Why don't men read profiles? (41)
Valestra: I've been on this site for almost 2 years now, and I think in that time, I have found only 2 guys who have actually READ my profile. Yet, inevitably, I see guys moaning and complaining that none of the women they write ever answer. You wanna know why?? Because we don't like getting the same copy/pasted generic message that you send to a hundred women every time you come online.
If you are actually serious about finding that one person who will love you for who you are, who will treat you like a prince, who will accept you, cherish you, and be your best friend.... maybe try actually READING a profile once in a while, and writing a message based on what you read.
I say specifically that I won't give out my email, skype or any personal info, yet almost every message I have asks for at least one of them. I say I'm not religious, yet have all sorts of guys writing who mention God as every other word. I'm obviously not into the outdoors or country music. I'm into computer games and heavy metal. I say specifically I'm looking for a white guy around my age with similar interests. But do I get that? Noooooo.... I get everything but what I'm looking for.
Guys, listen. Don't just look at the pictures. Sure, use that as a starting point, but take a few minutes and read a ladies profile. Take an interest in someone who may potentially be your soulmate, or at least can become a very good friend. Read the ENTIRE profile, from the first line of the basic info, through the In My Own Words section, and down through the More About Me and My Match info sections. Then read it again. If you share interests, or similar beliefs in life, take a few minutes from your oh so busy life to write a genuine message, (do not copy/paste some generic BS),referring to her info as you do. Ask her about some of the things she mentions. If she mentions hobbies or interests, ask about them, how long she's enjoyed them, what does she like about them. If she says she's not into kids, don't go on and on about yours. Don't call us dear, or darling, or baby, or sweetheart. You don't know us, and it comes across creepy, not sweet.
I can guarantee that if you take an interest you will get a lot more responses. It's not quantity, guys, it's quality. You will get a lot more responses by writing a genuine, personal letter to a few women who really share your interests, than by writing a hundred who will look at you as nothing but a scammer or a playa. Don't ask for our phone numbers, our IMs, our Skype or emails in the first letter. Most of the time that will earn you a date with the delete button.
I'd love to be loved again, but I won't answer a message from someone who's obviously not even bothered looking at my profile. I want to find happiness, not heartache. So do us a favor, guys. Read a profile once in a while, and answer it honestly, sincerely and from the heart.
i didnt read any of ur post,ok maybe just the title.but i have been in child burn units and walked throught dead mans land.if u need to screw someone than screw me to the wall.If you are actually serious about finding that one person who will love you for who you are, who will treat you like a prince, who will accept you, cherish you, and be your best friend.... maybe try actually READING a profile once in a while, and writing a message based on what you read.
I say specifically that I won't give out my email, skype or any personal info, yet almost every message I have asks for at least one of them. I say I'm not religious, yet have all sorts of guys writing who mention God as every other word. I'm obviously not into the outdoors or country music. I'm into computer games and heavy metal. I say specifically I'm looking for a white guy around my age with similar interests. But do I get that? Noooooo.... I get everything but what I'm looking for.
Guys, listen. Don't just look at the pictures. Sure, use that as a starting point, but take a few minutes and read a ladies profile. Take an interest in someone who may potentially be your soulmate, or at least can become a very good friend. Read the ENTIRE profile, from the first line of the basic info, through the In My Own Words section, and down through the More About Me and My Match info sections. Then read it again. If you share interests, or similar beliefs in life, take a few minutes from your oh so busy life to write a genuine message, (do not copy/paste some generic BS),referring to her info as you do. Ask her about some of the things she mentions. If she mentions hobbies or interests, ask about them, how long she's enjoyed them, what does she like about them. If she says she's not into kids, don't go on and on about yours. Don't call us dear, or darling, or baby, or sweetheart. You don't know us, and it comes across creepy, not sweet.
I can guarantee that if you take an interest you will get a lot more responses. It's not quantity, guys, it's quality. You will get a lot more responses by writing a genuine, personal letter to a few women who really share your interests, than by writing a hundred who will look at you as nothing but a scammer or a playa. Don't ask for our phone numbers, our IMs, our Skype or emails in the first letter. Most of the time that will earn you a date with the delete button.
