I guess we all know it is easier for a woman to express, sometimes even without words, when we feel sad. We are more expressive when it comes to feelings, happy, sad, angry any kind of feelings but, what about men?, what things make a man sad? In his everyday life, in a relationship, around his family and friends, around his work place.
I am curious to know that and what can a person around you do when you feel sad about anything.
almera03: Lots of things make me sad. I'm not so sure men and women find different things sad, we probably show it in different ways
This is true Almera, men are emotional beings too although most tend to keep their emotions trapped inside. Not sure if it's the "thick skinned" attitude, being brought up to believe it's not a manly thing to do, or something else altogether
2intrigued: This is true Almera, men are emotional beings too although most tend to keep their emotions trapped inside. Not sure if it's the "thick skinned" attitude, being brought up to believe it's not a manly thing to do, or something else altogether
I have no problem expressing emotion and for me its not based on a notion of being manly or not. The whole man macho, big ego crap isn't something I buy into. Maybe its just that we are better able to control certain emotions........
Despite what some think, men do think, they do feel and do get emotional
almera03: I have no problem expressing emotion and for me its not based on a notion of being manly or not. The whole man macho, big ego crap isn't something I buy into. Maybe its just that we are better able to control certain emotions........
Despite what some think, men do think, they do feel and do get emotional
JeeepersCowpet Bay, Saint Thomas Virgin Islands (USA)6,482 posts
When I think of people who are less fortunate than me I get sad. Poverty makes me sad. Sadness makes me sad. Sometimes I wish I could save the world from sadness, but I can't. This makes me sad. One day hopefully sadness will be a thing of the past. I don't like to be sad. I'll choose to be happy now. It's my choice right ?
JeanKimberley: a hug to make you feel better - your posts have certainly made me feel better....
I think you are right about men expressing their feelings different as to whether they feel the same kind of emotions.... ?
Sadness is one of those emotions that make us a humans feel so alone in the feeling - almost trapped alone in it.
good question LonelyMontse08
Sadness is an emotion in some men that can cause them to react in odd ways. Men I believe do carry their emotions inside for too long, which is unhealthy. I wonder how many fights down the pub at the weekend is due not just to the alcholol consumption, but to a release of pent up emotion.
almera03: I have no problem expressing emotion and for me its not based on a notion of being manly or not. The whole man macho, big ego crap isn't something I buy into. Maybe its just that we are better able to control certain emotions........
Despite what some think, men do think, they do feel and do get emotional
Jeeepers: When I think of people who are less fortunate than me I get sad. Poverty makes me sad. Sadness makes me sad. Sometimes I wish I could save the world from sadness, but I can't. This makes me sad. One day hopefully sadness will be a thing of the past. I don't like to be sad. I'll choose to be happy now. It's my choice right ?
almera03: Lots of things make me sad. I'm not so sure men and women find different things sad, we probably show it in different ways
Thank you Almera for your post, I always enjoy them because they are very good, I agree with you most of the things that make me sad can make a man sad but as you wrote some men (not all) show their emotions in a very different way or not at all and thats the moment we women sometimes get confused, for example if I have a friend, great friend, that I feel or sense is sad and I try to help or at least get near to talk he simply shuts down .... I wrote this question because it is happening with a friend of mine, and I want to help but he is being unkind to me so im just letting it pass cause i dont how to help him or if he even wants help, maybe he does but he dont want to show that he does i dont know
Jeeepers: When I think of people who are less fortunate than me I get sad. Poverty makes me sad. Sadness makes me sad. Sometimes I wish I could save the world from sadness, but I can't. This makes me sad. One day hopefully sadness will be a thing of the past. I don't like to be sad. I'll choose to be happy now. It's my choice right ?
LonelyMontse08: Thank you Almera for your post, I always enjoy them because they are very good, I agree with you most of the things that make me sad can make a man sad but as you wrote some men (not all) show their emotions in a very different way or not at all and thats the moment we women sometimes get confused, for example if I have a friend, great friend, that I feel or sense is sad and I try to help or at least get near to talk he simply shuts down .... I wrote this question because it is happening with a friend of mine, and I want to help but he is being unkind to me so im just letting it pass cause i dont how to help him or if he even wants help, maybe he does but he dont want to show that he does i dont know
Some of that relects what I'm like. When I get to a stage of total sadness, no one can really get in and help me. I have to solve the problem in my head or solve it by an action.
One thing that can bring me out is seeing the sadness, my sadness is causing a loved one...........her happiness of course, needs to be put first.
almera03: Sadness is an emotion in some men that can cause them to react in odd ways. Men I believe do carry their emotions inside for too long, which is unhealthy.
yes! and sometimes those odd ways hurt other people, that is why I asked what can one do around a sad man to make him feel better, I really dont know if I should keep trying to talk to him or simply give him some space but seems second option is best. I care for this person a lot that is why I am worried.
trueheart1941brentwood essex, Essex, England UK8,005 posts
on a more serioue note.....men hate to beseen as sad....in a odd way..we belive that woman look upon us being the stronger..gender.and to make them feel secure...yes we do feel sadness....but most of us hide it within our selves...does it hurt......depending on what it is.....very much so.
LonelyMontse08: yes! and sometimes those odd ways hurt other people, that is why I asked what can one do around a sad man to make him feel better, I really dont know if I should keep trying to talk to him or simply give him some space but seems second option is best. I care for this person a lot that is why I am worried.
You could be very honest about how you feel, how his actions are hurting you..........
Tough love is sometimes needed though. You may need to walk away for your own sake.
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I am curious to know that and what can a person around you do when you
feel sad about anything.
Thank you