Should a person in this situation stay or go? (24)
IMunbreakable1Utica, New York USA8 Threads 4 Polls 110 PostsIf you are dating a person who is wonderful in many ways but has a tendency to not be dependable, should you leave that person. To explain further, if you are a person who values reliabilty and the person you are with never calls when they say they will, does not show up when they schedule time with you, tend to be late and don't completely appreciate the things you do and do not recipricate any of these courtesies or romantic jestures. I am not saying that these qualities make someone a "bad" person but it may not be a great fit for someone who is a little more considerate and doting. What do you think? Should the relationship end or is it a case of sometimes having to deal with certains things to be with someone who in every other way is a wonderful person?
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IMunbreakable1: If you are dating a person who is wonderful in many ways but has a tendency to not be dependable, should you leave that person. To explain further, if you are a person who values reliabilty and the person you are with never calls when they say they will, does not show up when they schedule time with you, tend to be late and don't completely appreciate the things you do and do not recipricate any of these courtesies or romantic jestures. I am not saying that these qualities make someone a "bad" person but it may not be a great fit for someone who is a little more considerate and doting. What do you think? Should the relationship end or is it a case of sometimes having to deal with certains things to be with someone who in every other way is a wonderful person?
Looks like this person just don't care enough. Better to move on.
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have you tryed talking it threw with them, try telling them how the other feels things may change but it could also be that they lost intrest and dont want to hurt the other
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phantom2: have you tryed talking it threw with them, try telling them how the other feels things may change but it could also be that they lost intrest and dont want to hurt the other
People seldom change...situations do.
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My sister is this way......It makes me crazy
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Time is more valuable than money and when the waste of my time becomes more valuable to someone else, its time to go.
Makes me wait, makes me late, makes me worry, makes me hurry, I have no time for
people that disrespect my time.
.Time is more valuable than money and when the waste of my time becomes more valuable to someone else, its time to go.
Makes me wait, makes me late, makes me worry, makes me hurry, I have no time for
people that disrespect my time.
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jovisst: Looks like this person just don't care enough. Better to move on.
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Yes you should move on start looking at a ladys heart along with her looks.The heart if is true will not lie.Some people even ugly on the outside and has that good heart can be the most beautiful person in the world.So get out there your soul mate is there waiting for you to find her.Good luck
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I'd move on.
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IMunbreakable1: If you are dating a person who is wonderful in many ways but has a tendency to not be dependable, should you leave that person. To explain further, if you are a person who values reliabilty and the person you are with never calls when they say they will, does not show up when they schedule time with you, tend to be late and don't completely appreciate the things you do and do not recipricate any of these courtesies or romantic jestures. I am not saying that these qualities make someone a "bad" person but it may not be a great fit for someone who is a little more considerate and doting. What do you think? Should the relationship end or is it a case of sometimes having to deal with certains things to be with someone who in every other way is a wonderful person?
I would drop someone like that in 5 seconds. There are exceptions of course, but being so unreliable and not reciprocating affection are not the signs of someone who respects and loves you.
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IMunbreakable1: If you are dating a person who is wonderful in many ways but has a tendency to not be dependable, should you leave that person. To explain further, if you are a person who values reliabilty and the person you are with never calls when they say they will, does not show up when they schedule time with you, tend to be late and don't completely appreciate the things you do and do not recipricate any of these courtesies or romantic jestures. I am not saying that these qualities make someone a "bad" person but it may not be a great fit for someone who is a little more considerate and doting. What do you think? Should the relationship end or is it a case of sometimes having to deal with certains things to be with someone who in every other way is a wonderful person?
I'd move on ..... abviously the person feelings for you are a " meh " and that is all.... move on and find someone that will put some excitement into your life and appreciate the things you do for them ........ good luck 
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I've been in that situation, and its almost scary how nice it was to move on. I did, however, spend way to long time with it.
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if he "never calls when he says he will, does not show up when he schedules time with you, tends to be late and doesn't completely appreciate the things I do and does not reciprocate any of these courtesies or romantic gestures", Why should I stay with him??? If the guy doesn´t show me the same affection I offer to him, I just forget him easily and leave him.
