leaving children home alone (82)
michael63ca: Would you leave your 15 year old daughter at home for a week by themselves to go on a trip with your new boy/girlfriend?
If I raised him up the way I was brought up ? any time.
If he was raised by today's "way of parenting" ?....are you fu**ing crazy !!!!
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lostabone: If I raised him up the way I was brought up ? any time.
If he was raised by today's "way of parenting" ?....are you fu**ing crazy !!!! what's a matter with you ??!!
If he was raised by today's "way of parenting" ?....are you fu**ing crazy !!!! what's a matter with you ??!!
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lostabone: If I raised him up the way I was brought up ? any time.
If he was raised by today's "way of parenting" ?....are you fu**ing crazy !!!! what's a matter with you ??!!
If he was raised by today's "way of parenting" ?....are you fu**ing crazy !!!! what's a matter with you ??!!
Hit the nail on the head
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lostabone: If I raised him up the way I was brought up ? any time.
If he was raised by today's "way of parenting" ?....are you fu**ing crazy !!!! what's a matter with you ??!!
If he was raised by today's "way of parenting" ?....are you fu**ing crazy !!!! what's a matter with you ??!!
Here comes a question. What is different from the way we grew up( back then) and NOW?
The same parents, the same children. Are nowdays parents follow Government rules and Laws?
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Konigsberg: Here comes a question. What is different from the way we grew up( back then) and NOW?
The same parents, the same children. Are nowdays parents follow Government rules and Laws?
The same parents, the same children. Are nowdays parents follow Government rules and Laws?
Hi Konigsberg
My thoughts are that many young people these days seem to be 'younger' than they were years ago
At 15 I was studying and working part-time as were many of my peers then by the time we were in our twenties many of us were married and raising a family.
I'm not saying this is right or wrong, but many 20+ yr olds in this country are still living at home, with their needs being met by their parents (cars, furniture, educational expenses etc) and they seem to not be regarded as adults
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Boyfriend at 15 years old? Is not a little bit to young ?
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serene56: Hi Konigsberg
My thoughts are that many young people these days seem to be 'younger' than they were years ago
At 15 I was studying and working part-time as were many of my peers then by the time we were in our twenties many of us were married and raising a family.
I'm not saying this is right or wrong, but many 20+ yr olds in this country are still living at home, with their needs being met by their parents (cars, furniture, educational expenses etc) and they seem to not be regarded as adults
My thoughts are that many young people these days seem to be 'younger' than they were years ago
At 15 I was studying and working part-time as were many of my peers then by the time we were in our twenties many of us were married and raising a family.
I'm not saying this is right or wrong, but many 20+ yr olds in this country are still living at home, with their needs being met by their parents (cars, furniture, educational expenses etc) and they seem to not be regarded as adults
Hi Serene!
I understand! I see it a lot. But, my question is Do we, as a parents are responsible for this failure( I hope it is not a very strong word.)to raise our children to be more mature and responsible?
Why it is happening?
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Still don't understand :
-Having boyfriend at 15 years old ..
-The boy friend moving together with 15 years old girl , for a week? What he's doing all this time? Being her bodyguard or playing strippoker?
I wouldn't let my 15 years old home alone .Not for a night or for a week ...NO way!
-Having boyfriend at 15 years old ..
-The boy friend moving together with 15 years old girl , for a week? What he's doing all this time? Being her bodyguard or playing strippoker?
I wouldn't let my 15 years old home alone .Not for a night or for a week ...NO way!
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michael63ca: Would you leave your 15 year old daughter at home for a week by themselves to go on a trip with your new boy/girlfriend?
If I had one? No I would not. I remember very clearly being 15 and I wasn't even one of the bad kids,but I was still a teenager. I would of got up to all sorts of things I should not of been doing if my parents left me alone for the weekend.
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Hell to the no lol.
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heartofgold34: Hell to the no lol.
this is an answer I can undersstandand it is not so much my kids but the rest of world that I don't trust
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Konigsberg: I hear you!
Have done it in a past. With no problems. Even didn't need to clean house and, a meal was made for us to have after our trip.
If children are brought up with a sense of responsibilities ... why not.
I do believe at age of 15 they are not a children anymore .... they are more like young adults and have to act accordingly by being responsible for their actions.
Not all 15 years old are party people, I have never been that(not now) either. I left my son for a couple of days alone about that age, my good friend lived nearby in case if something bad happened, but for a week is probably too long?Have done it in a past. With no problems. Even didn't need to clean house and, a meal was made for us to have after our trip.
If children are brought up with a sense of responsibilities ... why not.
I do believe at age of 15 they are not a children anymore .... they are more like young adults and have to act accordingly by being responsible for their actions.
I dont know though, my friend here moved from home and started to work when he was 15. By Swedish law is allowed for children to live alone when they are 16, if they study, their parents provide for food and rent but they can live entirely alone, I know 2 young adults who lived alone when they were 16 (plus the guy who lived alone when he was 15) All of them are save and feel good. Some adults who can take care of them if some problems occur should be available though.
