Is it around the corner (58)

Jun 12, 2012 12:27 AM CST Is it around the corner
Nature123
Nature123Nature123Australia, Queensland Australia68 Threads 2 Polls 739 Posts
Why do some people but a distance on when they are searching for a partner.

I know some people don't want long distance relationships,
But does it really matter how far they are away.



I have Looked at some profiles and when you go to contact them they have restrictions on. I had one in particular that I wanted to try and get to know but he has restrictions on.

No way over that hurdle.
Jun 12, 2012 12:44 AM CST Is it around the corner
Singleagain50
Singleagain50Singleagain50Whyalla, South Australia Australia1 Threads 33 Posts
Hi how do you check and change your restrictions,In away it saves reading all mail and mail from scammers,
Jun 12, 2012 2:00 AM CST Is it around the corner
Nature123
Nature123Nature123Australia, Queensland Australia68 Threads 2 Polls 739 Posts
Singleagain50: Hi how do you check and change your restrictions,In away it saves reading all mail and mail from scammers,


I think you go into my profile,then into blocked settings.
If I am wrong I am sure some one will let you know how to do it.
Jun 12, 2012 2:26 AM CST Is it around the corner
dragondog4
dragondog4dragondog4Perth, Western Australia Australia55 Threads 3,912 Posts
That sounds correct in altering your restrictions.

And distance is a result of how comfortable one is with travelling. It may even be in consideration of what transport they have available to them. And one last possibility is there personal ability at moving around (Disability).

I'm sure they realise they have restricted there chances by restricting there search area.

Until we know the truth. We have to keep an open mind and not judge.
Jun 12, 2012 2:47 AM CST Is it around the corner
Nature123
Nature123Nature123Australia, Queensland Australia68 Threads 2 Polls 739 Posts
dragondog4: That sounds correct in altering your restrictions.

And distance is a result of how comfortable one is with travelling. It may even be in consideration of what transport they have available to them. And one last possibility is there personal ability at moving around (Disability).

I'm sure they realise they have restricted there chances by restricting there search area.

Until we know the truth. We have to keep an open mind and not judge.


I wasn't passing judgement,just interested in why people do it.
Jun 12, 2012 3:11 AM CST Is it around the corner
you could try sending a friend request, few scammers did that to me, but if your love struck head over heals or just want to get noticed you could try that
Jun 12, 2012 5:19 AM CST Is it around the corner
Nature123
Nature123Nature123Australia, Queensland Australia68 Threads 2 Polls 739 Posts
robplum: you could try sending a friend request, few scammers did that to me, but if your love struck head over heals or just want to get noticed you could try that


Hi Rob, tar,
Does the friends request go through even if they have restrictions on.
No not love struck,not head over heels,just seems like an interesting man that I would like to get to know better.he is more than likely not interested any way,he viewed me but left no message.
Jun 12, 2012 5:25 AM CST Is it around the corner
yes i think friends request get there even if they have area block
Jun 12, 2012 5:45 AM CST Is it around the corner
wash2u
wash2uwash2uMelbourne, Victoria Australia79 Threads 1 Polls 3,768 Posts
Nature123: Hi Rob, tar,
Does the friends request go through even if they have restrictions on.
No not love struck,not head over heels,just seems like an interesting man that I would like to get to know better.he is more than likely not interested any way,he viewed me but left no message.


Friendships over the net are limited by how far the keyboard is away. I have a few people that I chat with every now and then. About 12-14 years ago, a mate introduced me to a similar site to this. At first, I would only go on whenever I was at his place and got to be friendly with a few people overseas, and joined up myself. Lost the links when I got married, didn't seem right to be chatting with those women.

And you can only try by sending them a message, up to them to answer.
Jun 12, 2012 6:02 AM CST Is it around the corner
Nature123
Nature123Nature123Australia, Queensland Australia68 Threads 2 Polls 739 Posts
wash2u: Friendships over the net are limited by how far the keyboard is away. I have a few people that I chat with every now and then. About 12-14 years ago, a mate introduced me to a similar site to this. At first, I would only go on whenever I was at his place and got to be friendly with a few people overseas, and joined up myself. Lost the links when I got married, didn't seem right to be chatting with those women.

And you can only try by sending them a message, up to them to answer.


Ok thanks Wash,I will sent a friends request and see what happens,
Jun 12, 2012 7:30 AM CST Is it around the corner
wash2u
wash2uwash2uMelbourne, Victoria Australia79 Threads 1 Polls 3,768 Posts
Nature123: Ok thanks Wash,I will sent a friends request and see what happens,


Always worth a try. Too many of us are fearful of rejection and will not go the first step.frustrated
Jun 12, 2012 7:47 AM CST Is it around the corner
Larf75
Larf75Larf75Bacchus Marsh, Victoria Australia16 Threads 1 Polls 1,990 Posts
It may also be due to time limitations and being fair if they don't have the time to invest in getting to know someone who lives a distance away. eg: work, family commitments, commitments of the person they want to get to know.
Jun 12, 2012 8:50 AM CST Is it around the corner
Martia
MartiaMartiabenalla, Victoria Australia141 Threads 1 Polls 2,888 Posts
wash2u: Always worth a try. Too many of us are fearful of rejection and will not go the first step.



Ah Wash therefore lies the problem with so many sighjust think if everyone felt like that dating sites would not exist. scold
When I first ventured into the world of internet dating I was like that'and waited for them to contact me and some did which boosted my confidence,so after a while I got my courage up and contacted a few myself.

What was surprising is that some thought I was very attractive and and got back to me..but an equal number rejected me outright as not attractive to them at all ,but it did not worry me as I realised that beauty is in the eye of the eye of the beholder.

