if she ask should i take her back????? (34)
phantom2: after she left me i still feel for her its been a week and a half and part of me still misses her. the guy she left me for left her if she asks me back should i take her back idk im torn any advice
the best thing to do: try to forget her. Take your time to heal your heart and someone worthy will come your way eventually.
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In response to: after she left me i still feel for her its been a week and a half and part of me still misses her. the guy she left me for left her if she asks me back should i take her back idk im torn any advice
My X did that and I gave her a second chance and she did it again.
Don't do it !
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felixis99: it is easy to sit back and make black & white statements because the answer to the situation seems so obvious, and many are right I think, that the chances of it not working out are not good.
But in a similar situation, if the man who tossed me aside last spring asked for another try would I? All logic says HELL to NO, but if I were still single, I might. Why? I am human and my happiness is more important than my pride. I'm not here to make a braggy show or play games of being unavailable when I am really attracted to someone. I do not let pride go before happiness. I liked him - the time was not right for him - granted it was no great romance, We were just friends, but to say no to second chance - even at just being a friend- to me would be stupid. I might get hurt again, or maybe I have learned enough to approach things a little differently this time. Ask the right questions. It still might not work, but WHAT IF IT DID ? If I had turned down the request for a second chance I'd have lost a second chance at love. at friendship, or at both.
Actually I have done this once before - I'm a second chance kinda gal (you tend to keep more friends that way) but anyway. A few years ago in a similar situation I said yes to a second chance. It was a little bittersweet - it effectively gave me the opportunity to spend more time with him to RE learn why it wasn't going to work out. We parted as freinds - I broke it off on that second try - which also helped me with my own closure. The "seocnd try" gave me perspective and gave us both the the chance to part as freinds - spend time together before that last good bye so to speak - and were are still on good terms. Worse things can happen....just saying
think hard before the decision to shut someone out of your life with no second chance. Is that the kind of person you want to be? Is that how you want to be treated if the shoe is on the other foot?
But in a similar situation, if the man who tossed me aside last spring asked for another try would I? All logic says HELL to NO, but if I were still single, I might. Why? I am human and my happiness is more important than my pride. I'm not here to make a braggy show or play games of being unavailable when I am really attracted to someone. I do not let pride go before happiness. I liked him - the time was not right for him - granted it was no great romance, We were just friends, but to say no to second chance - even at just being a friend- to me would be stupid. I might get hurt again, or maybe I have learned enough to approach things a little differently this time. Ask the right questions. It still might not work, but WHAT IF IT DID ? If I had turned down the request for a second chance I'd have lost a second chance at love. at friendship, or at both.
Actually I have done this once before - I'm a second chance kinda gal (you tend to keep more friends that way) but anyway. A few years ago in a similar situation I said yes to a second chance. It was a little bittersweet - it effectively gave me the opportunity to spend more time with him to RE learn why it wasn't going to work out. We parted as freinds - I broke it off on that second try - which also helped me with my own closure. The "seocnd try" gave me perspective and gave us both the the chance to part as freinds - spend time together before that last good bye so to speak - and were are still on good terms. Worse things can happen....just saying
think hard before the decision to shut someone out of your life with no second chance. Is that the kind of person you want to be? Is that how you want to be treated if the shoe is on the other foot?
+1
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langleygirl: Take some time for yourself, and it seems that you are getting ahead of yourself since she hasn't asked ... its natural to miss someone and especially more so when it wasn't your decision to end the relationship.
Don't live your life wondering about the "what ifs" - move forward. If she decides to reappear at some point, then it would be the time to address the issues, have a deep heart to heart discussion about what she was unhappy about, and then after that decide if you want to propose trying again. In the meantime though, you may have indeed moved on .... taking a fresh perspective is good.
Don't live your life wondering about the "what ifs" - move forward. If she decides to reappear at some point, then it would be the time to address the issues, have a deep heart to heart discussion about what she was unhappy about, and then after that decide if you want to propose trying again. In the meantime though, you may have indeed moved on .... taking a fresh perspective is good.
so good to see you again! and as always such a multi dimensional perspective - like ur answer!
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felixis99: it is easy to sit back and make black & white statements because the answer to the situation seems so obvious, and many are right I think, that the chances of it not working out are not good.
But in a similar situation, if the man who tossed me aside last spring asked for another try would I? All logic says HELL to NO, but if I were still single, I might. Why? I am human and my happiness is more important than my pride. I'm not here to make a braggy show or play games of being unavailable when I am really attracted to someone. I do not let pride go before happiness. I liked him - the time was not right for him - granted it was no great romance, We were just friends, but to say no to second chance - even at just being a friend- to me would be stupid. I might get hurt again, or maybe I have learned enough to approach things a little differently this time. Ask the right questions. It still might not work, but WHAT IF IT DID ? If I had turned down the request for a second chance I'd have lost a second chance at love. at friendship, or at both.
Actually I have done this once before - I'm a second chance kinda gal (you tend to keep more friends that way) but anyway. A few years ago in a similar situation I said yes to a second chance. It was a little bittersweet - it effectively gave me the opportunity to spend more time with him to RE learn why it wasn't going to work out. We parted as freinds - I broke it off on that second try - which also helped me with my own closure. The "seocnd try" gave me perspective and gave us both the the chance to part as freinds - spend time together before that last good bye so to speak - and were are still on good terms. Worse things can happen....just saying
think hard before the decision to shut someone out of your life with no second chance. Is that the kind of person you want to be? Is that how you want to be treated if the shoe is on the other foot?
