Men, I need your advice (111)
geohooClovis, California USA2 PostsJillll: What is the kindest but most effective way to tell a guy that you're not interested?
. I suppose.........Thank you for your interest.......but no thank you. Have a wonderful day . If they keep it up........cursing, belittling, sarcasm, could all be used!!! LolJillll: What is the kindest but most effective way to tell a guy that you're not interested?
. I suppose.........Thank you for your interest.......but no thank you. Have a wonderful day . If they keep it up........cursing, belittling, sarcasm, could all be used!!! Lol
Be direct and to the point. Men do NOT do subtle. And remember, if you DO like a guy, tell him so in the same way! He may not get the subtle hints....
geohoo: . I suppose.........Thank you for your interest.......but no thank you. Have a wonderful day . If they keep it up........cursing, belittling, sarcasm, could all be used!!! Lol
Thanks geohoo. I guess I don't like it when it gets to the cursing, belittling, and sarcasm stage but maybe it's necessary.
DividedHeart: Be direct and to the point. Men do NOT do subtle. And remember, if you DO like a guy, tell him so in the same way! He may not get the subtle hints....
Good to remember to say so when you do like a guy!
If on-line, just don't reply to his messages, he will understand in a little while that you are no longer interested and will move on. It's really a numbers game for a lot of me.
If off-line, on the phone,just say you are interested in somebody else and wish him luck. Then block is number and you move-on
If off-line, on the phone,just say you are interested in somebody else and wish him luck. Then block is number and you move-on
Unfortunately, there's none.... just be honest and tack and say....I'm not feeling it.
davidnpb1: If on-line, just don't reply to his messages, he will understand in a little while that you are no longer interested and will move on. It's really a numbers game for a lot of me.
If off-line, on the phone,just say you are interested in somebody else and wish him luck. Then block is number and you move-on
If off-line, on the phone,just say you are interested in somebody else and wish him luck. Then block is number and you move-on
You're right. It is a numbers game.
NakitaNemo: Unfortunately, there's none.... just be honest and tack and say....I'm not feeling it.
It seems that being blunt and to the point is the way to go.
NakitaNemo: Unfortunately, there's none.... just be honest and tack and say....I'm not feeling it.
It seems that being blunt and to the point is the way to go.
Hi Jill,
Just remember that whatever you say make sure its in a public place for your own protection. If the guy wishes to have a fit, it will normally be less of one with people around.
Regards, Baz
Just remember that whatever you say make sure its in a public place for your own protection. If the guy wishes to have a fit, it will normally be less of one with people around.
Regards, Baz
Jillll: What is the kindest but most effective way to tell a guy that you're not interested?
Quite often it the direct upfront approach. It may not seem like the gentlest way to do it but why beat around the bush. I had a lady come out and express this to me and I figured it was the simplest way to go about it.
At least that way each knows where they stand.
Although sometimes the other individual can and does keep on pursuing rather than accepting the reality of the situation as it doesn't meet their desires. I also had that experience too.
bazzer22: Hi Jill,
Just remember that whatever you say make sure its in a public place for your own protection. If the guy wishes to have a fit, it will normally be less of one with people around.
Regards, Baz
Just remember that whatever you say make sure its in a public place for your own protection. If the guy wishes to have a fit, it will normally be less of one with people around.
Regards, Baz
good idea to keep it safe.DavidScps: Quite often it the direct upfront approach. It may not seem like the gentlest way to do it but why beat around the bush. I had a lady come out and express this to me and I figured it was the simplest way to go about it.
At least that way each knows where they stand.
Although sometimes the other individual can and does keep on pursuing rather than accepting the reality of the situation as it doesn't meet their desires. I also had that experience too.
At least that way each knows where they stand.
Although sometimes the other individual can and does keep on pursuing rather than accepting the reality of the situation as it doesn't meet their desires. I also had that experience too.
I told one guy I was seeing someone else. Even that didn't stop him.
In response to: What is the kindest but most effective way to tell a guy that you're not interested?
I know this is for men only but as a woman I've had enough experience to know that the best way is to be direct. I would appreciate that. If you say something like: "You're a great guy but I didn't feel that strong of a connection with you." I don't think that's hurtful. If a man said that to me, I'd completely understand. And if he doesn't get it or want to get it, that's on him.
Jillll: What is the kindest but most effective way to tell a guy that you're not interested?
I think it would sound something like this. Thankyou for the attention you have been giving me over the last few weeks…. days..etc but Im afraid to no fault of yours you are not the right person for me! 
The truth without being to detailed and if he can't handle that then you should not be around him anywhy remember he is a Man
Thank You for the compliment of your note. However, I am 'this' close to entering into a relationship. I would like to see where it goes before jumping back into the pool. Thank You for your interest. You profile is nice, but doesn't fit with my wants and needs.
I'm confident you will land that special woman soon. Thank you again and happy hunting.
I'm confident you will land that special woman soon. Thank you again and happy hunting.
Jillll: What is the kindest but most effective way to tell a guy that you're not interested?
Be honest with him and just tell him. "I am sorry but I am not interested" Simple and direct.
If a woman I am interested in does not return my interest I would prefer she tell me up front, right away. This way I would not get emotionally invested in trying to get to know her.
Be honest and straightforward but tactful. Skip the "it's not you, it's me" stuff. We actually do know that's BS.
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