When you contact a lady they can only say yes or no its not like its in person,you come over as a really great guy but you have put restrictions on yourself like saying my family always comes first'
It sounds like well...I will never care for you as much as my own flesh and blood and they come first so dont bother' so of course they wont' those that are genuine are Ladies that are looking for someone to love them with all their heart as they would you and would want to be at least equally important in your life.

My dear if you found that special lady she would grow to love your family too as that is part of what makes her special dont you see.
Also there is a good chance that anyone you meet will also have family that they love as well.


Let your guard down dont close the door before its even open.
We are on this world but once and most of us need that special one in our life to make us complete that is how we are made
hug wave
Jun 12, 2012 9:01 AM CST Is it around the corner
tonyxf
tonyxftonyxfwerribee, Victoria Australia2 Threads 4,525 Posts
Larf75: It may also be due to time limitations and being fair if they don't have the time to invest in getting to know someone who lives a distance away. eg: work, family commitments, commitments of the person they want to get to know.
Yes and if it becomes serious it can be a life changing decision having to relocate and move away from family.
Jun 12, 2012 9:14 PM CST Is it around the corner
Nature123
Nature123Nature123Australia, Queensland Australia68 Threads 2 Polls 739 Posts
We get rejected in a lot of things we do not just searching for some one special,it is part of life.
When you have children and meet some one I always say my family comes first,and they do if they need me I am there,as many others on here are the same.my kids just want me to be happy with some one nice. It's not a matter of your partner loving his family more than you,the love of a partner is different to the love of your family,you have to make time for both family and partner and in time it all becomes one big happy extended family.that's how I see it any way.
Jun 12, 2012 9:42 PM CST Is it around the corner
Martia
MartiaMartiabenalla, Victoria Australia141 Threads 1 Polls 2,888 Posts
When I met my guy he traveled from Canberra and back every weekend and School holidays, 11 hrs on the road there and back to see me for 6 months before he relocated, in that time we realised that we loved each other enough to live together.

He was a high School maths teacher in Canberra but now he is working in a private School here teaching children with attention deficit disorders and various offshoots of that condition.

It was like fate really as when we first made contact he was living by himself drinking at night and working too hard by day.
When he moved in with me he took extended leave just in case it did not work out for us.

In the second week of moving in this teaching job was advertised in Benalla and he got it.
He really loves this work and it is only 3 min from home.
He does not drink at all now doesn't need it.

I am so lucky to have met him' for once it seems that fate was on my side as to me he is everything I have wanted in a man,we are working towards buying a home together and we will go in half each to purchase a property somewhere on the mid north coast of NSW.

The farm was so run down but we are bringing up to scratch so with luck when it goes back on the market it wont be so hard to sell.

When I was looking for a partner I would have been quite willing to drop everything and go anywhere as was my guy, it was just lucky that we were looking for the same thing.

It took me two long years to find him but the experiences in between were invaluable as I found out what I was really looking for and I would never make do I couldent' as this is the rest of my life I am looking at.


dunno
Jun 12, 2012 10:21 PM CST Is it around the corner
Nature123
Nature123Nature123Australia, Queensland Australia68 Threads 2 Polls 739 Posts
Hi martia,

I would just like to find some one who is honest and enjoys the same things I do,
And then take it from there,don't want any dramas just to live a happy life with some one I can love and who will love me back. A simple life.
Jun 13, 2012 2:09 AM CST Is it around the corner
venere08
venere08venere08Puglia and Autumn, South Australia Australia121 Threads 2 Polls 9,996 Posts
wash2u: Always worth a try. Too many of us are fearful of rejection and will not go the first step.


What's the worst that can happen??confused

No deaths or grievous bodily injury yet to be reported from words on a screen.laugh

I think Aussies must be about the worst of all CS'rs in terms of making contact(apart from scammer land!!!!!)JMO
Jun 13, 2012 3:24 AM CST Is it around the corner
TWINbro
TWINbroTWINbrobadgerck mt toolebewong, Victoria Australia10 Threads 137 Posts
Nature123: Why do some people but a distance on when they are searching for a partner.

I know some people don't want long distance relationships,
But does it really matter how far they are away.
I have Looked at some profiles and when you go to contact them they have restrictions on. I had one in particular that I wanted to try and get to know but he has restrictions on.

No way over that hurdle.
if youre prepared to travel, i suppose it doesnt matter,jmo though,you cant do the little things that count,like give a helping hand pushing the car when your girl has a flat battery or lifting the furniture into the shed,or cutting up a tree ,or then again just droppin in for a quick cuppa after work.Alll those little things make a relationship stick,theres nothin worse than some other fella choping your girls wood ,orpainting her house.sooner or later hell put the hard word on her,and bingo,no girl .
Jun 13, 2012 3:48 AM CST Is it around the corner
Nature123
Nature123Nature123Australia, Queensland Australia68 Threads 2 Polls 739 Posts
TWINbro: if youre prepared to travel, i suppose it doesnt matter,jmo though,you cant do the little things that count,like give a helping hand pushing the car when your girl has a flat battery or lifting the furniture into the shed,or cutting up a tree ,or then again just droppin in for a quick cuppa after work.Alll those little things make a relationship stick,theres nothin worse than some other fella choping your girls wood ,orpainting her house.sooner or later hell put the hard word on her,and bingo,no girl .


All you said is true to a degree, depends on the female,male,and if they are that easily led then you wouldn't want them in the first place.
If you are committed to some one then you have given yourself to them and reguardless of the distance you don't stray.well that's what I think anyway.
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