I'd love to be loved again, but I won't answer a message from someone who's obviously not even bothered looking at my profile. I want to find happiness, not heartache. So do us a favor, guys. Read a profile once in a while, and answer it honestly, sincerely and from the heart.
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Because the people haven't time to read long stories! It's not magazine or newspaper! This is hyperspace! Short and brief!
And second - more than 80 % are picture lovers! Entry point is foto! Why to read?! Sad, but true!
And second - more than 80 % are picture lovers! Entry point is foto! Why to read?! Sad, but true!
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I'm out!!!
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Valestra: I've been on this site for almost 2 years now, and I think in that time, I have found only 2 guys who have actually READ my profile. Yet, inevitably, I see guys moaning and complaining that none of the women they write ever answer. You wanna know why?? Because we don't like getting the same copy/pasted generic message that you send to a hundred women every time you come online.
If you are actually serious about finding that one person who will love you for who you are, who will treat you like a prince, who will accept you, cherish you, and be your best friend.... maybe try actually READING a profile once in a while, and writing a message based on what you read.
I say specifically that I won't give out my email, skype or any personal info, yet almost every message I have asks for at least one of them. I say I'm not religious, yet have all sorts of guys writing who mention God as every other word. I'm obviously not into the outdoors or country music. I'm into computer games and heavy metal. I say specifically I'm looking for a white guy around my age with similar interests. But do I get that? Noooooo.... I get everything but what I'm looking for.
Guys, listen. Don't just look at the pictures. Sure, use that as a starting point, but take a few minutes and read a ladies profile. Take an interest in someone who may potentially be your soulmate, or at least can become a very good friend. Read the ENTIRE profile, from the first line of the basic info, through the In My Own Words section, and down through the More About Me and My Match info sections. Then read it again. If you share interests, or similar beliefs in life, take a few minutes from your oh so busy life to write a genuine message, (do not copy/paste some generic BS),referring to her info as you do. Ask her about some of the things she mentions. If she mentions hobbies or interests, ask about them, how long she's enjoyed them, what does she like about them. If she says she's not into kids, don't go on and on about yours. Don't call us dear, or darling, or baby, or sweetheart. You don't know us, and it comes across creepy, not sweet.
I can guarantee that if you take an interest you will get a lot more responses. It's not quantity, guys, it's quality. You will get a lot more responses by writing a genuine, personal letter to a few women who really share your interests, than by writing a hundred who will look at you as nothing but a scammer or a playa. Don't ask for our phone numbers, our IMs, our Skype or emails in the first letter. Most of the time that will earn you a date with the delete button.
I'd love to be loved again, but I won't answer a message from someone who's obviously not even bothered looking at my profile. I want to find happiness, not heartache. So do us a favor, guys. Read a profile once in a while, and answer it honestly, sincerely and from the heart.
If you are actually serious about finding that one person who will love you for who you are, who will treat you like a prince, who will accept you, cherish you, and be your best friend.... maybe try actually READING a profile once in a while, and writing a message based on what you read.
I say specifically that I won't give out my email, skype or any personal info, yet almost every message I have asks for at least one of them. I say I'm not religious, yet have all sorts of guys writing who mention God as every other word. I'm obviously not into the outdoors or country music. I'm into computer games and heavy metal. I say specifically I'm looking for a white guy around my age with similar interests. But do I get that? Noooooo.... I get everything but what I'm looking for.
Guys, listen. Don't just look at the pictures. Sure, use that as a starting point, but take a few minutes and read a ladies profile. Take an interest in someone who may potentially be your soulmate, or at least can become a very good friend. Read the ENTIRE profile, from the first line of the basic info, through the In My Own Words section, and down through the More About Me and My Match info sections. Then read it again. If you share interests, or similar beliefs in life, take a few minutes from your oh so busy life to write a genuine message, (do not copy/paste some generic BS),referring to her info as you do. Ask her about some of the things she mentions. If she mentions hobbies or interests, ask about them, how long she's enjoyed them, what does she like about them. If she says she's not into kids, don't go on and on about yours. Don't call us dear, or darling, or baby, or sweetheart. You don't know us, and it comes across creepy, not sweet.
I can guarantee that if you take an interest you will get a lot more responses. It's not quantity, guys, it's quality. You will get a lot more responses by writing a genuine, personal letter to a few women who really share your interests, than by writing a hundred who will look at you as nothing but a scammer or a playa. Don't ask for our phone numbers, our IMs, our Skype or emails in the first letter. Most of the time that will earn you a date with the delete button.
