Getting a number in a pub/club (11)

Hi. After commenting recently on a thread about talking to girls in bars/clubs and stuff, i thought it might be useful to share a good way to do this, if you're a little on the shy side. Bear in mind this would work for the ladies too, probably.

Ok, so. You've just seen a nice girl/bloke sitting at the bar. What would be the best way to approach them and get their number? Well, just make sure you have a wingman/wingwoman who are on the same page as you. This helps. A lot.

Basically, you're gonna want to think up just one thing, a topic which may be interesting to that person. Preferably nothing overly cheesy, but i guess a little cheese could break the ice. Then hopefully the conversation will flow from there. Once you've done that, get a mate you're with to keep an eye on proceedings when you go over to talk to them.

Tell your mate (if all's going well) to come and get you after a certain amount of time, about 5 minutes should do it, suggesting to go to another pub/club. At this point, tell your mate to wait outside for a minute or so while you finish your conversation. Say something like: "Ok. Just give me a sec." As soon as your friend goes, turn back around to who you're talking to, and say you're sorry, but you have to go. Could i have your number? (With a smile.)

If she's/he's interested, you'll get her/his number. If not, you won't. No biggie. This technique is good for asking for a number and getting out of there, sharpish, without having to try to work out another topic to talk about. It's also good because, if you've done it right, they'll want to know more about you, and hanging around someone you're flirting with too long is a bad idea. Less is more as they say.

Anyway. Not sure if this would actually help anyone, but this is just an idea for anyone who's willing to give it a go. Ya never know.

Sounds a long winded process just to get a number


Surely a simple " May I have your number ?" would suffice.j.m.o.

True. But for some, it can be difficult to actually flirt with people full stop. But it does have it's advantages, such as breaking away from the conversation and leaving the other person wanting to know more. So slightly more chance of getting the number, i'd think. On the other hand, if someone were to make a bit of a mess of it, rather than dying of embarrassment in front of who they were talking to, it gives a good excuse to say goodbye and leave. Just an idea though.

Well I'm far too old to be playing games,so will leave it up to the young guns!

May i have your Number

This just reminded me of

Bout 5 yrs ago ,im in my local and a regular walks in who knew me and with a woman he had been with all evening buying drinks ,

They sat at my table him saying the helloes leaving her sitting next to me as he went to the Bar to get more drinks for himself and her .

Not being to much of a Ladies Man as most pubs im in its Music and Business then home ,, but to be honest i had chatted to her while he was at bar and found her to be as attractive in conversation as in looks .

So producing my fone number pre written {take notes Author }

handed it discreetly to her . But instead of her putting it in her bag clenched it in her hand till her date come back and sat down at da table with drinks ,

Then saying to me in front of everyone ,"thats a lousy thing to do on my date"

The date now kinda realising what i did said to her in a kind of questionable manner , asked her what she wanted to do , he unfortunately went home alone , i was willing to waite for a future call at a later date {iff at all she did ?.

Did i do wrong , i confess my sins

Ooh you are awful,but I do like you.

I'm with best on this one...What a load of balls. Just ask her for it. it's easier all round.

I think I would be too scared to ask for anyones number ... but being able to ask and then run sounds a good option