Am I wrong to expect honesty here? ( Archived) (59)

Your more likely to bump into someone you like in the supermarket. With this in mind i may try dressing up like Borat in his swimming suit and hang out at my local Tescos while rubbing Avocado's on my thighs.

That's bound to attract women. (Or get me thrown out of the store and arrested for messing with Veggies).

It is a long time since I went to Tescos. You know, this is not a big thing to ask.... just be honest about yourself if you really want a new partner. The alternative is to be found out later having wasted a lot of time, which I consider the most precious thing of all.

I agree honesty is just another word.

There is not one person on this earth who hasn't told some sort of lie or done something not totally above board, for instance what about white lies... Libertus have you not ever told a lie in your life?? Surely you are not perfect.. No one is..

To say that you are yet to meet an honest & upfront woman on the site is surely being a little bit harsh ??

Libertus, i don't mean to offend, but maybe the problem is with you?

I think, just like real life, you have to separate the wheat from the chaff in here too. The internet, and especially sites like this, do not lend themselves to honesty.

Its the 'changing stories' bit in your OP that interests me.

Sometimes, stories do change. I might have an idea to do something and it doesn't work out, but I have an idea to do something else as a direct result of that.

Sometimes people can be more than one thing. For example, the fact that educationally I have a science background, but I'm currently a tailor has lead to many accusations of lying, or being incapable of contributing to certain debates.

Whilst there are people who lie and scam, I also think we interpret information from our own understanding; we fill in gaps and then when we fill in the gaps incorrectly we may feel the correct information is not truthful.

Life is fluid and so we must also remain fluid in our thinking of other's lives. That would also include not taking things too seriously as someone else has mentioned, going with the flow and having a little fun socialising with other complex and fallible people.

Yes I am human. But I want to find someone to share in a new life with me. Are you suggesting we should start out with untruths and it is ok to pretend to be other than we are?. Maybe I am naive to want honesty, maybe I am stupid to believe it is out there some where. I will keep trying though..... I have no choice, because it is what I believe is a minimum or a good relationship.

There's nothing wrong with honesty. The main thing I would be worried about with you through is your pet Bear. You look nice and friendly, but the bear I can't be sure about, and i have a thing about claws in my buttocks.

Somehow I don't think my two ginger cats could fight it off.

Well, I call myself Godsgift! How much more honest can I be?

Why do changes mean we should accept dishonesty?. I know we all tell lies day after day. I have though, never lied to my ex wife, even since we divorced. What is the point with the person you love? or want to love you.