I'd love to be loved again, but I won't answer a message from someone who's obviously not even bothered looking at my profile. I want to find happiness, not heartache. So do us a favor, guys. Read a profile once in a while, and answer it honestly, sincerely and from the heart.
It's quit simple, a genuine man will write genuine mails
This all sounds to me like you're only getting mails from scammer - whatever you do, don't educate them
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online today!online today!pisceslady7Kincumber nr. Gosford, New South Wales Australia21 Threads 4 Polls 1,910 PostsI read a profile that had an interesting line in it. It had a codeword and asked women to have it as the title in their reply. Anyone who did not, he would delete their message. I am thinking of trying that myself. A good way to 'cull' and no scammers
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Valestra: I've been on this site for almost 2 years now, and I think in that time, I have found only 2 guys who have actually READ my profile. Yet, inevitably, I see guys moaning and complaining that none of the women they write ever answer. You wanna know why?? Because we don't like getting the same copy/pasted generic message that you send to a hundred women every time you come online.
If you are actually serious about finding that one person who will love you for who you are, who will treat you like a prince, who will accept you, cherish you, and be your best friend.... maybe try actually READING a profile once in a while, and writing a message based on what you read.
I say specifically that I won't give out my email, skype or any personal info, yet almost every message I have asks for at least one of them. I say I'm not religious, yet have all sorts of guys writing who mention God as every other word. I'm obviously not into the outdoors or country music. I'm into computer games and heavy metal. I say specifically I'm looking for a white guy around my age with similar interests. But do I get that? Noooooo.... I get everything but what I'm looking for.
Guys, listen. Don't just look at the pictures. Sure, use that as a starting point, but take a few minutes and read a ladies profile. Take an interest in someone who may potentially be your soulmate, or at least can become a very good friend. Read the ENTIRE profile, from the first line of the basic info, through the In My Own Words section, and down through the More About Me and My Match info sections. Then read it again. If you share interests, or similar beliefs in life, take a few minutes from your oh so busy life to write a genuine message, (do not copy/paste some generic BS),referring to her info as you do. Ask her about some of the things she mentions. If she mentions hobbies or interests, ask about them, how long she's enjoyed them, what does she like about them. If she says she's not into kids, don't go on and on about yours. Don't call us dear, or darling, or baby, or sweetheart. You don't know us, and it comes across creepy, not sweet.
I can guarantee that if you take an interest you will get a lot more responses. It's not quantity, guys, it's quality. You will get a lot more responses by writing a genuine, personal letter to a few women who really share your interests, than by writing a hundred who will look at you as nothing but a scammer or a playa. Don't ask for our phone numbers, our IMs, our Skype or emails in the first letter. Most of the time that will earn you a date with the delete button.
I'd love to be loved again, but I won't answer a message from someone who's obviously not even bothered looking at my profile. I want to find happiness, not heartache. So do us a favor, guys. Read a profile once in a while, and answer it honestly, sincerely and from the heart.
If you are actually serious about finding that one person who will love you for who you are, who will treat you like a prince, who will accept you, cherish you, and be your best friend.... maybe try actually READING a profile once in a while, and writing a message based on what you read.
I say specifically that I won't give out my email, skype or any personal info, yet almost every message I have asks for at least one of them. I say I'm not religious, yet have all sorts of guys writing who mention God as every other word. I'm obviously not into the outdoors or country music. I'm into computer games and heavy metal. I say specifically I'm looking for a white guy around my age with similar interests. But do I get that? Noooooo.... I get everything but what I'm looking for.
Guys, listen. Don't just look at the pictures. Sure, use that as a starting point, but take a few minutes and read a ladies profile. Take an interest in someone who may potentially be your soulmate, or at least can become a very good friend. Read the ENTIRE profile, from the first line of the basic info, through the In My Own Words section, and down through the More About Me and My Match info sections. Then read it again. If you share interests, or similar beliefs in life, take a few minutes from your oh so busy life to write a genuine message, (do not copy/paste some generic BS),referring to her info as you do. Ask her about some of the things she mentions. If she mentions hobbies or interests, ask about them, how long she's enjoyed them, what does she like about them. If she says she's not into kids, don't go on and on about yours. Don't call us dear, or darling, or baby, or sweetheart. You don't know us, and it comes across creepy, not sweet.
