HARD WORK FOR A SINGLE PARENT. (66)
You deserve better and we are not all asses 
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Sparky3333: You deserve better and we are not all asses
thankyou, i believe there good men out there, just where.
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Kristia49: thankyou, i believe there good men out there, just where.
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ali110: a single good man ..
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Kristia49: I've been a single mum now for 8yrs, it is hard work as all other singles will know.
They say a stay at home, is a full time job, but as most know, there is alot more to it. There is your work, which you have to do, the house, cooking, running kids to places of sport etc. And then there's the yard, an acre to be maintained. I love to be in the garden but i don't get the time, I get so frustrated sometimes. My kids father isn't the normal father who has them for half the school holidays, loves to spend valuable time with them. Has never offered me a penny for their schooling or anything they may need. I have always been the provider, financially and emotionally. Sometimes i feel it is so unfair. They love their dad, but would never want to live with him. You may think i'm having a winge , but it is reality, and as a single and lonely parent i have the right. I seriously don't have any time for a man, but would love it. There are sacrifices you make having kids.
Ok, who needs to say how they really feel.
They say a stay at home, is a full time job, but as most know, there is alot more to it. There is your work, which you have to do, the house, cooking, running kids to places of sport etc. And then there's the yard, an acre to be maintained. I love to be in the garden but i don't get the time, I get so frustrated sometimes. My kids father isn't the normal father who has them for half the school holidays, loves to spend valuable time with them. Has never offered me a penny for their schooling or anything they may need. I have always been the provider, financially and emotionally. Sometimes i feel it is so unfair. They love their dad, but would never want to live with him. You may think i'm having a winge , but it is reality, and as a single and lonely parent i have the right. I seriously don't have any time for a man, but would love it. There are sacrifices you make having kids.
Ok, who needs to say how they really feel.
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I don't only one i can think of.
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There is only one, that i can think of.
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Kristia49: I've been a single mum now for 8yrs, it is hard work as all other singles will know.
They say a stay at home, is a full time job, but as most know, there is alot more to it. There is your work, which you have to do, the house, cooking, running kids to places of sport etc. And then there's the yard, an acre to be maintained. I love to be in the garden but i don't get the time, I get so frustrated sometimes. My kids father isn't the normal father who has them for half the school holidays, loves to spend valuable time with them. Has never offered me a penny for their schooling or anything they may need. I have always been the provider, financially and emotionally. Sometimes i feel it is so unfair. They love their dad, but would never want to live with him. You may think i'm having a winge , but it is reality, and as a single and lonely parent i have the right. I seriously don't have any time for a man, but would love it. There are sacrifices you make having kids.
Ok, who needs to say how they really feel.
They say a stay at home, is a full time job, but as most know, there is alot more to it. There is your work, which you have to do, the house, cooking, running kids to places of sport etc. And then there's the yard, an acre to be maintained. I love to be in the garden but i don't get the time, I get so frustrated sometimes. My kids father isn't the normal father who has them for half the school holidays, loves to spend valuable time with them. Has never offered me a penny for their schooling or anything they may need. I have always been the provider, financially and emotionally. Sometimes i feel it is so unfair. They love their dad, but would never want to live with him. You may think i'm having a winge , but it is reality, and as a single and lonely parent i have the right. I seriously don't have any time for a man, but would love it. There are sacrifices you make having kids.
Ok, who needs to say how they really feel.
Why not take it in turns with another mum to have the kids at the weekend. Say a couple of times a month you have your kids and hers or vice-versa. That way you both get a bit of "time off" which you can use for whatever you fancy. The other mum doesn´t have to be single. If they´re a couple I bet they could think of a thing or 2 to get on with while the kids aren´t around. No need to worry about expenses as it´s "an exhange". Same after school ... once or twice a week they have your kids or you have theirs for tea, homework, games etc...
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The trouble with our society is lack of "giving/receiving" between people who are in the same boat. Our pride prevents us from "asking" and our "overload" prevents us from "giving" ...
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EagleWoman: The trouble with our society is lack of "giving/receiving" between people who are in the same boat. Our pride prevents us from "asking" and our "overload" prevents us from "giving" ...
it is very hard
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Kristia49: I've been a single mum now for 8yrs, it is hard work as all other singles will know.
They say a stay at home, is a full time job, but as most know, there is alot more to it. There is your work, which you have to do, the house, cooking, running kids to places of sport etc. And then there's the yard, an acre to be maintained. I love to be in the garden but i don't get the time, I get so frustrated sometimes. My kids father isn't the normal father who has them for half the school holidays, loves to spend valuable time with them. Has never offered me a penny for their schooling or anything they may need. I have always been the provider, financially and emotionally. Sometimes i feel it is so unfair. They love their dad, but would never want to live with him. You may think i'm having a winge , but it is reality, and as a single and lonely parent i have the right. I seriously don't have any time for a man, but would love it. There are sacrifices you make having kids.
