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Dec 21, 2011 6:18 PM CST How difficult or easy is it to show your emmotions?
aramaya
aramayaaramayawiltshire, Wiltshire, England UK7 Threads 559 Posts
When dateing or in a relationship how good are you with showing or expressing your emmotions?
Personnaly i have been very cautious about my feelings and how much i express them as being a single mum makes me have to be fairly strong.I have to be the protecter,provider etc and i suppose i was scared off allowing my feelings for someone to override that.However i have learnt not to be like that anymore and i try to say what i feel when i feel it,but is this the right thing to do?would you do that,would it scare someone away,i dont mean saying "i love you " after 2 days but just in general..
So what do you think?how good are you at it?teddybear
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Dec 21, 2011 6:27 PM CST How difficult or easy is it to show your emmotions?
aramaya: When dateing or in a relationship how good are you with showing or expressing your emmotions?
Personnaly i have been very cautious about my feelings and how much i express them as being a single mum makes me have to be fairly strong.I have to be the protecter,provider etc and i suppose i was scared off allowing my feelings for someone to override that.However i have learnt not to be like that anymore and i try to say what i feel when i feel it,but is this the right thing to do?would you do that,would it scare someone away,i dont mean saying "i love you " after 2 days but just in general..
So what do you think?how good are you at it?


I have been cautious about it too - maybe too much so - I think I may have lost someone recently because I was not more honest with him
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Dec 21, 2011 7:06 PM CST How difficult or easy is it to show your emmotions?
Mermaidon
MermaidonMermaidonBrussels, Brussels (Bruxelles) Belgium26 Threads 4 Polls 1,116 Posts
aramaya: When dateing or in a relationship how good are you with showing or expressing your emotions?


On a scale of 1 to 10 I'd say 8, and that depends where and who with. Sometimes I'm with someone with whom it's easy to express what I feel, someone I get get along with real nicely (usually an open-minded non-judgmental and compassionate person ) and sometimes, with another, I realize I better can it.
Also depends what is going on in life at a certain point of the week or month. So it's never constant.
How do you measure 'good' as far as this topic is concerned?
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Dec 21, 2011 7:19 PM CST How difficult or easy is it to show your emmotions?
manOfewwords
manOfewwordsmanOfewwordsLongview, Texas USA30 Threads 756 Posts
felixis99: I have been cautious about it too - maybe too much so - I think I may have lost someone recently because I was not more honest with him
nO, I'm still stalking you wink
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Dec 21, 2011 7:29 PM CST How difficult or easy is it to show your emmotions?
Ccincy
CcincyCcincyCincinnati, Ohio USA77 Threads 20,535 Posts
In response to: When dateing or in a relationship how good are you with showing or expressing your emmotions?
Personnaly i have been very cautious about my feelings and how much i express them as being a single mum makes me have to be fairly strong.I have to be the protecter,provider etc and i suppose i was scared off allowing my feelings for someone to override that.However i have learnt not to be like that anymore and i try to say what i feel when i feel it,but is this the right thing to do?would you do that,would it scare someone away,i dont mean saying "i love you " after 2 days but just in general..
So what do you think?how good are you at it?


If I ever enter into one I'll let you know.
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Dec 21, 2011 7:33 PM CST How difficult or easy is it to show your emmotions?
aramaya
aramayaaramayawiltshire, Wiltshire, England UK7 Threads 559 Posts
Mermaidon: On a scale of 1 to 10 I'd say 8, and that depends where and who with. Sometimes I'm with someone with whom it's easy to express what I feel, someone I get get along with real nicely (usually an open-minded non-judgmental and compassionate person ) and sometimes, with another, I realize I better can it.
Also depends what is going on in life at a certain point of the week or month. So it's never constant.
How do you measure 'good' as far as this topic is concerned?
Good question and one i have had to think about.I think i mean the simple things,like saying "I love it when you smile"kissing them because you suddenly feel you want to.I think i mean feeling free to be able to say or show at the time when your head or heart thinks about them or when you want to smile because of something silly they have done.
I understand at certain times in our lives we get bogged down by every thing else and one has to concentrate on those things,but wouldnt it be good if at those times we can just stop and say something to your partner or them to you that makes you smile.?
Also complimenting each other rather then taking it as read that they look alright..
Ive just read back what i wrote and i think i am in danger of being a true romantic, laugh
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Dec 21, 2011 7:35 PM CST How difficult or easy is it to show your emmotions?
manOfewwords: nO, I'm still stalking you