I can guarantee that if you take an interest you will get a lot more responses. It's not quantity, guys, it's quality. You will get a lot more responses by writing a genuine, personal letter to a few women who really share your interests, than by writing a hundred who will look at you as nothing but a scammer or a playa. Don't ask for our phone numbers, our IMs, our Skype or emails in the first letter. Most of the time that will earn you a date with the delete button.
I'd love to be loved again, but I won't answer a message from someone who's obviously not even bothered looking at my profile. I want to find happiness, not heartache. So do us a favor, guys. Read a profile once in a while, and answer it honestly, sincerely and from the heart.
Nice novel.
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Valestra: I've been on this site for almost 2 years now, and I think in that time, I have found only 2 guys who have actually READ my profile. Yet, inevitably, I see guys moaning and complaining that none of the women they write ever answer. You wanna know why?? Because we don't like getting the same copy/pasted generic message that you send to a hundred women every time you come online.
If you are actually serious about finding that one person who will love you for who you are, who will treat you like a prince, who will accept you, cherish you, and be your best friend.... maybe try actually READING a profile once in a while, and writing a message based on what you read.
I say specifically that I won't give out my email, skype or any personal info, yet almost every message I have asks for at least one of them. I say I'm not religious, yet have all sorts of guys writing who mention God as every other word. I'm obviously not into the outdoors or country music. I'm into computer games and heavy metal. I say specifically I'm looking for a white guy around my age with similar interests. But do I get that? Noooooo.... I get everything but what I'm looking for.
Guys, listen. Don't just look at the pictures. Sure, use that as a starting point, but take a few minutes and read a ladies profile. Take an interest in someone who may potentially be your soulmate, or at least can become a very good friend. Read the ENTIRE profile, from the first line of the basic info, through the In My Own Words section, and down through the More About Me and My Match info sections. Then read it again. If you share interests, or similar beliefs in life, take a few minutes from your oh so busy life to write a genuine message, (do not copy/paste some generic BS),referring to her info as you do. Ask her about some of the things she mentions. If she mentions hobbies or interests, ask about them, how long she's enjoyed them, what does she like about them. If she says she's not into kids, don't go on and on about yours. Don't call us dear, or darling, or baby, or sweetheart. You don't know us, and it comes across creepy, not sweet.
I can guarantee that if you take an interest you will get a lot more responses. It's not quantity, guys, it's quality. You will get a lot more responses by writing a genuine, personal letter to a few women who really share your interests, than by writing a hundred who will look at you as nothing but a scammer or a playa. Don't ask for our phone numbers, our IMs, our Skype or emails in the first letter. Most of the time that will earn you a date with the delete button.
I'd love to be loved again, but I won't answer a message from someone who's obviously not even bothered looking at my profile. I want to find happiness, not heartache. So do us a favor, guys. Read a profile once in a while, and answer it honestly, sincerely and from the heart.
because we have heard it all beforeIf you are actually serious about finding that one person who will love you for who you are, who will treat you like a prince, who will accept you, cherish you, and be your best friend.... maybe try actually READING a profile once in a while, and writing a message based on what you read.
I say specifically that I won't give out my email, skype or any personal info, yet almost every message I have asks for at least one of them. I say I'm not religious, yet have all sorts of guys writing who mention God as every other word. I'm obviously not into the outdoors or country music. I'm into computer games and heavy metal. I say specifically I'm looking for a white guy around my age with similar interests. But do I get that? Noooooo.... I get everything but what I'm looking for.
Guys, listen. Don't just look at the pictures. Sure, use that as a starting point, but take a few minutes and read a ladies profile. Take an interest in someone who may potentially be your soulmate, or at least can become a very good friend. Read the ENTIRE profile, from the first line of the basic info, through the In My Own Words section, and down through the More About Me and My Match info sections. Then read it again. If you share interests, or similar beliefs in life, take a few minutes from your oh so busy life to write a genuine message, (do not copy/paste some generic BS),referring to her info as you do. Ask her about some of the things she mentions. If she mentions hobbies or interests, ask about them, how long she's enjoyed them, what does she like about them. If she says she's not into kids, don't go on and on about yours. Don't call us dear, or darling, or baby, or sweetheart. You don't know us, and it comes across creepy, not sweet.