But in a similar situation, if the man who tossed me aside last spring asked for another try would I? All logic says HELL to NO, but if I were still single, I might. Why? I am human and my happiness is more important than my pride. I'm not here to make a braggy show or play games of being unavailable when I am really attracted to someone. I do not let pride go before happiness. I liked him - the time was not right for him - granted it was no great romance, We were just friends, but to say no to second chance - even at just being a friend- to me would be stupid. I might get hurt again, or maybe I have learned enough to approach things a little differently this time. Ask the right questions. It still might not work, but WHAT IF IT DID ? If I had turned down the request for a second chance I'd have lost a second chance at love. at friendship, or at both.
Actually I have done this once before - I'm a second chance kinda gal (you tend to keep more friends that way) but anyway. A few years ago in a similar situation I said yes to a second chance. It was a little bittersweet - it effectively gave me the opportunity to spend more time with him to RE learn why it wasn't going to work out. We parted as freinds - I broke it off on that second try - which also helped me with my own closure. The "seocnd try" gave me perspective and gave us both the the chance to part as freinds - spend time together before that last good bye so to speak - and were are still on good terms. Worse things can happen....just saying
think hard before the decision to shut someone out of your life with no second chance. Is that the kind of person you want to be? Is that how you want to be treated if the shoe is on the other foot?
SPS0913: +1
10+
it is difficult to make any statement for this thread, may be the time and the man's honest repentance & remorse will make us be possible to forgive & forget for his/her guilty :-))) but the 2nd time's loayty betray is repeated then there will be no way for the 3rd time ... jmho
~ When you stop chasing the wrong things, you give the right things a chance to catch you ~.
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Sister28: 10+
it is difficult to make any statement for this thread, may be the time and the man's honest repentance & remorse will make us be possible to forgive & forget for his/her guilty :-))) but the 2nd time's loayty betray is repeated then there will be no way for the 3rd time ... jmho
~ When you stop chasing the wrong things, you give the right things a chance to catch you ~.
it is difficult to make any statement for this thread, may be the time and the man's honest repentance & remorse will make us be possible to forgive & forget for his/her guilty :-))) but the 2nd time's loayty betray is repeated then there will be no way for the 3rd time ... jmho
~ When you stop chasing the wrong things, you give the right things a chance to catch you ~.
+100 screw her i'm never going to forgive and forget what she did to me. ok maybe. someday.
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phantom2: well im closing this thread becouse i wrote her cousen to say " i see the man she dumped me for left her sorry to hear that hope she is doing ok" get a message fram her that said sorry but i dont want you and leave my cousin alone. i was just trying to sho consurn does anyone see what i did wrong im comfused
What part of her statement did you not understand? Time to move on pal and put this person in the past. If you ever did get back with her she would most certainly hurt you bad. Go through the pain now and get it over with.
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phantom2: after she left me i still feel for her its been a week and a half and part of me still misses her. the guy she left me for left her if she asks me back should i take her back idk im torn any advice
I wouldn't take her back. She might be with you for 2 weeks and decide to leave again.
Move on, dear. There are women out there deserving of you.
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phantom2: after she left me i still feel for her its been a week and a half and part of me still misses her. the guy she left me for left her if she asks me back should i take her back idk im torn any advice
She left you, why take her back?
Take her back, and she'll leave you again. How many times do you wanna play the game is up to you.
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langleygirl: Take some time for yourself, and it seems that you are getting ahead of yourself since she hasn't asked ... its natural to miss someone and especially more so when it wasn't your decision to end the relationship.
Don't live your life wondering about the "what ifs" - move forward. If she decides to reappear at some point, then it would be the time to address the issues, have a deep heart to heart discussion about what she was unhappy about, and then after that decide if you want to propose trying again. In the meantime though, you may have indeed moved on .... taking a fresh perspective is good.
Don't live your life wondering about the "what ifs" - move forward. If she decides to reappear at some point, then it would be the time to address the issues, have a deep heart to heart discussion about what she was unhappy about, and then after that decide if you want to propose trying again. In the meantime though, you may have indeed moved on .... taking a fresh perspective is good.
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phantom2: well im closing this thread becouse i wrote her cousen to say " i see the man she dumped me for left her sorry to hear that hope she is doing ok" get a message fram her that said sorry but i dont want you and leave my cousin alone. i was just trying to sho consurn does anyone see what i did wrong im comfused
no you did not do anything wrong. it is just fairly clear that she does not want you in her life. at this point she wants you to let go completely. if u care about her, you will respect her wishes and not contact her or her family members - if there is to be future contact, it will have to come from her. sorry to hear this has happened to you.
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phantom2: well im closing this thread becouse i wrote her cousen to say " i see the man she dumped me for left her sorry to hear that hope she is doing ok" get a message fram her that said sorry but i dont want you and leave my cousin alone. i was just trying to sho consurn does anyone see what i did wrong im comfused
Ok...this is just meant to unconfuse you...man up and turn on your heel and walk briskly away from this fiasco. She doesn't want to hear from you directly or through a second party. It hurts for a while but to cling to her and the memory of this failed relationship will hurt a lot worse and last a lot longer. You deserve better and won't heal from this until you do something for your own self respect. There are a lot of women on this planet and this one isn't for you. Best of luck.
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