can love be founded upon a lie? ( Archived) (24)

I would be lying if I said yes.


The sad part is that many people start with incorrect information about themselves or old photos even on a profile.

It is considered acceptable now for people to " fudge " a little about themselves or looks online.

To start off a relationship with false information about yourself is just a sign of what is to come. If it starts with lies, they only get worse.

Trust is a delicate issue.

Intentions would come into play here. I mean did she intend to keep the truth from you for her own gain or was it because she did not want to hurt you?

There's simply not enough info in your question.
What was the lie?
And more importantly why was it told?
And thirdly was it even 'really' a lie?

Truth can often be subjective. Say a person says that they are single when in 'reality' they are only separated. Was it a lie to state that they were single? Or was this just a matter of personal semantics? They know that they are not going back to their previous partner so as far as they are concerned they are single, and it's not a lie.

Moreover, your tread title asks if love can be 'founded' on a lie? What does it mean to found love on a lie? To have as a foundation for the love a lie? How can that be? That would suggest that the only reason you love the woman is because of this thing you thought was true the ultimately wasn't. Otherwise why would use suggest that the love is 'founded' on this lie?

Without knowing precisely what the lie is and why it was told it's impossible to answer your question.

Exactly! That what I eluded to when I asked why the lie was told in the first place. That definitely needs to be taken into consideration.

I went on a "perfect" first date long ago. The guy blew my mind and I couldn't believe how easy to talk to he was. I was having the best date ever. Near the end of the evening he said something that totally contradicted what he had said earlier in the conversation. I called him on it and he had no good explanation of why he lied to me. I said good night and walked out. The lie was small and unneeded and even forgiveable, but I couldn't help think if he was going to tell a blantant lie 4 hours into the relationship, what does the future hold??

Well it's a matter of understanding and moral values that one makes a decision. Personally I could easily for give a white lie. Maybe a heavy lie, but not 4 hours in to a date. For example some forgive cheaters and say people change. I for one find this not to be the case and don't forgive such deseption in a partner. So If I found out they have a history of this I may very well opt out. I would think my decision on this would depend on the lie.

hello everyone i think that love has to be based on honesty not lies

Well, in my case it was a man, not a woman.........I did not sustain the trust I originally had, no.

First love & Trust it take a long time, not a short period, and also depend on the lie, if the lie is a little lie, i can forget and laugh, it's something huge, it will be a big stone on the relationship. They always are going to be little lies in a relationship, there is not a perfect relationship except a lot of work.







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