I can guarantee that if you take an interest you will get a lot more responses. It's not quantity, guys, it's quality. You will get a lot more responses by writing a genuine, personal letter to a few women who really share your interests, than by writing a hundred who will look at you as nothing but a scammer or a playa. Don't ask for our phone numbers, our IMs, our Skype or emails in the first letter. Most of the time that will earn you a date with the delete button.
I'd love to be loved again, but I won't answer a message from someone who's obviously not even bothered looking at my profile. I want to find happiness, not heartache. So do us a favor, guys. Read a profile once in a while, and answer it honestly, sincerely and from the heart.
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MeantimeinBali: It's quit simple, a genuine man will write genuine mails
This all sounds to me like you're only getting mails from scammer - whatever you do, don't educate them
This all sounds to me like you're only getting mails from scammer - whatever you do, don't educate them
This would be my interpretation of the situation. I constantly receive the same mails from attractive women half my age always ending in 'contact me at x x x x @ Y A H O O. C O M. I think we all get them.
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Men are very sleepy creatures, you need to hit them hard and fast to keep them awake 
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Valestra: I've been on this site for almost 2 years now, and I think in that time, I have found only 2 guys who have actually READ my profile. Yet, inevitably, I see guys moaning and complaining that none of the women they write ever answer. You wanna know why?? Because we don't like getting the same copy/pasted generic message that you send to a hundred women every time you come online.
If you are actually serious about finding that one person who will love you for who you are, who will treat you like a prince, who will accept you, cherish you, and be your best friend.... maybe try actually READING a profile once in a while, and writing a message based on what you read.
I say specifically that I won't give out my email, skype or any personal info, yet almost every message I have asks for at least one of them. I say I'm not religious, yet have all sorts of guys writing who mention God as every other word. I'm obviously not into the outdoors or country music. I'm into computer games and heavy metal. I say specifically I'm looking for a white guy around my age with similar interests. But do I get that? Noooooo.... I get everything but what I'm looking for.
Guys, listen. Don't just look at the pictures. Sure, use that as a starting point, but take a few minutes and read a ladies profile. Take an interest in someone who may potentially be your soulmate, or at least can become a very good friend. Read the ENTIRE profile, from the first line of the basic info, through the In My Own Words section, and down through the More About Me and My Match info sections. Then read it again. If you share interests, or similar beliefs in life, take a few minutes from your oh so busy life to write a genuine message, (do not copy/paste some generic BS),referring to her info as you do. Ask her about some of the things she mentions. If she mentions hobbies or interests, ask about them, how long she's enjoyed them, what does she like about them. If she says she's not into kids, don't go on and on about yours. Don't call us dear, or darling, or baby, or sweetheart. You don't know us, and it comes across creepy, not sweet.
I can guarantee that if you take an interest you will get a lot more responses. It's not quantity, guys, it's quality. You will get a lot more responses by writing a genuine, personal letter to a few women who really share your interests, than by writing a hundred who will look at you as nothing but a scammer or a playa. Don't ask for our phone numbers, our IMs, our Skype or emails in the first letter. Most of the time that will earn you a date with the delete button.
I'd love to be loved again, but I won't answer a message from someone who's obviously not even bothered looking at my profile. I want to find happiness, not heartache. So do us a favor, guys. Read a profile once in a while, and answer it honestly, sincerely and from the heart.
If you are actually serious about finding that one person who will love you for who you are, who will treat you like a prince, who will accept you, cherish you, and be your best friend.... maybe try actually READING a profile once in a while, and writing a message based on what you read.
I say specifically that I won't give out my email, skype or any personal info, yet almost every message I have asks for at least one of them. I say I'm not religious, yet have all sorts of guys writing who mention God as every other word. I'm obviously not into the outdoors or country music. I'm into computer games and heavy metal. I say specifically I'm looking for a white guy around my age with similar interests. But do I get that? Noooooo.... I get everything but what I'm looking for.
