IT'S OVER. (43)
Nikogas: So,,there is a lot of us here that were married or had a relationship that for reasons didn't work out. But my question is, after all the dust settles, did you really Love them? I did. I really did Love my two wives that married me. Even though I will probably never see or hear from them again in my life,,,I still hope that they have a long and happy life. Some things disappear and leave us but I have a good memory and I know how I felt. So, anyone else? or do the rest of the people here just wish they never met their past "Loves"???
"Nikogas"
"Nikogas"
Still have love for my exhusband..but would not want him back .How can I not ? we had two lovely daughters together and good times mixed up with the not so good.. I too wish him well in his future life.
------ This thread is Archived ------
hi niko-B,
no regrets..but no, i didn't love my ex husband. nor did i pretend to while married. so it was already clear before the dust settled.
i'm not entirely heartless...lol. i did care, and a lot. but i wouldn't go so far as to say i loved him. i don't wish him anything now, rarely think of him. but i don't think i've ever really been in love with a partner. still hoping it happens...one day....(grin)
no regrets..but no, i didn't love my ex husband. nor did i pretend to while married. so it was already clear before the dust settled.
i'm not entirely heartless...lol. i did care, and a lot. but i wouldn't go so far as to say i loved him. i don't wish him anything now, rarely think of him. but i don't think i've ever really been in love with a partner. still hoping it happens...one day....(grin)
------ This thread is Archived ------
Awww Niko. 
------ This thread is Archived ------
Thanks for posting "Lovelylass" hope I got that right. KB you're a sweetheart, thanks for the . Jono, I hope you have that feeling one day, I guess I just have to believe you will, but I can only say that you will know when you feel it, I will say that I pray that when and if you do that you enjoy every moment of it. I know that if I had those memories and that feeling taken away I would lose a part of myself that is very special.
Cheers all. make it a good one.
"Nikogas"
. Jono, I hope you have that feeling one day, I guess I just have to believe you will, but I can only say that you will know when you feel it, I will say that I pray that when and if you do that you enjoy every moment of it. I know that if I had those memories and that feeling taken away I would lose a part of myself that is very special. Cheers all. make it a good one.
"Nikogas"
------ This thread is Archived ------
Nikogas: So,,there is a lot of us here that were married or had a relationship that for reasons didn't work out. But my question is, after all the dust settles, did you really Love them? I did. I really did Love my two wives that married me. Even though I will probably never see or hear from them again in my life,,,I still hope that they have a long and happy life. Some things disappear and leave us but I have a good memory and I know how I felt. So, anyone else? or do the rest of the people here just wish they never met their past "Loves"???
"Nikogas"
"Nikogas"
I prefer to focus on the good things, the happy memories. I did and saw many things I otherwise would not have. Some of these exepriences I treasure...So in the end, there is some kind of balance.
I would never wish ill on the man I have loved.
------ This thread is Archived ------
venere08: I prefer to focus on the good things, the happy memories. I did and saw many things I otherwise would not have. Some of these exepriences I treasure...So in the end, there is some kind of balance.
I would never wish ill on the man I have loved.
I would never wish ill on the man I have loved.
..
------ This thread is Archived ------
jono7: hi niko-B,
no regrets..but no, i didn't love my ex husband. nor did i pretend to while married. so it was already clear before the dust settled.
i'm not entirely heartless...lol. i did care, and a lot. but i wouldn't go so far as to say i loved him. i don't wish him anything now, rarely think of him. but i don't think i've ever really been in love with a partner. still hoping it happens...one day....(grin)
no regrets..but no, i didn't love my ex husband. nor did i pretend to while married. so it was already clear before the dust settled.
i'm not entirely heartless...lol. i did care, and a lot. but i wouldn't go so far as to say i loved him. i don't wish him anything now, rarely think of him. but i don't think i've ever really been in love with a partner. still hoping it happens...one day....(grin)
..reaching your depth, requires a deep ocean diver
------ This thread is Archived ------
venere08: I prefer to focus on the good things, the happy memories. I did and saw many things I otherwise would not have. Some of these exepriences I treasure...So in the end, there is some kind of balance.
I would never wish ill on the man I have loved.
I would never wish ill on the man I have loved.
thanks for the very sincere post, and sorry about the other "riff raff" that seemed to slip by.
Have a nice evening one and all.
Nikogas.
;-}
------ This thread is Archived ------
serene56: The old fart
indeed...oh,wait,you were talking about your ex,not mine
now seriously,things between us were over long before we finally split apart. all the good and the bad is in the past,and more,i think he's better father to our son now.
------ This thread is Archived ------
" With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happpened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you growing, you get to choose " - Wayne Dyer
------ This thread is Archived ------
Nikogas: So,,there is a lot of us here that were married or had a relationship that for reasons didn't work out. But my question is, after all the dust settles, did you really Love them? I did. I really did Love my two wives that married me. Even though I will probably never see or hear from them again in my life,,,I still hope that they have a long and happy life. Some things disappear and leave us but I have a good memory and I know how I felt. So, anyone else? or do the rest of the people here just wish they never met their past "Loves"???
"Nikogas"
"Nikogas"
Yes, I did love them sincerely. They didn't love me, that's why we are not together now. I wish them good lives, too. And, as you said, we would probably not meet anymore, but it is not because I want it so. I think that we could be very good friends now, not lovers, but friends. Only, they don't want it. I can't force them, though. It is their choice.
