Do The Talk, But Not The Walk (36)
CrabbyMonkeyWicklow, Ireland4 Threads 31 PostsWhy do...Men & Women....practise the charade of exchange mail, the phone calls,...but as soon as you suggest a "Meet up", you get "recorded message/unavailable" or ignored texts/pm's...playground antics on a dating site...seriously???
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because the world is full of indecisive men and women who can easily write messages to others in cyberspace but when it comes to actually talking on the phone or skype or whatever they run away like scared children from monsters . well thats what i think for what its worth
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jimboace1: because the world is full of indecisive men and women who can easily write messages to others in cyberspace but when it comes to actually talking on the phone or skype or whatever they run away like scared children from monsters . well thats what i think for what its worth
What you said
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jimboace1: because the world is full of indecisive men and women who can easily write messages to others in cyberspace but when it comes to actually talking on the phone or skype or whatever they run away like scared children from monsters . well thats what i think for what its worth
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Very true....virtual is a safety veil to hide behind, where as reality ignites expectatations.
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jimboace1: because the world is full of indecisive men and women who can easily write messages to others in cyberspace but when it comes to actually talking on the phone or skype or whatever they run away like scared children from monsters . well thats what i think for what its worth
I agree with the above but I think it might be not the whole reason. I think there might be other reasons too. (1)Shyness or insecurity - Mailing especially is easier for a shy person but when it comes to meeting up it all becomes too real for a person who is shy or may be insecure about the impression they will make or fear rejection (2) Emotional scarring, some people who think they are ready to return to dating scene realise at last moment they are not (3) Is this a dating site or a social site or both? - Some folks are only here for friendship and the forums - All of a sudden people start talking about dates frightens them off keeping contact.
In all of the above situations, 100% honesty is required, tell the other person why you are making this decision. By being honest the whole way through, nobody gets hurt in the way that indecisiveness and play acting can wound. People will recover easier from a failed attraction/crush as opposed to the doubts that creep in after a person shies away from meeting. We are all human - Is it me will definitely start in your subconcious psyche and in the cases I mentioned that is not the intention of the refusal to meet.
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jimboace1: because the world is full of indecisive men and women who can easily write messages to others in cyberspace but when it comes to actually talking on the phone or skype or whatever they run away like scared children from monsters . well thats what i think for what its worth
I agree with the above but I think it might be not the whole reason. I think there might be other reasons too. (1)Shyness or insecurity - Mailing especially is easier for a shy person but when it comes to meeting up it all becomes too real for a person who is shy or may be insecure about the impression they will make or fear rejection (2) Emotional scarring, some people who think they are ready to return to dating scene realise at last moment they are not (3) Is this a dating site or a social site or both? - Some folks are only here for friendship and the forums - All of a sudden people start talking about dates frightens them off keeping contact.
In all of the above situations, 100% honesty is required, tell the other person why you are making this decision. By being honest the whole way through, nobody gets hurt in the way that indecisiveness and play acting can wound. People will recover easier from a failed attraction/crush as opposed to the doubts that creep in after a person shies away from meeting. We are all human - Is it me will definitely start in your subconcious psyche and in the cases I mentioned that is not the intention of the refusal to meet.
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DaveD20: I agree with the above but I think it might be not the whole reason. I think there might be other reasons too.
(1)Shyness or insecurity - Mailing especially is easier for a shy person but when it comes to meeting up it all becomes too real for a person who is shy or may be insecure about the impression they will make or fear rejection (2) Emotional scarring, some people who think they are ready to return to dating scene realise at last moment they are not (3) Is this a dating site or a social site or both? - Some folks are only here for friendship and the forums - All of a sudden people start talking about dates frightens them off keeping contact.
In all of the above situations, 100% honesty is required, tell the other person why you are making this decision. By being honest the whole way through, nobody gets hurt in the way that indecisiveness and play acting can wound. People will recover easier from a failed attraction/crush as opposed to the doubts that creep in after a person shies away from meeting. We are all human - Is it me will definitely start in your subconcious psyche and in the cases I mentioned that is not the intention of the refusal to meet.
(1)Shyness or insecurity - Mailing especially is easier for a shy person but when it comes to meeting up it all becomes too real for a person who is shy or may be insecure about the impression they will make or fear rejection (2) Emotional scarring, some people who think they are ready to return to dating scene realise at last moment they are not (3) Is this a dating site or a social site or both? - Some folks are only here for friendship and the forums - All of a sudden people start talking about dates frightens them off keeping contact.
In all of the above situations, 100% honesty is required, tell the other person why you are making this decision. By being honest the whole way through, nobody gets hurt in the way that indecisiveness and play acting can wound. People will recover easier from a failed attraction/crush as opposed to the doubts that creep in after a person shies away from meeting. We are all human - Is it me will definitely start in your subconcious psyche and in the cases I mentioned that is not the intention of the refusal to meet.
Good post
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DaveD20: I agree with the above but I think it might be not the whole reason. I think there might be other reasons too.
(1)Shyness or insecurity - Mailing especially is easier for a shy person but when it comes to meeting up it all becomes too real for a person who is shy or may be insecure about the impression they will make or fear rejection (2) Emotional scarring, some people who think they are ready to return to dating scene realise at last moment they are not (3) Is this a dating site or a social site or both? - Some folks are only here for friendship and the forums - All of a sudden people start talking about dates frightens them off keeping contact.