Guys, listen. Don't just look at the pictures. Sure, use that as a starting point, but take a few minutes and read a ladies profile. Take an interest in someone who may potentially be your soulmate, or at least can become a very good friend. Read the ENTIRE profile, from the first line of the basic info, through the In My Own Words section, and down through the More About Me and My Match info sections. Then read it again. If you share interests, or similar beliefs in life, take a few minutes from your oh so busy life to write a genuine message, (do not copy/paste some generic BS),referring to her info as you do. Ask her about some of the things she mentions. If she mentions hobbies or interests, ask about them, how long she's enjoyed them, what does she like about them. If she says she's not into kids, don't go on and on about yours. Don't call us dear, or darling, or baby, or sweetheart. You don't know us, and it comes across creepy, not sweet.
I can guarantee that if you take an interest you will get a lot more responses. It's not quantity, guys, it's quality. You will get a lot more responses by writing a genuine, personal letter to a few women who really share your interests, than by writing a hundred who will look at you as nothing but a scammer or a playa. Don't ask for our phone numbers, our IMs, our Skype or emails in the first letter. Most of the time that will earn you a date with the delete button.
I'd love to be loved again, but I won't answer a message from someone who's obviously not even bothered looking at my profile. I want to find happiness, not heartache. So do us a favor, guys. Read a profile once in a while, and answer it honestly, sincerely and from the heart.
I'm late, I'm late, for a very important date. No time to say hello goodbye I'm I'm late, I'm late
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Godsgift: This would be my interpretation of the situation. I constantly receive the same mails from attractive women half my age always ending in 'contact me at x x x x @ Y A H O O. C O M. I think we all get them.
In the olden days I used to get a half dozen of them on a daily basis and now I'm down to one every view months. Not even they can't be bothered writing to me
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Dearest Valestra, you're educating the scammers here, nothing more.
Try joining in the facilities the site offers, like the forums, blogs, chatrooms, whatever. Get to know people, let people see who you are, make friends and enjoy.
Try joining in the facilities the site offers, like the forums, blogs, chatrooms, whatever. Get to know people, let people see who you are, make friends and enjoy.
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plz you allow me for reply and also read my profile plz,here you swill find me a real man for you???INSHA ALLAH
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plz do not block pakistan due to his poverty??aLI
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liaqatkhan: plz do not block pakistan due to his poverty??aLI
Ok
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i read your profile but you have blocked the country where you expected to met a guy of your age??ALI
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tomcatwarne: North West Frontier
Should we dig in?
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If you are actually serious about finding that one person who will love you for who you are, who will treat you like a prince, who will accept you, cherish you, and be your best friend.... maybe try actually READING a profile once in a while, and writing a message based on what you read.
I say specifically that I won't give out my email, skype or any personal info, yet almost every message I have asks for at least one of them. I say I'm not religious, yet have all sorts of guys writing who mention God as every other word. I'm obviously not into the outdoors or country music. I'm into computer games and heavy metal. I say specifically I'm looking for a white guy around my age with similar interests. But do I get that? Noooooo.... I get everything but what I'm looking for.
Guys, listen. Don't just look at the pictures. Sure, use that as a starting point, but take a few minutes and read a ladies profile. Take an interest in someone who may potentially be your soulmate, or at least can become a very good friend. Read the ENTIRE profile, from the first line of the basic info, through the In My Own Words section, and down through the More About Me and My Match info sections. Then read it again. If you share interests, or similar beliefs in life, take a few minutes from your oh so busy life to write a genuine message, (do not copy/paste some generic BS),referring to her info as you do. Ask her about some of the things she mentions. If she mentions hobbies or interests, ask about them, how long she's enjoyed them, what does she like about them. If she says she's not into kids, don't go on and on about yours. Don't call us dear, or darling, or baby, or sweetheart. You don't know us, and it comes across creepy, not sweet.
I can guarantee that if you take an interest you will get a lot more responses. It's not quantity, guys, it's quality. You will get a lot more responses by writing a genuine, personal letter to a few women who really share your interests, than by writing a hundred who will look at you as nothing but a scammer or a playa. Don't ask for our phone numbers, our IMs, our Skype or emails in the first letter. Most of the time that will earn you a date with the delete button.
I'd love to be loved again, but I won't answer a message from someone who's obviously not even bothered looking at my profile. I want to find happiness, not heartache. So do us a favor, guys. Read a profile once in a while, and answer it honestly, sincerely and from the heart.