almera03: Many people here spend a lot of time wording their profiles correctly to give the reader a snap shot of who they are.
Take a look at this fools profile where it mentions what he's looking for:
I’m looking for:
You decide, is it answer:
A) a toilet
B) a bus
C) a womanNow is any one seriously going to mail him!!!!
Does it matter that much what people write in their profile, do you beleive all they say?
I don't think it matters what you write in a profile. Personally, I think you should keep your profile truthful without giving out too much information about yourself that could comprise you later on.
My firm belief is......It's not what you say, it's what you do. ...in any situation.
montemonte: I don't think it matters what you write in a profile. Personally, I think you should keep your profile truthful without giving out too much information about yourself that could comprise you later on.
My firm belief is......It's not what you say, it's what you do. ...in any situation.
As there is no way in knowing straight away, what they write is true, is there any point in saying anything?
almera03: As there is no way in knowing straight away, what they write is true, is there any point in saying anything?
I agree that profiles are just something to read. They don't convey who the person really is. You could know a person for years and not know who they really are. The only purpose of a profile is to see if you and the other person have things in common and even then, it could be just a lot of
montemonte: I agree that profiles are just something to read. They don't convey who the person really is. You could know a person for years and not know who they really are. The only purpose of a profile is to see if you and the other person have things in common and even then, it could be just a lot of
Exactly, so are we really first only going by physical attraction, from how they look in their photo/s
almera03: Exactly, so are we really first only going by physical attraction, from how they look in their photo/s
I think you hit the nail on the head. It's normal to be interested in a person first by how they look. You see a person on the street that is attractive and your mind wanders. Same thing with a profile pic. And there's another problem that not all profile pics are honest.
So the question is....what purpose does CS provide if you are looking for love. I know that some have met and married but it's rare. I think the Meets that people go to are a good way to meet the people you are in touch with in the forums. Personally, I pay attention to how someone acts in the forums, how they treat others.
montemonte: I think you hit the nail on the head. It's normal to be interested in a person first by how they look. You see a person on the street that is attractive and your mind wanders. Same thing with a profile pic. And there's another problem that not all profile pics are honest.
So the question is....what purpose does CS provide if you are looking for love. I know that some have met and married but it's rare. I think the Meets that people go to are a good way to meet the people you are in touch with in the forums. Personally, I pay attention to how someone acts in the forums, how they treat others.
Can we really make a decision about someone by how they "act" in the forums..........take me for example.......what would you say about me, based on what I post and how I act in the forums.........
almera03: Can we really make a decision about someone by how they "act" in the forums..........take me for example.......what would you say about me, based on what I post and how I act in the forums.........
You can be honest
That's not fair but I will respond.
First, I find no fault with how you post.
In the past years I saw you as someone who stayed in the background and posted in the threads that interested you, but you stepped in when things got rough in the threads. :thumbs up:
Now, since I've been back to CS, I see you as a take charge person who is more opinionated then you ever were and is there faster to protect people when they are trampled on. Almost as the House Master.
To tell you the truth, I don't have a problem with that because I think the forums needs men and women who have backbone to help those who are being pack attacked.
I see you as a forgiving person. The other day I but heads with you and I was wrong. I got the impression that you forgave me. That goes a long way with me because everybody makes a mistake.
So Al, as far as I'm concerned, you would be a good guy for the right lady....
UsernamesnottakeWeston, Somerset, England UK47 posts
almera03: So for you, what is written in the profile is important, you are seduced by the words he chooses to use about himself. Don't many of us see ourselves differently to how others see us.............shouldn't we get someone else to write the profile for us?
I wouldn't go as far to say a profile was important, considering mine is a work in progress. But, if a profile has been thought over, then it shows that (at some time) there was some thought that went into writing it.
If someone only goes on (and on) about how great and fantastic they are, then it's not a profile I'd bother with. They'd be too in love with themselves, to have any spare! If the was to mention things they love to do, and would be looking to share doing them with a partner, then that's someone that actually has thought about it. They are playing the (use this loosely, before all the game-player posts are made) long term game, and not just thinking about themselves.
In the past years I saw you as someone who stayed in the background and posted in the threads that interested you, but you stepped in when things got rough in the threads. :thumbs up:
Now, since I've been back to CS, I see you as a take charge person who is more opinionated then you ever were and is there faster to protect people when they are trampled on. Almost as the House Master.
