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I couldn't answer that since there are a myriad of possibilites for the action. Anything from social phobias to chemical dependance is possible. It's also possible that he's just decided to withdraw to a peaceful being and only shows up to appease the feelings of others. Hard to say. So without enough info it isn't fair to say anything. it would only be conjecture on my part.
I suppose in a way I am running away too. I don't give much thought to being alone actually but I do wonder why people think that attaching themselves in a romantic relationship will take away that loneliness if they haven't addressed that childhood fear of being lonely. So, that being said does anyone really get over the fear of alone or do we just run to others to eliviate that fear?
The mind is easily fooled as you might have noticed, so indeed some alleviation can result. It's superficial as I said. What is problematic is that the emotion remains unresolved and continually manifests itself in any further connections with others. At least that is what these some psychologists are saying.
I don't think it's wrong to connect with others for any reason. I don't think that is the issue. I think it is more about dealing with that primal fear in a way the disperses the entropy before it builds and compounds itself. Not easy in a society that treats emotion as something to avoid. (because of fear mind you) Anyway, whether you run from or run to a relationship, it isn't the question or the answer here.