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When we take that step to go out (or stay in ) and meet someone in RL, there's a usually a number of those internal judgements going on about the other person, about ourselves and how 'we' would fit together as a couple and how much we might have to change our self.
The genesis of a relationship plays a big role in our choice to go ahead or move on to a next choice. Old habits and preconceived notions and internal dialog about 'matching' and changing tend to rule some people and I think for most they look for a sameness in compatibility rather than appreciating some opposition or difference that could lead to growth.
When you meet someone, how much do you focus on the seeming negative differences in your personalities, appearance etc.? Are you able to get past most of the superficial judgements and decisions to 'not change yourself', in favor of being love yourself?
Can and do you applaud differences in another or do they scare you away?