Men, I need your advice (111)
JillllRancho Cucamonga, California USA3 Threads 1 Polls 1,390 PostsWhat is the kindest but most effective way to tell a guy that you're not interested?
Answer this Jillll. are you interested in me?
edd0408: Answer this Jillll. are you interested in me?
You're a sneaky one, aren't you?
it depends what the history is. have you dated ? is he a friend ?
what are you wearing right now were you flirting ?
need to know ALL the details. especially the juicy stuff
need to know ALL the details. especially the juicy stuff
sharkmeat: it depends what the history is. have you dated ? is he a friend ?
what are you wearing right now were you flirting ?
need to know ALL the details. especially the juicy stuff
what are you wearing right now were you flirting ?
need to know ALL the details. especially the juicy stuff
I wasn't speaking about anything specific, just in general in CS communications and first date sort of things.
ask him for his phone number and text message him the top ten reasons
you dont want to go out with him.
( oh god im terrible at this advice thing )
you dont want to go out with him.
( oh god im terrible at this advice thing )
steak4dinner: ask him for his phone number and text message him the top ten reasons
you dont want to go out with him.
( oh god im terrible at this advice thing )
you dont want to go out with him.
( oh god im terrible at this advice thing )
That is the way you would want a girl to tell you?
Jillll: What is the kindest but most effective way to tell a guy that you're not interested?
Due to psychological ( and oftentimes intellectual) inability of many men to realize they are not wanted the only way is to say bluntly and rather ruthlessly that that is the case.
This somewhat impolite and unfriendly candor proved in the long run very helpful and saving time and effort........
Jillll: I have discovered that to be true but I don't want to be rude if it is unnecessary
I respect Your position, but statistically it is not an easy road........
Tell him Thank you very much for the time we have spent together and i have had a wonderful time with you but(always a but) it seems things will just not work out between us again thank you for a wonderful time and please respect my wishes as to my not wanting to continue with our relationship.
dadgamor: Tell him Thank you very much for the time we have spent together and i have had a wonderful time with you but(always a but) it seems things will just not work out between us again thank you for a wonderful time and please respect my wishes as to my not wanting to continue with our relationship.
Thanks, Dadgamor. That is definitely polite but to the point.
you are quite welcome Jill some men turn into babies when the woman breaks it off some men that is............i think it may have something to do with the fact that some guys think they are gods greatest gift and when a woman breaks it off Oh the Horror and the Shame of it all!!! but but I am irresistible....you can't do this to me!!!! then they plop down and throw a fit(No i never have done it) I am sure you also have heard the old saying that when a man is sick he acts like a baby.....well the same concept applies here as well............I hope that helps......
Glad to hear you're not one of the immature ones, Dadgamor. Also not all men are babies when they are sick.
In response to: What is the kindest but most effective way to tell a guy that you're not interested?
Hi Jilll,Before I submit my response, I would like to acknowledge your stopping by to review my profile/essay – thank you.
Now, could any of these “let downs” work for you?
If he is rather thick-skinned say this the next time he makes contact; tell him that you don't see the two of you together; ever!
You can tell him he's a nice guy, but you are NOT interested in dating him and wish him luck in finding someone else.
You might try, you know, someone is looking for you but it’s not me.
If he won't give it up, be firm and ask him if he was listening to anything you said and that you have tried to be open and honest with him – ask, what is it about NO, I’M NOT INTERESTED IN YOU that you don’t understand?
If he's extremely clingy and won't leave you alone, be as blunt as you can be – then say to him that you don’t even see him as a brother (much less a boyfriend).
How about the old standard verbiage of, There has to be some chemistry.
There are many ways to get the message across… need more, just ask; I’ve heard them all.
see ya, wouldn't want to be ya.
...and away I go!
jimiboy
jimiboy: Hi Jilll,
Before I submit my response, I would like to acknowledge your stopping by to review my profile/essay – thank you.
Now, could any of these “let downs” work for you?
If he is rather thick-skinned say this the next time he makes contact; tell him that you don't see the two of you together; ever!
You can tell him he's a nice guy, but you are NOT interested in dating him and wish him luck in finding someone else.
You might try, you know, someone is looking for you but it’s not me.
If he won't give it up, be firm and ask him if he was listening to anything you said and that you have tried to be open and honest with him – ask, what is it about NO, I’M NOT INTERESTED IN YOU that you don’t understand?
If he's extremely clingy and won't leave you alone, be as blunt as you can be – then say to him that you don’t even see him as a brother (much less a boyfriend).
How about the old standard verbiage of, There has to be some chemistry.
There are many ways to get the message across… need more, just ask; I’ve heard them all.
see ya, wouldn't want to be ya. ...and away I go!
jimiboy
Before I submit my response, I would like to acknowledge your stopping by to review my profile/essay – thank you.
Now, could any of these “let downs” work for you?
If he is rather thick-skinned say this the next time he makes contact; tell him that you don't see the two of you together; ever!
You can tell him he's a nice guy, but you are NOT interested in dating him and wish him luck in finding someone else.
You might try, you know, someone is looking for you but it’s not me.
If he won't give it up, be firm and ask him if he was listening to anything you said and that you have tried to be open and honest with him – ask, what is it about NO, I’M NOT INTERESTED IN YOU that you don’t understand?
If he's extremely clingy and won't leave you alone, be as blunt as you can be – then say to him that you don’t even see him as a brother (much less a boyfriend).
How about the old standard verbiage of, There has to be some chemistry.
There are many ways to get the message across… need more, just ask; I’ve heard them all.
see ya, wouldn't want to be ya. ...and away I go!
jimiboy
Thanks Jimiboy, those are great responses.
I think I've got a couple of nutcases on my hands who think that someday I'll change my mind.
Can't reason with insanity.
sorry but I'm not interested in voçe know.
but I urge you to search a person in your life,
but I urge you to search a person in your life,
Jillll: What is the kindest but most effective way to tell a guy that you're not interested?
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