In all of the above situations, 100% honesty is required, tell the other person why you are making this decision. By being honest the whole way through, nobody gets hurt in the way that indecisiveness and play acting can wound. People will recover easier from a failed attraction/crush as opposed to the doubts that creep in after a person shies away from meeting. We are all human - Is it me will definitely start in your subconcious psyche and in the cases I mentioned that is not the intention of the refusal to meet.
...Shyness can truly imprison a person, from exploring a potential date, and yes, the social connection via mail and forums can create friendship bonds.(1)Shyness or insecurity - Mailing especially is easier for a shy person but when it comes to meeting up it all becomes too real for a person who is shy or may be insecure about the impression they will make or fear rejection (2) Emotional scarring, some people who think they are ready to return to dating scene realise at last moment they are not (3) Is this a dating site or a social site or both? - Some folks are only here for friendship and the forums - All of a sudden people start talking about dates frightens them off keeping contact.
In all of the above situations, 100% honesty is required, tell the other person why you are making this decision. By being honest the whole way through, nobody gets hurt in the way that indecisiveness and play acting can wound. People will recover easier from a failed attraction/crush as opposed to the doubts that creep in after a person shies away from meeting. We are all human - Is it me will definitely start in your subconcious psyche and in the cases I mentioned that is not the intention of the refusal to meet.
Thanks to all who replied, and their imput, very much appreciated.
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I don't play games,anybody wants to talk,my 2 phones.land and cell one's are real.
CrabbyMonkey: Why do...Men & Women....practise the charade of exchange mail, the phone calls,...but as soon as you suggest a "Meet up", you get "recorded message/unavailable" or ignored texts/pm's...playground antics on a dating site...seriously???
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chris27292729: I don't play games,anybody wants to talk,my 2 phones.land and cell one's are real.
.....I Guess there are both men/women who play games, it is trying to sift through who are and who aren't genuine, which is daunting, and a sheild forms around a person not to express too much too soon, which is a good way to be, yet wondering when to trust, relax is cofusing at times.------ This thread is Archived ------
CrabbyMonkey: Why do...Men & Women....practise the charade of exchange mail, the phone calls,...but as soon as you suggest a "Meet up", you get "recorded message/unavailable" or ignored texts/pm's...playground antics on a dating site...seriously???
I don't know why this is, either. Often I'll answer an e-mail that someone I've never had contact with before has sent, and he or she never responds. I don't get it.------ This thread is Archived ------
CrabbyMonkey: Why do...Men & Women....practise the charade of exchange mail, the phone calls,...but as soon as you suggest a "Meet up", you get "recorded message/unavailable" or ignored texts/pm's...playground antics on a dating site...seriously???
Never been on a Date wth any Cs Member ,made some Lovely friends since a Lon time ,we are available to each other anytime and we talk almost everyday 
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CrabbyMonkey: Why do...Men & Women....practise the charade of exchange mail, the phone calls,...but as soon as you suggest a "Meet up", you get "recorded message/unavailable" or ignored texts/pm's...playground antics on a dating site...seriously???
All I can think of with what you wrote is he isnt real or serious at all, so probably he is a scammer 
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You have blocked contacting you, the over aged???? Even for a friendly mail???? 
CrabbyMonkey: .....I Guess there are both men/women who play games, it is trying to sift through who are and who aren't genuine, which is daunting, and a sheild forms around a person not to express too much too soon, which is a good way to be, yet wondering when to trust, relax is cofusing at times.
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rohaan: I don't know why this is, either. Often I'll answer an e-mail that someone I've never had contact with before has sent, and he or she never responds. I don't get it.
I can be exceedingly bad at continuing correspondance with people with whom I´m corresponding with on CS... Usually the corresponding has NOT been started by me but even so it´s no excuse...
I was trying to work out why I do that ... Sometimes, I get busy in real life, and by the time I get on line their message is burried under loads of others, sometimes I don´t feel like writing and just wanna chill on the forums, sometimes I lose interest and forget the messages I read have not been answered
I am not looking right now (and it says so in my profile), so I don´t see my correspondance as something building towards a relationship
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EagleWoman: I can be exceedingly bad at continuing correspondance with people with whom I´m corresponding with on CS... Usually the corresponding has NOT been started by me but even so it´s no excuse...
I was trying to work out why I do that ... Sometimes, I get busy in real life, and by the time I get on line their message is burried under loads of others, sometimes I don´t feel like writing and just wanna chill on the forums, sometimes I lose interest and forget the messages I read have not been answered
Very true Eaglewoman, the confusion I find is when the correspondence has moved onto phonecalls and texting, for quite some time...antisipation of meeting on both sides...then BLANK!!!...no reason, no warning, just gone....
I am not looking right now (and it says so in my profile), so I don´t see my correspondance as something building towards a relationship
I was trying to work out why I do that ... Sometimes, I get busy in real life, and by the time I get on line their message is burried under loads of others, sometimes I don´t feel like writing and just wanna chill on the forums, sometimes I lose interest and forget the messages I read have not been answered
Very true Eaglewoman, the confusion I find is when the correspondence has moved onto phonecalls and texting, for quite some time...antisipation of meeting on both sides...then BLANK!!!...no reason, no warning, just gone....
I am not looking right now (and it says so in my profile), so I don´t see my correspondance as something building towards a relationship
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furthermore i think some men and women on here only want to play games with those they mail why is anybodies business. i had a message today from a 28 year old women in the usa, her picture well she had been well moulded by the divine potter if you know what i mean anyway i sent her the $10,000 she needed lol
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