------ This thread is Archived ------
Nikogas: So,,there is a lot of us here that were married or had a relationship that for reasons didn't work out. But my question is, after all the dust settles, did you really Love them? I did. I really did Love my two wives that married me. Even though I will probably never see or hear from them again in my life,,,I still hope that they have a long and happy life. Some things disappear and leave us but I have a good memory and I know how I felt. So, anyone else? or do the rest of the people here just wish they never met their past "Loves"???
"Nikogas"
"Nikogas"
Does it really matter ??? Was I cheated on, or was I cheating on them, who took whom for a ride ,was there really love or something else ...as your headline goes...It`s over.
------ This thread is Archived ------
venere08: I prefer to focus on the good things, the happy memories. I did and saw many things I otherwise would not have. Some of these exepriences I treasure...So in the end, there is some kind of balance.
I would never wish ill on the man I have loved.
hi ...V yes i can relate to that......I would never wish ill on the man I have loved.
------ This thread is Archived ------
I wouldn't exchange my memory, good and bad times with my ex-husband for anything. I loved him dearly although, the same like you, I don't have any single contact since ages. That experience has taught me a lot about life in general and man in particular.
------ This thread is Archived ------
"Marry in haste repent at your leisure"
That was me, looking back I was infatuated with him, didnt actually know him well enough to love him when we married. Sadly when I did get to know him I learned he was a cruel, bitter man who was capable of causing more hurt, both physical and emotional than I could have ever imagined.
My overiding emotion when he died was relief.
That was me, looking back I was infatuated with him, didnt actually know him well enough to love him when we married. Sadly when I did get to know him I learned he was a cruel, bitter man who was capable of causing more hurt, both physical and emotional than I could have ever imagined.
My overiding emotion when he died was relief.
------ This thread is Archived ------
I'm sure most thought they loved the person they were marrying but soon found out being IN LOVE is a whole other ballgame..JMO. We all tend to look back & have the what if's but hindsight is not always 20/20. I was young & fell into that syndrome but tried to use it to my advantage for the future & then again another lesson to be learned-NO GUARANTEES IN LIFE.
------ This thread is Archived ------
jono7: hi niko-B,
no regrets..but no, i didn't love my ex husband. nor did i pretend to while married. so it was already clear before the dust settled.
i'm not entirely heartless...lol. i did care, and a lot. but i wouldn't go so far as to say i loved him. i don't wish him anything now, rarely think of him. but i don't think i've ever really been in love with a partner. still hoping it happens...one day....(grin)
no regrets..but no, i didn't love my ex husband. nor did i pretend to while married. so it was already clear before the dust settled.
i'm not entirely heartless...lol. i did care, and a lot. but i wouldn't go so far as to say i loved him. i don't wish him anything now, rarely think of him. but i don't think i've ever really been in love with a partner. still hoping it happens...one day....(grin)
This could have been written by my ex wife. Her feeling this way is why I divorced her. Honestly I did love her but now? Nothing, rarely think of her.
Even love of a partner can die if it is not returned.
------ This thread is Archived ------
deepend: This could have been written by my ex wife. Her feeling this way is why I divorced her. Honestly I did love her but now? Nothing, rarely think of her.
Even love of a partner can die if it is not returned.
Even love of a partner can die if it is not returned.
i'm so glad you posted. and i hope you come back and see this. i would like to know your thoughts.
but here's my question for you, and where i am confused...
"even love of a partner can die if it is not returned"
because when i love someone, and i have (just not a partner), my love for them is independent of what they give me back. i can love them up close, or from a distance, or never see them again...but i still love them.
for me...love is about how i feel, what i give...it has never been about what someone can give me, or as you have said, return to me.
if you see this, could you please explain your first post a bit more. thank you
------ This thread is Archived ------
Yes I did deeply with all my heart in fact
------ This thread is Archived ------
This Thread is Archived
This Thread is archived, so you will no longer be able to post to it. Threads get archived automatically when they are older than 3 months.
« Go back to All Threads
« Go back to All Threads
More Threads
So, . . .
If Our Profiles Were Truly Honest
One week of the most outrageous GOP leadership!
What happened to CS while i was away.. (Long time)
No Burning Bodies
The Real Stormy Story
Trump on Trial
Which Of These Is Your Favorite Breakfast
Should CS charge EVERYone a fee to keep fake profiles and scammers out?
Thoughts on Daylight Savings
More Threads
Report threads that break rules, are offensive, or contain fighting. Staff may not be aware of the forum abuse, and cannot do anything about it unless you tell us about it. click to report forum abuse »
If one of the comments is offensive, please report the comment instead (there is a link in each comment to report it).
If one of the comments is offensive, please report the comment instead (there is a link in each comment to report it).
Stats for this Thread
3,420 Views
42 Comments
Created: Jan 2012
Last Viewed: Apr 10
Last Commented: Mar 2012
0 Likes
Related Forums
- So, . . .
- If Our Profiles Were Truly Honest
- One week of the most outrageous GOP leadership!
- What happened to CS while i was away.. (Long time)
- No Burning Bodies
- The Real Stormy Story
- Trump on Trial
- Which Of These Is Your Favorite Breakfast
- Should CS charge EVERYone a fee to keep fake profiles and scammers out?
- Thoughts on Daylight Savings
"Nikogas"