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Awwww Im sorry this happened to you Handsome. It was sweet, romantic and thoughtful for you to make the trip to visit her and obviously it was not appreciated. At least meeting someone, I get to see them before I make a decision to date them or no. This was tough. Im glad your back safe and sound and if I were you, I would just block her a forget about it all.... After all, you couldnt have a relationship with someone who is mentally unbalanced. Chalk it up to a bad experience and remember you earned good dating karma which I hope will manifest soon.
Better luck next time sweetie
Better luck next time sweetie
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venusenvy: Awwww Im sorry this happened to you Handsome. It was sweet, romantic and thoughtful for you to make the trip to visit her and obviously it was not appreciated. At least meeting someone, I get to see them before I make a decision to date them or no. This was tough. Im glad your back safe and sound and if I were you, I would just block her a forget about it all.... After all, you couldnt have a relationship with someone who is mentally unbalanced. Chalk it up to a bad experience and remember you earned good dating karma which I hope will manifest soon.
Better luck next time sweetie
i got to see and speak on cam also, these are things you only find out in reality, as i did, i went on Saturday, and returned today, tuesday, i will put it down to a bad experience, win some lose some, just wanted to know if this has happened to others on hereBetter luck next time sweetie
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mick681: i have been talking to someone off here for a few weeks, now by telephone. every day, so i took the plunge and travelled to see her, in her country,i took 3 flights and all day travelling to get there, not cheap to get there, money not the problem,when i met her, i thought ok as first impression, what i got to see later, really shook me, the condition of her flat, was so bad and filthy, i would not even let a animal stay there, yet she was insisting i stay there,the smell was so bad, i went and sourced a hotel late at night,
she stunk to high heaven, yet insists she is ok, i spent the next day sourcing to get flights back home to no avail, so i had to stay another night,lovely part of a country i had never seen before,so i made the best of a bad situation, she told me there, she never gets up before dinnertime, as she likes to sleep,
these are things i found out, only after a meet,
i cannot believe how a woman like this can make herself to be what she is not,
what i want to know now is ,has anyone else, had something like this happen to them,
i will not name this person, who is still on this site, i just hope she reads this, she keeps trying to contact all the time
she stunk to high heaven, yet insists she is ok, i spent the next day sourcing to get flights back home to no avail, so i had to stay another night,lovely part of a country i had never seen before,so i made the best of a bad situation, she told me there, she never gets up before dinnertime, as she likes to sleep,
these are things i found out, only after a meet,
i cannot believe how a woman like this can make herself to be what she is not,
what i want to know now is ,has anyone else, had something like this happen to them,
i will not name this person, who is still on this site, i just hope she reads this, she keeps trying to contact all the time
damn...
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mick681: i got to see and speak on cam also, these are things you only find out in reality, as i did, i went on Saturday, and returned today, tuesday, i will put it down to a bad experience, win some lose some, just wanted to know if this has happened to others on here
Ive dated and felt hopeful before only to have that person reveal themselves and have to stop seeing them...It sucks I know Mick
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But I do try to see the bright side Mick...I know you went through a lot to meet this person but in the end, you really dodged a bullet eh 
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Too bad that things did not work out the way you had hoped. The"what if" factor is why we take the chance of a meet and or course always the hope of the other person being what you envision them as. Unfortunately there is really no other way to find out. Like Venus says,best just to block her now and move on. Better times are ahead of you. 
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Its not always the case, but sometimes a lack of personal hygiene and home hygiene is a symptom of depression. Sleeping a lot certainly is and rest is what she needs if she is depressed.
Sometimes people don't realise they're depressed.
Sometimes people will look for change and excitement thinking that will make them feel better long-term, not realising they need to tackle underlying physical and emotional health issues.
Try not to be too cross, hurt, resentful, or hostile about it, eh? Attempting to humiliate her isn't going to help.
Sometimes people don't realise they're depressed.
Sometimes people will look for change and excitement thinking that will make them feel better long-term, not realising they need to tackle underlying physical and emotional health issues.
Try not to be too cross, hurt, resentful, or hostile about it, eh? Attempting to humiliate her isn't going to help.