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In response to: Would you leave your 15 year old daughter at home for a week by themselves to go on a trip with your new boy/girlfriend?
My daughter will be 15 in a couple of days, and I just got back from a trip. She stayed with her best friend's family for my two week trip.
My 21 year old (now 22 as of yesterday) son on the other hand.....stayed home and took care of the animals and caught my kitchen on fire
. It's mostly cosmetic damage so there was no need to call in the insurance company. But it's a heck of a lot of work ahead for me...if this headache ever goes away completely I will get started.And while I was gone, he sprain his foot on the trampoline, which no one is to use when I am gone! I am thinking I need to leave my daughter at home and him at her friend's family!!
Seriously I don't even leave her home for one day. 
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crazyblondeone: My daughter will be 15 in a couple of days, and I just got back from a trip. She stayed with her best friend's family for my two week trip.
My 21 year old (now 22 as of yesterday) son on the other hand.....stayed home and took care of the animals and caught my kitchen on fire . It's mostly cosmetic damage so there was no need to call in the insurance company. But it's a heck of a lot of work ahead for me...if this headache ever goes away completely I will get started.
And while I was gone, he sprain his foot on the trampoline, which no one is to use when I am gone! I am thinking I need to leave my daughter at home and him at her friend's family!! Seriously I don't even leave her home for one day.
I think when we treat them like small irresponsible children they will never grow up. My son lives alone since he was 19, he had some troubles sometimes and got help, but not often, he can take care of himself most part of the time. It is a big shame to live with parents when you are grown up in Sweden and most leave home before they are 20. I am Russian and left home when I was 21, I was still a child then, it felt like that, when I left home, but I had to grow up quickly. I moved very far from my parents, to a big city where I was totally alone, I had to grow up. I know many young people who still live with their parents in Southern Europe, they are still immature when they are 30My 21 year old (now 22 as of yesterday) son on the other hand.....stayed home and took care of the animals and caught my kitchen on fire . It's mostly cosmetic damage so there was no need to call in the insurance company. But it's a heck of a lot of work ahead for me...if this headache ever goes away completely I will get started.
And while I was gone, he sprain his foot on the trampoline, which no one is to use when I am gone! I am thinking I need to leave my daughter at home and him at her friend's family!! Seriously I don't even leave her home for one day.
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StillOfTheNight: I'm 30 something and its still not a good idea to leave me home alone
wouldn't want to
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nevica: I think when we treat them like small irresponsible children they will never grow up. My son lives alone since he was 19, he had some troubles sometimes and got help, but not often, he can take care of himself most part of the time. It is a big shame to live with parents when you are grown up in Sweden and most leave home before they are 20. I am Russian and left home when I was 21, I was still a child then, it felt like that, when I left home, but I had to grow up quickly. I moved very far from my parents, to a big city where I was totally alone, I had to grow up. I know many young people who still live with their parents in Southern Europe, they are still immature when they are 30 swedish young adults grow up quicker as a rule.
Sadly out of all my children this son has no direction, doesn't want to do anything. So I am signing him up for classes in Law Enforcement....it's either that or he can go live with his friends. I told him he doesn't have to be a policeman, as there is other things he can do in law enforcement, but he said he wanted too. So that surprised me. We will see.
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nevica: I think when we treat them like small irresponsible children they will never grow up. My son lives alone since he was 19, he had some troubles sometimes and got help, but not often, he can take care of himself most part of the time. It is a big shame to live with parents when you are grown up in Sweden and most leave home before they are 20. I am Russian and left home when I was 21, I was still a child then, it felt like that, when I left home, but I had to grow up quickly. I moved very far from my parents, to a big city where I was totally alone, I had to grow up. I know many young people who still live with their parents in Southern Europe, they are still immature when they are 30 swedish young adults grow up quicker as a rule.
this does sound logical. I have one son like yours who has been on his own and he is very mature & successful. I think his experiences & some of his struggles have made him a very kind & understanding man. he is now 28. His 24 y/o brother still lives with their father tho, and the reason is because is is a PhD candidate in Engineering. His school and work commitments also have made him very mature and his hard work has made him understanding and grown up even tho he still lives at home. so to some extent I think it depends on the circumstances - neither son was spoiled even tho one of them still is at home with his father & younger brother (who is still in high school). But I have seen the types you speak of who never grow up because mommy & daddy still pay for everything....
I am glad my sons have made these individual choices - they were allowed to make all of their own (age appropriate) choices from when they were quite small. this I think is a big factor in maturation. I know I have said that I made it on my own after my divorce with out any help (in another thread I said that) but honestly to think of it - I couldn't have done it without these 3 wonderful grown up young men
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crazyblondeone: Sadly out of all my children this son has no direction, doesn't want to do anything. So I am signing him up for classes in Law Enforcement....it's either that or he can go live with his friends. I told him he doesn't have to be a policeman, as there is other things he can do in law enforcement, but he said he wanted too. So that surprised me. We will see.
good for him! maybe that is just what he needs is some direction in a career that really interests him! good luck!
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Specially bcoz I'm a single parent, so It's just me.
I think a good "bf" would understand I can't jsut run away like that.