Is it only me that this happens to??? ( Archived) (40)

Yes, I have noticed that.........the same thing always happens to me

Ummm...yes, a lot of times the attention is unwanted and is certainly unsolicited. In fact, I'd prefer the vast majority of men who did contact me didn't, considering what most of them have to say.

You're one of the lucky ones.

I get turned down in the red light districts

True enough. Been there, done that and lost the t-shirt

Lucky? Depends on your perspective, I guess. Getting a lot of attention doesn't mean it's the attention you want or need to get.

Absolutely correct.. It's amazing the different perspectives one hears on this site. Thanks

According to my girlfriends I got hit on a lot when I was with them. Unfortunately, being an Aspie, I'm not able to sense that communication directly. So I may be getting the same attention when I'm not with a girlfriend and I'm just not aware of it because no one is there to point it out to me.

I'm very bad at picking up on signals from strangers. Ironically though, once I actually get to know someone I'm very good at non-verbal communication and sensing what they want and need. My girlfriends were always asking me, "How did you know that's what I was thinking?" So it's funny how it works. I'm like totally cut off from strangers but highly tuned-in to close friends.

While that may be good when I'm in a relationship, it's not good for trying to start one from scratch. I'm terrible at getting a relationship started, but once it's going I'm really great at that part of it. Unfortunately, if they don't get started there's nothing to keep going!

Curiosity got the best of me again and I had to google aspie:

"If you are told to show up for a meeting in appropriate attire and you show up wearing a 6-year old sweatshirt turned inside-out and well-washed overalls and sandals, and you didn't remember to wash your hair or put on deodorant because you were up late reading about Egyptian hieroglyphics and you barely had time to get to the meeting....you might be an Aspie"

"If it takes you 5 minutes to explain where the mayonnaise is in the refrigerator.....you might be an Aspie"

"If you would rather eat broken glass than go to a sorority party....you might be an Aspie"

Also:

Asperger's syndrome is a pervasive developmental disorder, or autistic spectrum disorder, recognizable by the lack of social skills and the often highly intellectual, perseverative interests developed by those with Asperger's. For a person with Asperger's (an aspie), friendships, social banter, and romantic relationships can be difficult channels to navigate.

the word does cover a lot.

You saved me a lot of time looking that up. I had never heard of that before today.

Thanks