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kennn: Too bad that things did not work out the way you had hoped. The"what if" factor is why we take the chance of a meet and or course always the hope of the other person being what you envision them as. Unfortunately there is really no other way to find out. Like Venus says,best just to block her now and move on. Better times are ahead of you.
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jac379: Its not always the case, but sometimes a lack of personal hygiene and home hygiene is a symptom of depression. Sleeping a lot certainly is and rest is what she needs if she is depressed.
Sometimes people don't realise they're depressed.
Sometimes people will look for change and excitement thinking that will make them feel better long-term, not realising they need to tackle underlying physical and emotional health issues.
Try not to be too cross, hurt, resentful, or hostile about it, eh? Attempting to humiliate her isn't going to help.
i have no intension of naming and shamingSometimes people don't realise they're depressed.
Sometimes people will look for change and excitement thinking that will make them feel better long-term, not realising they need to tackle underlying physical and emotional health issues.
Try not to be too cross, hurt, resentful, or hostile about it, eh? Attempting to humiliate her isn't going to help.
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mick681: i have no intension of naming and shaming
No, but you did say you hope she reads this and you must know that she's not going to feel very good about herself if she does.
That's unkind. You could have been a bit braver and told her in private mail.
What would you gain from knowing that other people have had experiences where they believe someone is vastly different from the way they've portrayed themselves?
Have you thought that maybe she didn't portray herself differently, but you filled in the gaps and saw what you wanted to see?
Take responsibility for your own actions and let her take responsibility for hers without being mean about it, eh?
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Really charming woman 
Few years ago I met handsome man...he is lawyer. Nice man with big heart...because there were place for 5 or more women in the same time! When I saw true I took him to my car and we went on a trip (it was pretext) and I left him in a deep forest. He didn't know a way back.
Fortunately for him, he didn't meet a wolf
I saw him on other site for singles, he still has a big heart for all women
Few years ago I met handsome man...he is lawyer. Nice man with big heart...because there were place for 5 or more women in the same time! When I saw true I took him to my car and we went on a trip (it was pretext) and I left him in a deep forest. He didn't know a way back.
Fortunately for him, he didn't meet a wolf
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Marfil39: Really charming woman
Few years ago I met handsome man...he is lawyer. Nice man with big heart...because there were place for 5 or more women in the same time! When I saw true I took him to my car and we went on a trip (it was pretext) and I left him in a deep forest. He didn't know a way back.
Fortunately for him, he didn't meet a wolf I saw him on other site for singles, he still has a big heart for all women
thanks , i am now getting what i want to read, not my experiance, others,Few years ago I met handsome man...he is lawyer. Nice man with big heart...because there were place for 5 or more women in the same time! When I saw true I took him to my car and we went on a trip (it was pretext) and I left him in a deep forest. He didn't know a way back.
Fortunately for him, he didn't meet a wolf I saw him on other site for singles, he still has a big heart for all women
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mick681: i have been talking to someone off here for a few weeks, now by telephone. every day, so i took the plunge and travelled to see her, in her country,i took 3 flights and all day travelling to get there, not cheap to get there, money not the problem,when i met her, i thought ok as first impression, what i got to see later, really shook me, the condition of her flat, was so bad and filthy, i would not even let a animal stay there, yet she was insisting i stay there,the smell was so bad, i went and sourced a hotel late at night,
she stunk to high heaven, yet insists she is ok, i spent the next day sourcing to get flights back home to no avail, so i had to stay another night,lovely part of a country i had never seen before,so i made the best of a bad situation, she told me there, she never gets up before dinnertime, as she likes to sleep,
these are things i found out, only after a meet,
i cannot believe how a woman like this can make herself to be what she is not,
what i want to know now is ,has anyone else, had something like this happen to them,
i will not name this person, who is still on this site, i just hope she reads this, she keeps trying to contact all the time
More people are slobs than not. And, I heard this on a talk show recently--there are more hoarders than not. (I do not mean the wise storage of basic needs--I mean collecting useless crap for years. There's a difference). Also, many people "stink". (I once worked with a nurse, yes a nurse, who outstunk any patient we ever had, and I mean over a thirty year period. Peeeyeww--. Many people don't realize how much they stink, they're so used to it they don't notice it. Also, I've noticed other professional people, college staff, etc... who have globs of earwax, spilled whatever on clothes, open flies, you name it. The world is full of slobs.she stunk to high heaven, yet insists she is ok, i spent the next day sourcing to get flights back home to no avail, so i had to stay another night,lovely part of a country i had never seen before,so i made the best of a bad situation, she told me there, she never gets up before dinnertime, as she likes to sleep,
these are things i found out, only after a meet,
i cannot believe how a woman like this can make herself to be what she is not,
what i want to know now is ,has anyone else, had something like this happen to them,
i will not name this person, who is still on this site, i just hope she reads this, she keeps trying to contact all the time
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venusenvy: But I do try to see the bright side Mick...I know you went through a lot to meet this person but in the end, you really dodged a bullet eh
Hi Sugar Booger. How's things?
