if she ask should i take her back????? (34)
phantom2flint, Michigan USA35 Threads 15 Polls 140 Postsafter she left me i still feel for her its been a week and a half and part of me still misses her. the guy she left me for left her if she asks me back should i take her back idk im torn any advice
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no way.i wouldnt. 
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phantom2: after she left me i still feel for her its been a week and a half and part of me still misses her. the guy she left me for left her if she asks me back should i take her back idk im torn any advice
If you're into playing man in the middle, take her back but it would be a big mistake imho....
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phantom2: after she left me i still feel for her its been a week and a half and part of me still misses her. the guy she left me for left her if she asks me back should i take her back idk im torn any advice
man up and move on dude. POF out there!
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phantom2: after she left me i still feel for her its been a week and a half and part of me still misses her. the guy she left me for left her if she asks me back should i take her back idk im torn any advice
Only one time.
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phantom2: after she left me i still feel for her its been a week and a half and part of me still misses her. the guy she left me for left her if she asks me back should i take her back idk im torn any advice
Screw me once shame on me; Screw me twice shame on you.
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NO
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F her. figuratively not literally. 
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make her crawl back then say no thanx 
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it is easy to sit back and make black & white statements because the answer to the situation seems so obvious, and many are right I think, that the chances of it not working out are not good.
But in a similar situation, if the man who tossed me aside last spring asked for another try would I? All logic says HELL to NO, but if I were still single, I might. Why? I am human and my happiness is more important than my pride. I'm not here to make a braggy show or play games of being unavailable when I am really attracted to someone. I do not let pride go before happiness. I liked him - the time was not right for him - granted it was no great romance, We were just friends, but to say no to second chance - even at just being a friend- to me would be stupid. I might get hurt again, or maybe I have learned enough to approach things a little differently this time. Ask the right questions. It still might not work, but WHAT IF IT DID ? If I had turned down the request for a second chance I'd have lost a second chance at love. at friendship, or at both.
Actually I have done this once before - I'm a second chance kinda gal (you tend to keep more friends that way) but anyway. A few years ago in a similar situation I said yes to a second chance. It was a little bittersweet - it effectively gave me the opportunity to spend more time with him to RE learn why it wasn't going to work out. We parted as freinds - I broke it off on that second try - which also helped me with my own closure. The "seocnd try" gave me perspective and gave us both the the chance to part as freinds - spend time together before that last good bye so to speak - and were are still on good terms. Worse things can happen....just saying
think hard before the decision to shut someone out of your life with no second chance. Is that the kind of person you want to be? Is that how you want to be treated if the shoe is on the other foot?
But in a similar situation, if the man who tossed me aside last spring asked for another try would I? All logic says HELL to NO, but if I were still single, I might. Why? I am human and my happiness is more important than my pride. I'm not here to make a braggy show or play games of being unavailable when I am really attracted to someone. I do not let pride go before happiness. I liked him - the time was not right for him - granted it was no great romance, We were just friends, but to say no to second chance - even at just being a friend- to me would be stupid. I might get hurt again, or maybe I have learned enough to approach things a little differently this time. Ask the right questions. It still might not work, but WHAT IF IT DID ? If I had turned down the request for a second chance I'd have lost a second chance at love. at friendship, or at both.
Actually I have done this once before - I'm a second chance kinda gal (you tend to keep more friends that way) but anyway. A few years ago in a similar situation I said yes to a second chance. It was a little bittersweet - it effectively gave me the opportunity to spend more time with him to RE learn why it wasn't going to work out. We parted as freinds - I broke it off on that second try - which also helped me with my own closure. The "seocnd try" gave me perspective and gave us both the the chance to part as freinds - spend time together before that last good bye so to speak - and were are still on good terms. Worse things can happen....just saying
think hard before the decision to shut someone out of your life with no second chance. Is that the kind of person you want to be? Is that how you want to be treated if the shoe is on the other foot?
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phantom2: after she left me i still feel for her its been a week and a half and part of me still misses her. the guy she left me for left her if she asks me back should i take her back idk im torn any advice
Maybe she learned a lesson now.
Question is if you can forgive her and let it slide.
If you are going to throw it at her every time you guys get in to an argument, it's better stay away from her. Only you know your personality and that's the most important factor here.
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phantom2: after she left me i still feel for her its been a week and a half and part of me still misses her. the guy she left me for left her if she asks me back should i take her back idk im torn any advice
Take some time for yourself, and it seems that you are getting ahead of yourself since she hasn't asked ... its natural to miss someone and especially more so when it wasn't your decision to end the relationship. Don't live your life wondering about the "what ifs" - move forward. If she decides to reappear at some point, then it would be the time to address the issues, have a deep heart to heart discussion about what she was unhappy about, and then after that decide if you want to propose trying again. In the meantime though, you may have indeed moved on .... taking a fresh perspective is good.
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phantom2: after she left me i still feel for her its been a week and a half and part of me still misses her. the guy she left me for left her if she asks me back should i take her back idk im torn any advice
Take her back ...
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Its really up to you. I know for me, the "second chances" thing never works
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phantom2: after she left me i still feel for her its been a week and a half and part of me still misses her. the guy she left me for left her if she asks me back should i take her back idk im torn any advice
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Mmmm... If you are ok with being " the second plate"
I think you should be someone else's first choice if your partner really cares...not just a sort of " what's left"
Your desition dear, this is just my humble oppinion.
I wouldnt accept sucha thing
Best of luck!
I think you should be someone else's first choice if your partner really cares...not just a sort of " what's left"
Your desition dear, this is just my humble oppinion.
I wouldnt accept sucha thing
Best of luck!
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phantom2: after she left me i still feel for her its been a week and a half and part of me still misses her. the guy she left me for left her if she asks me back should i take her back idk im torn any advice
I think you are still grieving the end of the relationship.
The fact you are still emotional tells me you haven't yet moved on and you are still vulnerable to her deception.
To answer your question, WOULD you be okay with being her second best and be content with knowing the next time something better comes along you will be cast aside like a day old newspaper?
If so...proceed with reconciliation and enjoy it for however long it lasts, because it won't be long.
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well im closing this thread becouse i wrote her cousen to say " i see the man she dumped me for left her sorry to hear that hope she is doing ok" get a message fram her that said sorry but i dont want you and leave my cousin alone. i was just trying to sho consurn does anyone see what i did wrong im comfused
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phantom2: well im closing this thread becouse i wrote her cousen to say " i see the man she dumped me for left her sorry to hear that hope she is doing ok" get a message fram her that said sorry but i dont want you and leave my cousin alone. i was just trying to sho consurn does anyone see what i did wrong im comfused
Well, this I had to learn as well. Some people just don't like us.
Walk away,, to hang out or do the call thing is no good. if you have some belongings left behind then just get it and get out...sometimes you even leave stuff behind, it is better to learn it now then years later.
it's tough and I no first hand that it is hard to admit to ourselves that someone really does not want us around at all.
The good news is that some one does! and you open that door when you seal the other closed.
I hope you can see what I say. It really is important not to get stuck in a bad cycle.
Nikogash
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tstone61: make her crawl back then say no thanx
you´re evil!
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