accidents...so i would never discard a human being. i may have to love them from a distance if it's too painful to be up close. but i never forget we're all here for a reason. jmo.
i have met some folks on here, that i do think of friends. but we have IM'd, skyped, phonecalls, over a long period of time.
but for me, most folks on here i think of as aquaintances. using the analogy of say...going to a neighborhood pub. over a period of time, one would recognize and say hi to many folks, but probably develop stronger relations with just a few.
but with 'virtual friends', the friendship is much different than a friendship in RL.
oohhh...i think we are much more biologically driven than most of us would like to admit to...grin.
people are treasures...and there are no accidents...so i would never discard a human being. i may have to love them from a distance if it's too painful to be up close. but i never forget we're all here for a reason. jmo.
i have met some folks on here, that i do think of friends. but we have IM'd, skyped, phonecalls, over a long period of time.
but for me, most folks on here i think of as aquaintances. using the analogy of say...going to a neighborhood pub. over a period of time, one would recognize and say hi to many folks, but probably develop stronger relations with just a few.
but with 'virtual friends', the friendship is much different than a friendship in RL.
I am not surprised you feel that way Jono. I agree pretty much the same. I realize that especially people that you have established a "real" people, you then realize,,,or I do, that they have feelings, the ability to be trusted or not...they are people...I have found that some people use the internet to disconnect in a way that they don't have to be so "humane" It could also be inherit to some cultures or upbringing,,,even the unknown factors. That I think is sad when we start to discard what we ourselves are inside,,that is a very sad thing. Thanks Jono, for posting.
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Boy67: More or less, everyone calls everyone else a friend like in America the soldiers are heros and not missionaries, the fire fighters are heros and not there job to save people and so on. Is just a comparison, don't get it wrong. Online friends are not real friends.
I still dont get your slant on usa,,,or not,,,but I think I see what you are. thanks.
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Nikogas: Is a person you meet online easily discarded? or is it the same for you in real life?
Just quite curious.....I know, I know....curiosity killed the cat...but then we are not animals are we.
I don't think so, unless someone is naturally bitter IRL. Then they may easily discard an online friend.Just quite curious.....I know, I know....curiosity killed the cat...but then we are not animals are we.
Online friendships are developed through getting to know the person, same as with IRL. Although we may have to express our feelings through clicking of keys and clicking a mouse button. But it's still the same when it comes to our feelings. And once you get to know an online person very well, you can sense their feelings as well.
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Nikogas: Is a person you meet online easily discarded? or is it the same for you in real life?
Just quite curious.....I know, I know....curiosity killed the cat...but then we are not animals are we.
Just quite curious.....I know, I know....curiosity killed the cat...but then we are not animals are we.
I think friends come and go, on-line and in real life too.... peoples situations change, maybe they form other relationships, move somewhere else, spend less time on-line due to new circumstances e.g. new job, or find a new interest or passion....
I used to spend a lot of time here, with people I would call friends, but then, my situation changed, and now only catch them occasionally...but they are still much the same people they were (we all change a little, with life experiences), and I still find them easy to communicate with and enjoy their company when I can....
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YouMeUs: I don't think so, unless someone is naturally bitter IRL. Then they may easily discard an online friend.
Online friendships are developed through getting to know the person, same as with IRL. Although we may have to express our feelings through clicking of keys and clicking a mouse button. But it's still the same when it comes to our feelings. And once you get to know an online person very well, you can sense their feelings as well.
Online friendships are developed through getting to know the person, same as with IRL. Although we may have to express our feelings through clicking of keys and clicking a mouse button. But it's still the same when it comes to our feelings. And once you get to know an online person very well, you can sense their feelings as well.
I agree. we are still people with feelings. and even if we don't have to face them, we should,,"I think" be accountable for our actions.
thanks for posting.
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yabbadabbadont: I think friends come and go, on-line and in real life too.... peoples situations change, maybe they form other relationships, move somewhere else, spend less time on-line due to new circumstances e.g. new job, or find a new interest or passion....
I used to spend a lot of time here, with people I would call friends, but then, my situation changed, and now only catch them occasionally...but they are still much the same people they were (we all change a little, with life experiences), and I still find them easy to communicate with and enjoy their company when I can....
I used to spend a lot of time here, with people I would call friends, but then, my situation changed, and now only catch them occasionally...but they are still much the same people they were (we all change a little, with life experiences), and I still find them easy to communicate with and enjoy their company when I can....
I know, you have been here for some time,,,I can't remember what username I had when you first joined but we never talked, maybe on a thread. But for you, how would you feel if someone you had grown to trust and talk with merely as friends...but a trusted faithful friend,,,the kind you could talk about most anything, If that person just shunned you and you had no way of ever talking to them or knowing why. How would you feel Yabba? btw, thanks for your post.
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Nikogas: I know, you have been here for some time,,,I can't remember what username I had when you first joined but we never talked, maybe on a thread. But for you, how would you feel if someone you had grown to trust and talk with merely as friends...but a trusted faithful friend,,,the kind you could talk about most anything, If that person just shunned you and you had no way of ever talking to them or knowing why. How would you feel Yabba? btw, thanks for your post.
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I would feel probably how you are feeling.....
A little hurt, and confused.... I would hope, that sooner or later, that person would contact me to offer an explanation....
Have had people disappear from my life from time to time, so understand the feeling....
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Sister28: " A true friend is someone who see the pain in your eyes while everyone else believes in your smile "
Well, one time while trying to see my online friend's eyes, I banged my head on the monitor! 
Good quote, though.
Sorry, Nic, no intentions of highjacking your fine thread!
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Just quite curious.....I know, I know....curiosity killed the cat...but then we are not animals are we.