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The belief as I understand it is based on the fact that we are born alone. Then comes that moment in youth when self awareness happens and the realization that we are alone and nothing can ever alter that. Face it, we're alone and there is no togetherness that will ever change that fact.
Some psychologists believe that this one single fear, is what follows us through life creating all manner of problem behaviors when one hasn't discharged or released the emotion of alone, lonely, sad. This fear manifests in relationships in a number of ways, such as feeling that someone won't support you, or has hurt you and may again, or that they are selfish, jerks, etc. This is the fear of being alone, projecting on others.
They don't suggest that partnering is bad but that partnering without dealing with that basic fear results in the inability to see opportunity for love and joy and take action fearlessly to manifest it. Essentially that fear blinds one to experiences and keeps us in a holding pattern of repetitious fear based relationship failures.
What do you think?
Who wants to play with my junk? OK, playing with my junk isn't part of the theory but the question stands cos I'm like that.