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rohaan: More people are slobs than not. And, I heard this on a talk show recently--there are more hoarders than not. (I do not mean the wise storage of basic needs--I mean collecting useless crap for years. There's a difference). Also, many people "stink". (I once worked with a nurse, yes a nurse, who outstunk any patient we ever had, and I mean over a thirty year period. Peeeyeww--. Many people don't realize how much they stink, they're so used to it they don't notice it. Also, I've noticed other professional people, college staff, etc... who have globs of earwax, spilled whatever on clothes, open flies, you name it. The world is full of slobs.
I visited a classmate one time, and his house had so much garbage in it that I literally could not walk from the front door to the couch without stepping on garbage that was at least one foot thick on the floor. Needless to say, that was the first, last, and only visit I ever paid to that house!
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Well, in order to meet someone in real life, you have to get to know them very well online, on Skype, on the phone, and so one. I have not had that great fortune yet. I have talked on the phone with a couple ladies from another site, but nothing has come of that.
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That's awful.. I hope you have better luck next time, but as I say, taking the risk is better than a life of ' what ifs '
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In response to: i have been talking to someone off here for a few weeks, now by telephone. every day, so i took the plunge and travelled to see her, in her country,i took 3 flights and all day travelling to get there, not cheap to get there, money not the problem,when i met her, i thought ok as first impression, what i got to see later, really shook me, the condition of her flat, was so bad and filthy, i would not even let a animal stay there, yet she was insisting i stay there,the smell was so bad, i went and sourced a hotel late at night,
she stunk to high heaven, yet insists she is ok, i spent the next day sourcing to get flights back home to no avail, so i had to stay another night,lovely part of a country i had never seen before,so i made the best of a bad situation, she told me there, she never gets up before dinnertime, as she likes to sleep,
these are things i found out, only after a meet,
i cannot believe how a woman like this can make herself to be what she is not,
what i want to know now is ,has anyone else, had something like this happen to them,
i will not name this person, who is still on this site, i just hope she reads this, she keeps trying to contact all the time
she stunk to high heaven, yet insists she is ok, i spent the next day sourcing to get flights back home to no avail, so i had to stay another night,lovely part of a country i had never seen before,so i made the best of a bad situation, she told me there, she never gets up before dinnertime, as she likes to sleep,
these are things i found out, only after a meet,
i cannot believe how a woman like this can make herself to be what she is not,
what i want to know now is ,has anyone else, had something like this happen to them,
i will not name this person, who is still on this site, i just hope she reads this, she keeps trying to contact all the time
I don't know where you went, but some cultures eat food that smells atrocious to most western noses. (i.e. Kimchee, some curries, etc.). I once went with a realtor to look at a house that had been occupied by people from another culture and wow.. did that smell bad to me. The house was clean, so it wasn't a matter of hygiene, but a matter of the cooking.
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she stunk to high heaven, yet insists she is ok, i spent the next day sourcing to get flights back home to no avail, so i had to stay another night,lovely part of a country i had never seen before,so i made the best of a bad situation, she told me there, she never gets up before dinnertime, as she likes to sleep,
these are things i found out, only after a meet,
i cannot believe how a woman like this can make herself to be what she is not,
what i want to know now is ,has anyone else, had something like this happen to them,
i will not name this person, who is still on this site, i just hope she reads this, she keeps trying to contact all the time