I did not mean u mano - good to see u!bouquet
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Dec 21, 2011 7:45 PM CST How difficult or easy is it to show your emmotions?
Mermaidon
MermaidonMermaidonBrussels, Brussels (Bruxelles) Belgium26 Threads 4 Polls 1,116 Posts
aramaya: Good question and one i have had to think about.I think i mean the simple things,like saying "I love it when you smile"kissing them because you suddenly feel you want to.I think i mean feeling free to be able to say or show at the time when your head or heart thinks about them or when you want to smile because of something silly they have done.
I understand at certain times in our lives we get bogged down by every thing else and one has to concentrate on those things,but wouldnt it be good if at those times we can just stop and say something to your partner or them to you that makes you smile.?
Also complimenting each other rather then taking it as read that they look alright..
Ive just read back what i wrote and i think i am in danger of being a true romantic,


Nothing wrong with Romance or being romantic, makes life worth living.
There is a time for everything, as the saying goes, and it is nice to feel free to compliment, kiss or say 'I love you' to someone right out of the blue, those are the moments worth living for. I guess it depends, as I wrote above, what you do and say and where and with whom you do and say those things. Certain persons find certain things inappropriate considering the setting or the mood...
The best thing is to be with someone with whom you can feel free to do all those nice little things without being afraid of their reaction or having to hold back because it's not "appropriate".
Depends on the person and a lot of other things I guess.
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Dec 21, 2011 8:00 PM CST How difficult or easy is it to show your emmotions?
single4ever
single4eversingle4everCalgary, Alberta Canada1,109 Posts
Its very hard to express or show my emotions. I think it stems from spending years of seperating my emotions from my decision making in the military. Its a hard thing to change when you have been conditioned to think that way. Has this been detremental to my relationships? Absolutely, but it has kept me safe from being hurt and I don't think at this time of my life that will ever change.
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Dec 21, 2011 8:15 PM CST How difficult or easy is it to show your emmotions?
aramaya
aramayaaramayawiltshire, Wiltshire, England UK7 Threads 559 Posts
Mermaidon: Nothing wrong with Romance or being romantic, makes life worth living.
There is a time for everything, as the saying goes, and it is nice to feel free to compliment, kiss or say 'I love you' to someone right out of the blue, those are the moments worth living for. I guess it depends, as I wrote above, what you do and say and where and with whom you do and say those things. Certain persons find certain things inappropriate considering the setting or the mood...
The best thing is to be with someone with whom you can feel free to do all those nice little things without being afraid of their reaction or having to hold back because it's not "appropriate".
Depends on the person and a lot of other things I guess.
I have come to realize that as you said these are the moments worth living for,your right..bouquet Its only taken me 40 odd years to figure it out.laugh
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Dec 21, 2011 8:21 PM CST How difficult or easy is it to show your emmotions?
aramaya
aramayaaramayawiltshire, Wiltshire, England UK7 Threads 559 Posts
single4ever: Its very hard to express or show my emotions. I think it stems from spending years of seperating my emotions from my decision making in the military. Its a hard thing to change when you have been conditioned to think that way. Has this been detremental to my relationships? Absolutely, but it has kept me safe from being hurt and I don't think at this time of my life that will ever change.
i was the same and still now am aware of it.My poor ex,was very tactile and affectionate and i just couldnt be then well not to the degree that he would have liked..I think as you said its a safety net from being hurt and would be very difficult after being in the military.
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Dec 21, 2011 8:31 PM CST How difficult or easy is it to show your emmotions?
single4ever
single4eversingle4everCalgary, Alberta Canada1,109 Posts
aramaya: i was the same and still now am aware of it.My poor ex,was very tactile and affectionate and i just couldnt be then well not to the degree that he would have liked..I think as you said its a safety net from being hurt and would be very difficult after being in the military.


This is one of the reasons I don't date or try to get into a relationship. I don't want to get hurt or hurt anyone. I also don't want to deny a man the love and affection he deserves.
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Dec 21, 2011 8:37 PM CST How difficult or easy is it to show your emmotions?
Mermaidon
MermaidonMermaidonBrussels, Brussels (Bruxelles) Belgium26 Threads 4 Polls 1,116 Posts
aramaya: I have come to realize that as you said these are the moments worth living for,your right.. Its only taken me 40 odd years to figure it out.


You're lucky... Must've taken me a couple of lifetimes bouquet
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