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IMunbreakable1: If you are dating a person who is wonderful in many ways but has a tendency to not be dependable, should you leave that person. To explain further, if you are a person who values reliabilty and the person you are with never calls when they say they will, does not show up when they schedule time with you, tend to be late and don't completely appreciate the things you do and do not recipricate any of these courtesies or romantic jestures. I am not saying that these qualities make someone a "bad" person but it may not be a great fit for someone who is a little more considerate and doting. What do you think? Should the relationship end or is it a case of sometimes having to deal with certains things to be with someone who in every other way is a wonderful person?
What you described is a deal breaker for me. If someone can't be punctual, keep dates once agreed upon, say they will call and then not do it, there is nothing else that could redeem him or her. Being unreliable is lazy, thoughtless and thoroughly unsophisticated. I only disagree with you on two points: 1. These are negative behaviors; hardly "qualities", and 2. It does make them a 'bad' person. Being inconsiderate of others as you describe is not a 'good' trait.------ This thread is Archived ------
rohaan: What you described is a deal breaker for me. If someone can't be punctual, keep dates once agreed upon, say they will call and then not do it, there is nothing else that could redeem him or her. Being unreliable is lazy, thoughtless and thoroughly unsophisticated. I only disagree with you on two points: 1. These are negative behaviors; hardly "qualities", and 2. It does make them a 'bad' person. Being inconsiderate of others as you describe is not a 'good' trait.
Merry Christmas /Happy Solstice Ro!!
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IMunbreakable1: If you are dating a person who is wonderful in many ways but has a tendency to not be dependable, should you leave that person. To explain further, if you are a person who values reliabilty and the person you are with never calls when they say they will, does not show up when they schedule time with you, tend to be late and don't completely appreciate the things you do and do not recipricate any of these courtesies or romantic jestures. I am not saying that these qualities make someone a "bad" person but it may not be a great fit for someone who is a little more considerate and doting. What do you think? Should the relationship end or is it a case of sometimes having to deal with certains things to be with someone who in every other way is a wonderful person?
She is not interested, but has no guts to tell you straight – it’s the conclusion I’d make of the whole situation. Leave her in peace.
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Wow, you guys are very unforgiving, if you are looking for perfection I don't think you will find it. and if you do could you live up to it.
Be a bit more tolerant and forgiving (if you love this person). If you want her you may have to put up with it.
Be a bit more tolerant and forgiving (if you love this person). If you want her you may have to put up with it.
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IMunbreakable1: If you are dating a person who is wonderful in many ways but has a tendency to not be dependable, should you leave that person. To explain further, if you are a person who values reliabilty and the person you are with never calls when they say they will, does not show up when they schedule time with you, tend to be late and don't completely appreciate the things you do and do not recipricate any of these courtesies or romantic jestures. I am not saying that these qualities make someone a "bad" person but it may not be a great fit for someone who is a little more considerate and doting. What do you think? Should the relationship end or is it a case of sometimes having to deal with certains things to be with someone who in every other way is a wonderful person?
In my opinion I would move on, because I am thinking it bothers you so much that it's eating away at you and you may end on a bad note. Just part as friends. Find someone who is a bit more considerate than this person. They may just be flighty or just don't care about your feelings. Good luck!!
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tomcatwarne: Wow, you guys are very unforgiving, if you are looking for perfection I don't think you will find it. and if you do could you live up to it.
Be a bit more tolerant and forgiving (if you love this person). If you want her you may have to put up with it.
Not so fast, Tom. There are plenty of people who can behave correctly in a relationship. One does not have to settle for sloppy. I worked at LEAST 60 hours per week, took care of an elderly neighbor, volunteered for a counseling center, took care of my house and yard, car and pets, answered every letter and telephone call or knock on my door promptly, and still found time to hang out at the bars. If I can do it, anyone can.Be a bit more tolerant and forgiving (if you love this person). If you want her you may have to put up with it.
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