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If you are actually serious about finding that one person who will love you for who you are, who will treat you like a prince, who will accept you, cherish you, and be your best friend.... maybe try actually READING a profile once in a while, and writing a message based on what you read.
I say specifically that I won't give out my email, skype or any personal info, yet almost every message I have asks for at least one of them. I say I'm not religious, yet have all sorts of guys writing who mention God as every other word. I'm obviously not into the outdoors or country music. I'm into computer games and heavy metal. I say specifically I'm looking for a white guy around my age with similar interests. But do I get that? Noooooo.... I get everything but what I'm looking for.
Guys, listen. Don't just look at the pictures. Sure, use that as a starting point, but take a few minutes and read a ladies profile. Take an interest in someone who may potentially be your soulmate, or at least can become a very good friend. Read the ENTIRE profile, from the first line of the basic info, through the In My Own Words section, and down through the More About Me and My Match info sections. Then read it again. If you share interests, or similar beliefs in life, take a few minutes from your oh so busy life to write a genuine message, (do not copy/paste some generic BS),referring to her info as you do. Ask her about some of the things she mentions. If she mentions hobbies or interests, ask about them, how long she's enjoyed them, what does she like about them. If she says she's not into kids, don't go on and on about yours. Don't call us dear, or darling, or baby, or sweetheart. You don't know us, and it comes across creepy, not sweet.
I can guarantee that if you take an interest you will get a lot more responses. It's not quantity, guys, it's quality. You will get a lot more responses by writing a genuine, personal letter to a few women who really share your interests, than by writing a hundred who will look at you as nothing but a scammer or a playa. Don't ask for our phone numbers, our IMs, our Skype or emails in the first letter. Most of the time that will earn you a date with the delete button.
I'd love to be loved again, but I won't answer a message from someone who's obviously not even bothered looking at my profile. I want to find happiness, not heartache. So do us a favor, guys. Read a profile once in a while, and answer it honestly, sincerely and from the heart.