Ok, who needs to say how they really feel.
They say a stay at home, is a full time job, but as most know, there is alot more to it. There is your work, which you have to do, the house, cooking, running kids to places of sport etc. And then there's the yard, an acre to be maintained. I love to be in the garden but i don't get the time, I get so frustrated sometimes. My kids father isn't the normal father who has them for half the school holidays, loves to spend valuable time with them. Has never offered me a penny for their schooling or anything they may need. I have always been the provider, financially and emotionally. Sometimes i feel it is so unfair. They love their dad, but would never want to live with him. You may think i'm having a winge , but it is reality, and as a single and lonely parent i have the right. I seriously don't have any time for a man, but would love it. There are sacrifices you make having kids.
Ok, who needs to say how they really feel.
Sacrifices of having kids are woman's business and the father has only pleasures. Why should it be so?
It always puzzles me why the mother's role is so underrated? IMO it is the most important job on the world. 
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EagleWoman: The trouble with our society is lack of "giving/receiving" between people who are in the same boat. Our pride prevents us from "asking" and our "overload" prevents us from "giving" ...
Yes, i don't know why, i never ask for help. i have a free weekend every 2nd, but all i seem to do is either work in the yard or housework. sometimes it just feels like it is beating you, i will snap out of it.
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joyaepace: Sacrifices of having kids are woman's business and the father has only pleasures. Why should it be so? It always puzzles me why the mother's role is so underrated? IMO it is the most important job on the world.
yes, you are so right, i think thats what pisses me the most, He has no input in even helping out with their schooling, most parents would love to see their kids do good at school. or their sport. but the bottom line is, i think, the kids will always remember who was there for them at all times. That would be the best part. And i'm doing the best i can.
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cloud747: it is very hard
cloud are you a single parent, all i hear you doing is chasing women.
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Kristia49: yes, you are so right, i think thats what pisses me the most, He has no input in even helping out with their schooling, most parents would love to see their kids do good at school. or their sport. but the bottom line is, i think, the kids will always remember who was there for them at all times. That would be the best part. And i'm doing the best i can.
Best of luck to you, they will certainly remember that and appreciate what you have done for them.
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Kristia49: yes, you are so right, i think thats what pisses me the most, He has no input in even helping out with their schooling, most parents would love to see their kids do good at school. or their sport. but the bottom line is, i think, the kids will always remember who was there for them at all times. That would be the best part. And i'm doing the best i can.
Hi Kristia, I am in the same boat, been single for 2 years with 3 kids aged 3 5 and 6. Their dad has had them for a weekend twice in 2 years, and has visited them on their b-days for a couple of hours a time, and rings maybe once a month. Also no input, financial or emotional or even interested in schooling, ag day etc.
BUT!! our kids are beautiful (yours and mine I mean) they love us, we get to teach them all the good things we know and they will love us when they leave home and come back and mow our giant lawns.
You HAVE to look on the bright side, some people can't have kids/only have ugly kids/have to share them week on week off, and we are obviously strong people who can handle it.
I would love a male friend to talk to at night (no really!) when the kids are in bed but sometimes im just a tired granny and go to bed early. Even a man friend who wanted to chop up my firewood would be nice.....haha! hmmmmmmmm after he's finished his chores....
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Kristia49: Yes, i don't know why, i never ask for help. i have a free weekend every 2nd, but all i seem to do is either work in the yard or housework. sometimes it just feels like it is beating you, i will snap out of it.
Every now and then, you gotta say sod the housework and take a bit of time for yourself ... because as well as being a mum you are a human being AND a woman. 
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Hey Kristia 
Been there and done that and it's not an easy task. It can be very frustrating when your entire existence rotates around kids and making do with everyday challenges. There's no easy answer but some of the suggestions already given sounds good. In a few years, your kids will be responsible and old enough to stay home on their own and even help out with the chores. There is a light at the end of the tunnel.
Been there and done that and it's not an easy task. It can be very frustrating when your entire existence rotates around kids and making do with everyday challenges. There's no easy answer but some of the suggestions already given sounds good. In a few years, your kids will be responsible and old enough to stay home on their own and even help out with the chores. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. ------ This thread is Archived ------
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They say a stay at home, is a full time job, but as most know, there is alot more to it. There is your work, which you have to do, the house, cooking, running kids to places of sport etc. And then there's the yard, an acre to be maintained. I love to be in the garden but i don't get the time, I get so frustrated sometimes. My kids father isn't the normal father who has them for half the school holidays, loves to spend valuable time with them. Has never offered me a penny for their schooling or anything they may need. I have always been the provider, financially and emotionally. Sometimes i feel it is so unfair. They love their dad, but would never want to live with him. You may think i'm having a winge , but it is reality, and as a single and lonely parent i have the right. I seriously don't have any time for a man, but would love it. There are sacrifices you make having kids.
Ok, who needs to say how they really feel.