To tell you the truth, I don't have a problem with that because I think the forums needs men and women who have backbone to help those who are being pack attacked.
I see you as a forgiving person. The other day I but heads with you and I was wrong. I got the impression that you forgave me. That goes a long way with me because everybody makes a mistake.
So Al, as far as I'm concerned, you would be a good guy for the right lady....
Thanks Monte, I'm sure viewing my profile you wouldn't have got any of that information.......
It would be interesting to see how others viewed me, based on how I act on the forums, remembering, it could all be an "act"
Usernamesnottake: I wouldn't go as far to say a profile was important, considering mine is a work in progress. But, if a profile has been thought over, then it shows that (at some time) there was some thought that went into writing it.
If someone only goes on (and on) about how great and fantastic they are, then it's not a profile I'd bother with. They'd be too in love with themselves, to have any spare! If the was to mention things they love to do, and would be looking to share doing them with a partner, then that's someone that actually has thought about it. They are playing the (use this loosely, before all the game-player posts are made) long term game, and not just thinking about themselves.
Could all those edits over a time just be someone trying a different angle, found by reading other peoples profiles. Looking for a way to get noticed. Isn't that what most do?
almera03: Thanks Monte, I'm sure viewing my profile you wouldn't have got any of that information.......
It would be interesting to see how others viewed me, based on how I act on the forums, remembering, it could all be an "act"
That's right, I never viewed your profile. My opinion is based on how I perceive you in the forums.
You're right, it could be an act. But I think people are dishonest when they think they have something to gain. What are you going to gain by being a good guy. Maybe a new hat
UsernamesnottakeWeston, Somerset, England UK47 posts
almera03: Could all those edits over a time just be someone trying a different angle, found by reading other peoples profiles. Looking for a way to get noticed. Isn't that what most do?
Not usually. I have a profile on another site, and it's an epic read! It was done over a course of edits, and was something I added to when the mood took me, or I thought of something random.
To get noticed, a photo that has to stand out, is a priority. If the photo catches their eye, then people will stop to have a better look at it.
montemonte: That's right, I never viewed your profile. My opinion is based on how I perceive you in the forums.
You're right, it could be an act. But I think people are dishonest when they think they have something to gain. What are you going to gain by being a good guy. Maybe a new hat
That's a good choice of word, because I tend to wear several different hats while I'm in the forums, each one gives a chance to see a different part of my character, one or two are soley used to have fun, to entertain myself...
So how can you be sure you chose the right hat to see when you gave that wonderful description of me
Usernamesnottake: Not usually. I have a profile on another site, and it's an epic read! It was done over a course of edits, and was something I added to when the mood took me, or I thought of something random.
To get noticed, a photo that has to stand out, is a priority. If the photo catches their eye, then people will stop to have a better look at it.
Had to read that several times, you did say a "photo", seems odd you would say that!!!
almera03: That's a good choice of word, because I tend to wear several different hats while I'm in the forums, each one gives a chance to see a different part of my character, one or two are soley used to have fun, to entertain myself...
So how can you be sure you chose the right hat to see when you gave that wonderful description of me
I choose the hat depending on the thread you are in. You and another guy in the forums are very much the same when it comes to responses in the threads. Both of you have hats for humor, sincerity, sadness and believe it or not, you guys can be dorky at times. I've never seen either one of you nasty, rude or condescending.
Okay Al, I'm done with the fluff. Do you REALLY want to know what I think......Here it is..
UsernamesnottakeWeston, Somerset, England UK47 posts
almera03: Had to read that several times, you did say a "photo", seems odd you would say that!!!
So the photo is the bait on the hook?
It goes without saying, that the photo is the bait.
Look at the top of the screen when you're looking at a profile, and how many people do you see without a picture? Usually, none!
A photo that stands out, will catch the persons eye. You could write teh cure for cancer, or the meaning of life underneath it, but it's not often people bother to read them.
I have several mails in my mailbox mentioning what a lovely profile I have!?!?!? Oh, and my picture is perfect!
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Take a look at this fools profile where it mentions what he's looking for:
I’m looking for:
You decide, is it answer:
A) a toilet
B) a bus
C) a woman
Now is any one seriously going to mail him!!!!
Does it matter that much what people write in their profile, do you beleive all they say?